Move to GA Cancelled
I'm not going to GA,i cant do it,fear and Anxiety has won,i lost a great chance to be happy,im disappointed at myself,i have no faith,not in myself or a higher power,im drinking to ease the pain right now,and for this program im having 2nd thoughts,maybe this crap aint for me.i failed,and its just not a small fail.its epic.when will my time come
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Hi Yamel! Although I am brand new to this program and do not believe myself to have an extreme case! I have had a lot of changes take place in my views on things over the last 6yrs that I have been with my husband! I never used to take chances ever! At least not when it came to big things like moving and such! But I have to tell you that my husband has talked me into making 2 major moves from NC after 6 months of marriage (and I had never really been away from mom and dad)to FL. with no clue what my future would hold(including jobs)! And then a year later we moved to IL. where neither of us knew anyone(not even 1 relative)! I have to tell you I was scared but he was right although I missed my family while I lived in FL. I was still close enough to drive home if I wanted or needed to! And IL. I absolutely love the area and if we hadn't moved I never would have had our incredible daughter! I have always avoided taking any risk until I met my husband and yes it used to tick me off whenever he would push me(and still does sometimes)but now I'm glad he did because I am more willing to try new things and by doing so I am becoming a better person for it and beginning to overcome some of my own issues! So I think, you still have a little time to make this jump and I think it might be good for you! Ask your girlfriend or other friends or family to help you finish the packing and such that is left that way you don't have to do it all alone(the packing and unpacking is the worst part sometimes) and jump! I've always been a skeptic and over thinker but I really think this might be a great opportunity for you to try something new it turned out good for me and so many others too!! Let me know how things go!
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Hi Yamel - you cancelled your move to Georgia because the anxiety won, but when you cancelled your move, did your anxiety go away? I was just like you last year. I was just beside myself with the anxiety, my world got smaller and smaller because my fears closed me off.
I got the program and I worked it like a full-time job. I don't know what your situation is as far as time to do this program, but I did housework and grocery shopping with the headphones on listening to the lessons. I walked around with the Negative-to-Positive journal in my hand. The hardest thing I had to do was when I was anxious and had a panic attack was to ride it out without trying to stop it and see I was okay. This program has completely given my life back. I have gone back to work, I am now traveling again and I just did my first 5K yesterday with over 300 people and I was okay (I didn't like to be in crowds either).
Please do not give up on yourself or this program. So you are not moving to Georgia - right now. Anxiety about moving is appropriate, moving is a stressor, moving out of state is a bigger stressor. Once you get to the point in this program where you believe you are your own safe person, your world will open up for you. Squirt is right, even though you are apprehensive about leaving your comfort zone, you will be so proud of yourself for walking through your comfort zone. I know it is easier said than done - if someone told me I would be where I am today I would have never, ever believed them, but it is true. Working through the sensations of anxiety is hard, but once you see they are not going to hurt you and you got yourself through them, you will be one step further in your journey of recovering from anxiety.
I don't know if you ever looked into guided meditation, but there is an excellent one from Mary and Richard Maddux called "Emotional Ease". You can get their guided meditation on iTunes. With the meditation and this program I was able to overcome my anxiety. I still meditate daily because it is so calming.
Hang in there, you will do this. There is so much support on this site. Take Care, Lisa.
I got the program and I worked it like a full-time job. I don't know what your situation is as far as time to do this program, but I did housework and grocery shopping with the headphones on listening to the lessons. I walked around with the Negative-to-Positive journal in my hand. The hardest thing I had to do was when I was anxious and had a panic attack was to ride it out without trying to stop it and see I was okay. This program has completely given my life back. I have gone back to work, I am now traveling again and I just did my first 5K yesterday with over 300 people and I was okay (I didn't like to be in crowds either).
Please do not give up on yourself or this program. So you are not moving to Georgia - right now. Anxiety about moving is appropriate, moving is a stressor, moving out of state is a bigger stressor. Once you get to the point in this program where you believe you are your own safe person, your world will open up for you. Squirt is right, even though you are apprehensive about leaving your comfort zone, you will be so proud of yourself for walking through your comfort zone. I know it is easier said than done - if someone told me I would be where I am today I would have never, ever believed them, but it is true. Working through the sensations of anxiety is hard, but once you see they are not going to hurt you and you got yourself through them, you will be one step further in your journey of recovering from anxiety.
I don't know if you ever looked into guided meditation, but there is an excellent one from Mary and Richard Maddux called "Emotional Ease". You can get their guided meditation on iTunes. With the meditation and this program I was able to overcome my anxiety. I still meditate daily because it is so calming.
Hang in there, you will do this. There is so much support on this site. Take Care, Lisa.
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Yamel, please don't quit on yourself, GA isn't the only thing that will cause anxiety. If you think that you've relieved yourself from stress you are mistaken.
Life is full of stress whether it is a move, waiting in a line or traffic, going to a doctor, or losing a loved one.
You will ALWAYS have different stressors all your life which will trigger anxiety. If you don't learn to deal with it you will live in fear and anxiety for nothing. One day you'll look back and realize that you wasted sooo much precious time and sooo many precious moments.
Don't quit.
Don't give up.
You have to beat this thing. Take control and go over those tapes and then get out and do whatever it is that causes anxiety and get over it. The hardest step is facing it the first time, but you have the tools at your fingertips.
It's not really the anxiety that is stopping you, it's you. Don't give up.
Life is full of stress whether it is a move, waiting in a line or traffic, going to a doctor, or losing a loved one.
You will ALWAYS have different stressors all your life which will trigger anxiety. If you don't learn to deal with it you will live in fear and anxiety for nothing. One day you'll look back and realize that you wasted sooo much precious time and sooo many precious moments.
Don't quit.
Don't give up.
You have to beat this thing. Take control and go over those tapes and then get out and do whatever it is that causes anxiety and get over it. The hardest step is facing it the first time, but you have the tools at your fingertips.
It's not really the anxiety that is stopping you, it's you. Don't give up.