I am seriously afraid I am going to die
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MindysHope
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I have had this fear for along time that I would die by the time I am 30, which will be in July. I have two little girls that need me. I have this almost constant pain in my left index finger that wont go away. I didn't hurt it. It's just there. All I can think of is when I was in high school our wrestling coach got cancer in his hand, had it amputated and within a year it was all through his body and he passed away. I am seriously considering a full body scan, everything because I am so afraid that something is killing me as I write this. Does anyone else ever feel like this?
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Guest
Hi Mindy:
Welcome to the forums. Have you ordered the the program program yet? The program is great, it is worth every penny if you do what it says and take it seriously. There are many, many people on here who can relate to what you are feeling. It is very common with anxiety.
You have to realize that your fear of dying by a certain age is just a thought...there is no truth to it. We think our thoughts are reality, but they are only thoughts.
What happened to your high school coach with cancer in his hand seems like a freak occurrence. I truly doubt this is happening to you, or will ever happen to anyone you know again. But why don't you go see your doctor, so that he or she can reassure you that it is probably something completely normal or at least very common and definitely not life-threatening.
Good luck.
Welcome to the forums. Have you ordered the the program program yet? The program is great, it is worth every penny if you do what it says and take it seriously. There are many, many people on here who can relate to what you are feeling. It is very common with anxiety.
You have to realize that your fear of dying by a certain age is just a thought...there is no truth to it. We think our thoughts are reality, but they are only thoughts.
What happened to your high school coach with cancer in his hand seems like a freak occurrence. I truly doubt this is happening to you, or will ever happen to anyone you know again. But why don't you go see your doctor, so that he or she can reassure you that it is probably something completely normal or at least very common and definitely not life-threatening.
Good luck.
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Guest
I don't have that but what I obsess is that I'm getting ready to have a breakdown and not be able to work. Like if I have another panic attack I won't be able to stop and I'll get so bad I won't be able to function.
I used to think I was going 'crazy' but now that I've been convinced it's really not that, I changed it to something else.
It's always a good idea to get a check-up, but I'm not sure that your doctor would do a full body scan if nothing else shows up.
It's hard to convince ourselves of things when they are not logical, isn't it? It's like telling someone with a fear of snakes that it's OK to hold a non-venomous snake. They know it cant hurt them, but they're scared anyway.
I do think you should see a doctor and see what they can do to releave your fears. Then once they do. . . BELIEVE THEM.
I used to think I was going 'crazy' but now that I've been convinced it's really not that, I changed it to something else.
It's always a good idea to get a check-up, but I'm not sure that your doctor would do a full body scan if nothing else shows up.
It's hard to convince ourselves of things when they are not logical, isn't it? It's like telling someone with a fear of snakes that it's OK to hold a non-venomous snake. They know it cant hurt them, but they're scared anyway.
I do think you should see a doctor and see what they can do to releave your fears. Then once they do. . . BELIEVE THEM.
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Guest
I know exactly how you feel. I know that what I have is anxiety and panic attacks but I just don't know how to control it anymore. I missed work again today. And my job is not even stressful. But I just get this dizzy spells and I hate that. When that happens is like everything I learned in the program goes out the window. I can't even calm myself down to remember what I'm suppose to do. I know they wont hurt me physically but I tell you they might as well. They are as debilitating as any other serious illness. I wish it would all stop. And I can be normal just like everyone else.
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sleeplessMom
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what is normal anyway? One thing for me is I don't let myself give in to it. If I have something scheduled like work or an outting, I FORCE myself to go. then once I get there I'm usually a lot better. Very rarely do I find otherwise. . . and you'll feel better if you don't give in to the "boo monster" LOL
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Guest
It's good to know I am not alone, though I don't wish these feelings on my worst enemy. I just can't shake the fear though, my finger seriously hurts all the time and I didn't do anything to it. It blows my mind how petty this is, but when you have this anxiety thing it just magnifies everything a million times. Is it stupid to say to the doctor please just run tests do a complete body check, ease my mind before I go crazy! I am so afraid I will leave my two girls behind. The thing that makes it all worse is my daughter has a friend whos mom passed away in kindergarten, and then in first grade she had a little girl in her class who has cancer, I guess just the reality of anything can happen to you makes it all worse. I have nothing but faith in God, but going through all of this kind of puts a block up to Him and that makes me feel like I am not putting all the faith I have in Him.
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Guest
Dear Mindy'sHope:
I really feel for the fears you are experiencing these days. It can certainly feel really bad.
But perhaps I can add to the 'Hopeful' parts of your thoughts.
You have been remembering the little girl who's mom died early on and the little girl who has cancer. You may be dwelling on that and making yourself afraid. Therefore your THOUGHTS are making you ill.
Did you know tht you can switch those thougts.
So many people have lived to an old age. Some of them have accomplished some great things.
Why not think about people who have LIVED. You can do it.
Did you know that we program our brains? And its our thoughts that tell us to feel fear. Or joy.
The program tells us this too.
Living in this pesent moment helps. Instead of anticipating your 30th birthday , think about THIS day.
It is Mom's Day, but think about what you can do THIS day to promote harmoney in your little family. Try to get away from the 'me' thoughts.
I have lived for over 80 years, Mindy'sHope, and you might too. But the only way I could live that life was ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I've survived all sorts of thing but only one day at a time.
I did't always enjoy the moment. Oh no! I had depression and anxiety some of those years.
Let's just say I wasted a lot of time living in fear.
But I lived on.
So what I'm saying to you is, don't waste any of the time alloted to you.
Live it fully ONE MOMENT AT A TIME.
And give thanks all the time. Gratitude is a good antidote to fear. A grateful heart can't feel so much resentment and fear .
Wishing you contentment this moment.
MJ
I really feel for the fears you are experiencing these days. It can certainly feel really bad.
But perhaps I can add to the 'Hopeful' parts of your thoughts.
You have been remembering the little girl who's mom died early on and the little girl who has cancer. You may be dwelling on that and making yourself afraid. Therefore your THOUGHTS are making you ill.
Did you know tht you can switch those thougts.
So many people have lived to an old age. Some of them have accomplished some great things.
Why not think about people who have LIVED. You can do it.
Did you know that we program our brains? And its our thoughts that tell us to feel fear. Or joy.
The program tells us this too.
Living in this pesent moment helps. Instead of anticipating your 30th birthday , think about THIS day.
It is Mom's Day, but think about what you can do THIS day to promote harmoney in your little family. Try to get away from the 'me' thoughts.
I have lived for over 80 years, Mindy'sHope, and you might too. But the only way I could live that life was ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I've survived all sorts of thing but only one day at a time.
I did't always enjoy the moment. Oh no! I had depression and anxiety some of those years.
Let's just say I wasted a lot of time living in fear.
But I lived on.
So what I'm saying to you is, don't waste any of the time alloted to you.
Live it fully ONE MOMENT AT A TIME.
And give thanks all the time. Gratitude is a good antidote to fear. A grateful heart can't feel so much resentment and fear .
Wishing you contentment this moment.
MJ
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Guest
I too can relate to this feeling. It is very scary and I can say to you that it is just anxiety but in reality it isn't that easy.
I also have scary thoughts of death. Death is my anxiety. I am almost always thinking about this ache or that ache or am I having a heart attack. I always have thoughts about my family after I have passed away (very weird). So please know that you are not alone. If you need to talk to me please feel free to PM me.
I also have scary thoughts of death. Death is my anxiety. I am almost always thinking about this ache or that ache or am I having a heart attack. I always have thoughts about my family after I have passed away (very weird). So please know that you are not alone. If you need to talk to me please feel free to PM me.
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Guest
I'm with you guys... so hopefully it helps to know you're not alone, Mindyshope.
In fact, I don't come here *to this site* often because when I do I feel anxious - which for me always means some physical symptom. I've been through tons of medical testing and while I do have things wrong, they're usually not life-threatening. I'm sure I'm dying all the time. And by the way, for me, I don't read ANYthing medical or else I'll get the symptoms (if I don't have them already).
In fact, I don't come here *to this site* often because when I do I feel anxious - which for me always means some physical symptom. I've been through tons of medical testing and while I do have things wrong, they're usually not life-threatening. I'm sure I'm dying all the time. And by the way, for me, I don't read ANYthing medical or else I'll get the symptoms (if I don't have them already).