Dealing with a gravely ill parent
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Inner Peace
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My father is gravely ill and all I can think of doing is crying. I just feel so out of control and all I want to do is run and hide. I know others have had to deal with this. I'm debating whether I should continue to pray for him to get better of just prepare for his death. Any suggestions? How do you deal with this? I'm a male and feel like I need to be strong for my Mother and Sister.
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Franca.Canada
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Prepare yourself for the inevitability and pray that God will give YOU the strength to get through this very difficult time.
Just because you're a man, you don't have to be strong. Give yourself permission to fall apart if that's what you need to do -- it's okay.
And most importantly, say what you need to say (if anything) to your dad now before he goes. That way, you won't have any regrets once he's gone.
God bless you and your family.
Just because you're a man, you don't have to be strong. Give yourself permission to fall apart if that's what you need to do -- it's okay.
And most importantly, say what you need to say (if anything) to your dad now before he goes. That way, you won't have any regrets once he's gone.
God bless you and your family.
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I went through your exact situation one year ago. It's very difficult and you have my sympathy. The range of emotions can be overwhelming and , frankly, frightening for us that are prone to anxiety and depression anyway.
When you know that your Dad cannot get better, you still pray for God's mercy and for God to give you strength.
I cried like I have never cried before and still do at times when I am reminded of him (like now). I think that's OK. It's all part of the grieving process and it will actually make you feel better eventually. I'm a man also and I found that there is no shame in crying.
I tried to spend as much time with Dad as I could in his final days. We did not discuss his health at length. He knew I loved him and I knew he loved me and we just left it at that. He wanted us not to be sad at his passing which was impossible but it was comforting to know that he felt that way.
I also got comfort in hearing people tell me what a great man my Father was. Although I already knew that, it was still good to hear it from others (and, yes, it made me cry every time).
I know this is not an easy time for you. God will take your Dad to his heavenly home when the time is right and then the suffering will be over. I think of my Dad now in heaven preparing for the rest of us to join him someday.
I hope you and your family can find peace and God's blessings.
When you know that your Dad cannot get better, you still pray for God's mercy and for God to give you strength.
I cried like I have never cried before and still do at times when I am reminded of him (like now). I think that's OK. It's all part of the grieving process and it will actually make you feel better eventually. I'm a man also and I found that there is no shame in crying.
I tried to spend as much time with Dad as I could in his final days. We did not discuss his health at length. He knew I loved him and I knew he loved me and we just left it at that. He wanted us not to be sad at his passing which was impossible but it was comforting to know that he felt that way.
I also got comfort in hearing people tell me what a great man my Father was. Although I already knew that, it was still good to hear it from others (and, yes, it made me cry every time).
I know this is not an easy time for you. God will take your Dad to his heavenly home when the time is right and then the suffering will be over. I think of my Dad now in heaven preparing for the rest of us to join him someday.
I hope you and your family can find peace and God's blessings.