Am I ever going to get better?
I know everyone says to be patient but I feel like things are never going to get better. I just moved 2 weeks ago to Florida and I was counting on improving right away--but guess what? Your anxiety and symptoms folow you everywhere. The dizziness, numbness, and especially the unreality are really taking their toll. As you can see from some of my recent posts, I am also struggling with a variety of mixed emotions. Any support would be helpful! Anyone else have those same unreal, numbness in the body, and dizziness???
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Hi Labourg
I noticed that you are really stressing over things that may or may not have happened yet. I encourage you, and myself too, to live in the moment and to not Project so much. It's hard since we like to have everything so controlled and tied up in a nice neat little package but Life Just is NOT like that ya know? Sometime I have been so caught up in the What if's and Maybe's??? that I miss the wonderful here and Now. Just enjoy today.and your Hubby and setting up your new home and count your blessings
It will be okay , you'll see. Just keep working the program and give yourself some TLC.
Take care,
Jill~
I noticed that you are really stressing over things that may or may not have happened yet. I encourage you, and myself too, to live in the moment and to not Project so much. It's hard since we like to have everything so controlled and tied up in a nice neat little package but Life Just is NOT like that ya know? Sometime I have been so caught up in the What if's and Maybe's??? that I miss the wonderful here and Now. Just enjoy today.and your Hubby and setting up your new home and count your blessings
It will be okay , you'll see. Just keep working the program and give yourself some TLC.
Take care,
Jill~
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Labourg,
It was a big lesson for me to learn to look within instead of always focusing on the external triggers to my anxiety. For example, I used to depersonalize greatly on days that were sunny and crystal blue outside because it was a physical trigger for some trauma that I had in my past. It took a while to heal from that, and one of my therapists kept saying, "It's not outside, it's inside of you", but I didn't get it at first because I hadn't built up internal resources by way of healthy boundaries with myself and others and healthy coping skills by way of this program and other resources. About two years ago, it finally all clicked, and it's rare that I even care about the weather outside and how it's going to impact my anxiety.
Yes, you are going to get better:). I've been on here for a while. I've gotten better, and I've seen many people come and go on here who've gotten better. Yes, sometimes moving is the right thing to do and will improve your external circumstances, but no, you can't run from your anxiety that is inside of yourself. In the best case scenario, moving is exciting and a good stress, but it's one of the most stressful things that a person can do. In other words, it probably was not realistic to expect that you would move and automatically be better, and at the same time, you may have gotten out of a situation that was not healthy for you(I'm not familiar with all your circumstances), and it's just going to take time. However, I wouldn't beat yourself up for having the unrealistic expectations because like I said, it does not mean you made a bad decision. I think that realization that it's on the inside could be a major turning point for you on your path of healing. Moving is a time to pull out some major coping skills for anxiety and to be extremely patient with yourself. Please don't look at this experience as a failure, but as a great learning experience:). Are you ever going to get better? In my eyes and I'm sure in the eyes of others on here, you are already getting better.
Take care,
luvpiggy
It was a big lesson for me to learn to look within instead of always focusing on the external triggers to my anxiety. For example, I used to depersonalize greatly on days that were sunny and crystal blue outside because it was a physical trigger for some trauma that I had in my past. It took a while to heal from that, and one of my therapists kept saying, "It's not outside, it's inside of you", but I didn't get it at first because I hadn't built up internal resources by way of healthy boundaries with myself and others and healthy coping skills by way of this program and other resources. About two years ago, it finally all clicked, and it's rare that I even care about the weather outside and how it's going to impact my anxiety.
Yes, you are going to get better:). I've been on here for a while. I've gotten better, and I've seen many people come and go on here who've gotten better. Yes, sometimes moving is the right thing to do and will improve your external circumstances, but no, you can't run from your anxiety that is inside of yourself. In the best case scenario, moving is exciting and a good stress, but it's one of the most stressful things that a person can do. In other words, it probably was not realistic to expect that you would move and automatically be better, and at the same time, you may have gotten out of a situation that was not healthy for you(I'm not familiar with all your circumstances), and it's just going to take time. However, I wouldn't beat yourself up for having the unrealistic expectations because like I said, it does not mean you made a bad decision. I think that realization that it's on the inside could be a major turning point for you on your path of healing. Moving is a time to pull out some major coping skills for anxiety and to be extremely patient with yourself. Please don't look at this experience as a failure, but as a great learning experience:). Are you ever going to get better? In my eyes and I'm sure in the eyes of others on here, you are already getting better.
Take care,
luvpiggy