Laziness

brandonmississippi · Post by **brandonmississippi** » Tue Jul 06, 2010 4:00 pm

I'm very very lazy. I'd rather take a nap than clean house. I also like procrastonation. It feels good to put things off. Later, however, it makes me feel like a disorganize slob who doesn't care about being alive. I am a recovering drug addict, also. I tend to want to feel good as much as I can, so i'll over eat severely and just forget about all my priorities. Then the guilt comes back, along with the slob thoughts, and depression. Viscous cycle, I know. It just feels so good to put things off and not have to worry about them. I try to make myself do things sometimes, even when I don't want to. I just get burned out on doing things I don't want to do, like I can't see the purpose. Can anyone relate? Any tips to help keep me motivated?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 06, 2010 5:49 pm

Oi i used to beat myself up soooo much for this problem and I would carry so much guilt and guess what, that kind of guilt made me feel really bad. It created alot more stress and guess what happens when we become really stressed, we go back to our ingrained habits or the routine we are so used to doing.

What you say feels good only feels good because you are telling yourself it feels good. I don't know if you have looked at the cognitive distortions within Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but there is one main one that shows up alot when it comes to an addiction and yes the drug addiction and the putting off are similar. That cognitive distortion is called Mental filter.

Do you have thoughts like "I'll feel better if i don't do this?" or "I'll only feel aweful doing that?" I bet the first one has come up with the drug addiction. The thing that keeps people stuck in these addictions are thoughts like that. See they will tell themselves that they will get all this pleasure and will totally disregard that it might cause them more pain or disregard that they might get more pleasure in finishing something that needs to get done.

The best tips I would say is to write down the thoughts when you see something you need to get done and don't do it and then work through them. You can post them up here and we can help you as well.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 08, 2010 1:12 pm

I'm not sure if it's "laziness" or just no energy....I just know that it IS depression. I have the same problem.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 08, 2010 1:32 pm

I think in my case, it's mainly just no motivation. It's like why would I want to wake up saturday morning and go work on a house when I could sleep late, and wake up and eat oreos, then go back to bed. It's messed up, I know, but it's like there's nothing good ahead of the day, so it makes me not want to do anything.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jul 09, 2010 5:39 am

I know exactly how you feel....I would rather sleep than anything. I know that it's not healthy. Are you on the program? How long? I've been on it for 2 weeks but don't feel any better.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jul 10, 2010 4:59 pm

I stayed in bed today until 2:00 pm!! Just didn't want to get out of bed. It was a beautiful day----sun shinning----but didn't want to get up. Spend the rest of the day on the sofa----what's wrong with me??????

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jul 10, 2010 7:02 pm

You know, I slept in til about 2, also. I guess because it was Saturday, and I didn't want to do anything. I did, however, get up and cleaned my room after that, and it made me feel a little more productive. My advise is don't be so hard on yourself, and try to do what's best for you. I'm learning to do this, but it's not easy. Sometimes it just feels better to sleep. That is, until you wake up feeling like crap

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 11, 2010 3:05 pm

I woke up this morning about 10:00----didn't get out of the bed until 11:00. Met the girls at the pool about 12:30----had a GREAT day!! If I could spend EVERYDAY at the pool (in the sun) I wouldn't be depressed!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 13, 2010 7:04 am

I somewhat tend to think I am lazy. I dont know if you can call it that. For years I had no purpose....still really dont except I have to move out of my childhood home. I have no children, no family here for support, no money in the bank and no job...collecting unemployment thats it and I feel like crap all the time. A realestate guy is coming to see this house and list it on the market. Its my childhood home, I dont own it my brother does, he is the man with the power in my life now.
I am going to move out of state, its tough finding something when most people hate pets.
I have found that you HAVE TO HAVE A PURPOSE, SOMETHING TO KEEP YOU GOING EVERY DAY....something....no matter how little it may be, its something. My energy uplifted a little and I cleaned and straightened up a house that was in disarray for 16 years. I did it....I NEED something uplifting AGAIN to keep me interested and to keep moving on....thats the key.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 13, 2010 7:07 am

Originally posted by brandonmississippi:
You know, I slept in til about 2, also. I guess because it was Saturday, and I didn't want to do anything. I did, however, get up and cleaned my room after that, and it made me feel a little more productive. My advise is don't be so hard on yourself, and try to do what's best for you. I'm learning to do this, but it's not easy. Sometimes it just feels better to sleep. That is, until you wake up feeling like crap

Absolutely Brandon, I feel if I stay in bed, it does feel good but later on you do feel like crap all day. although I love to sleep, it just takes me away from this craphole world.