Help for handling family members
Hi. I have been feeling so depressed the last couple of weeks. I am trying hard to come out of the dark mood its terrible. Well we will be traveling to calif. monday to see my sister and my husbands family. My sister is wonderful and her husband is nice but comes from a well off and educated family. He always says things to me that hurt even though my sister says he is joking and I am too sensitive. I don't think I am being sensitive just already am insecure and then when he says things I started thinking lower of myself. For example he treats me like I am slow and says things like to make me feel stupid or learning impaired. I don't handle that well and think he should treat me with respect and if he really does like me etc. why is he always putting me down in a condesending way. His sisters have done this to me in the past and are very snobby and rude. I know I need a thick skin but I feel like this must be how I come across as slow, ugly whatever. Very painful and I will have to put that happy face on even though I am hurting inside and the same goes with my in laws. They are not the warmest to me. I really want to get stronger and pray I can get through all this. Please send advice my way.
Hello.
We all know the feeling. People will not always treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I use to feel a lot of those things. What helped me was the assertive skills this program helped me learn. Don't feel like you need to take that from anybody or put on a smile. Or that this upsets you because you don't have a thick skin. Anyone would be upset If family was treating them this way. You don't need to grow thicker skin you just gotta stand up for yourself because you know you do not deserve that kind of treatment. We are all insecure and I am sure when he tries to belittle you it stems from his own insecurities or maybe he is, in Lucinda's words, a "Schmuck." Take care of yourself and communicate. It takes time and patience. You can do it. I send my prayers
God Bless and Much Love,
Eddy J
" I feared I was going to lose control. I feel better now. Not because I regained control. But because I realized I never lost it to begin with."
We all know the feeling. People will not always treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I use to feel a lot of those things. What helped me was the assertive skills this program helped me learn. Don't feel like you need to take that from anybody or put on a smile. Or that this upsets you because you don't have a thick skin. Anyone would be upset If family was treating them this way. You don't need to grow thicker skin you just gotta stand up for yourself because you know you do not deserve that kind of treatment. We are all insecure and I am sure when he tries to belittle you it stems from his own insecurities or maybe he is, in Lucinda's words, a "Schmuck." Take care of yourself and communicate. It takes time and patience. You can do it. I send my prayers
God Bless and Much Love,
Eddy J
" I feared I was going to lose control. I feel better now. Not because I regained control. But because I realized I never lost it to begin with."
" I feared I was going to lose control. I feel better now. Not because I regained control. But because I realized I never lost it in the first place."