Increased Anxiety?

bsg321 · Post by **bsg321** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 8:24 am

Need help dealing with anxiety! I am tired of living this way. Doing the program for about 4 weeks now and don't feel any better. My anxiety is actually increasing! HAS ANYONE EXPERIENCED A INCREASE IN ANXIETY SINCE STARTING THE PROGRAM?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 8:44 am

It's completely normal to experience more anxiety when you strat the program, as well as when you continue with it. What's happenning is you're confronting your anxiety for the first time, and that in itself is anxiety producing. Don't get discouraged, keep with the program and you will eventually start feeling much better. I didn't start feeling really good about myself till week 7. Hope this helps you.

Bill

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jun 26, 2009 10:27 am

My Problem Is Gunna SOund Really Wierd But A Couple Days Ago WHen My Brother Was Awake He Said He Saw Me Dead On The Floor Nd Ever Since Then Ive Been Catchin Really Bad anxiety pls Tell Me Wat 2 Do

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:39 pm

Originally posted by bsg321:
Need help dealing with anxiety! I am tired of living this way. Doing the program for about 4 weeks now and don't feel any better. My anxiety is actually increasing! HAS ANYONE EXPERIENCED A INCREASE IN ANXIETY SINCE STARTING THE PROGRAM?

If you're anything like me, you try everything you can to stop your anxiety, to make it go away, to not think about it, etc. When my anxiety is bad, I try SO hard to get back to "normal". The program MAKES YOU think about it. You have to analyze it and really face it.

It is completely normal for you to feel more anxiety while doing the program. I have found, however, that the program works the BEST when you follow all the steps...do the homework religiously, etc. Hang in there. It will pass (I know..it's SO hard to believe sometimes).

*hugs*

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 02, 2009 10:37 am

I concur with MissGSR. Stick to the program and put in the honest effort that it asks. You won't be able to stop the great feelings from coming in. It'll change your life. I know for sure that it has changed mine in the short 4 weeks I've had and followed the program. Peace and love

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jul 06, 2009 3:52 am

I am having a hard time with the program. I feel as though I am making so many mistakes and feel more comfortable not working the program and staying home. I am actually going to social functions and feeling regret that I decided to go. I am trying not to obsess over what happened, what I said, what was said to me, etc. However, it doesn't seem to be something I can let go. I want to be able to, but am feeling STUCK!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jul 06, 2009 4:51 am

Hi bsg321,
The things you say REALLY resonate with me. A lot of times, I don't want to go to social functions because I was always obsessing over any thing I did or said and the internal dialogue was so critical because I had this unconscious expectation to be "perfect" so I couldn't relax and just feel good with myself. Now I got to the root of the problem and confronted something from my childhood and talked to the one who made me real anxious young and got closure.
Sometimes I have to force myself to go be with some people when I don't want to, but I've been just trying out speaking out my own thoughts in front of others at social functions without feeling like there is anything wrong with it because I am just being who I was created to be - a unique person. Not everyone accepts you, and now I don't care, I just relax and realize we all have something to contribute if we just get comfortable and relax. I didn't know before, but even though I was always such a caring supportive person to my friends, I never became a friend to myself, and it feels great.

I also realized I don't have to always go to a function, or I can tell others I'd be more interested in doing 'this or that' and it opens up ideas for other people, especially at family functions. It's good to know what you like and don't like and do the things YOU like, so please don't pressure yourself. But don't avoid it all either (especially if you'd like to go or do something). Remember to be good to yourself like you are to others at the social functions. Well I hope that helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jul 11, 2009 2:54 pm

Thanks everyone. I appreciate your feedback. I think it is important to not demand perfection of myself. I am feeling really insecure with myself at times, but I am hoping that there will be growth that comes from it.

As much as it bothers me to do what I usually resist, I guess going through it is the only way to break through it!