Why am I finding this so difficult, Need Answers!!
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hi, i was reading your post, and found I could really relate with you. my husband is in military too. I am very shy,havent made any friends this time around, I am 42, although I hate to admit that. I have two kids and I always feel alone. In fact I am sitting here with a frigin holter monitor on because few weeks ago I thought I was having a heart attack so they are trying this to see if I have any heart palpatations. I saw a informercial on tv about this program, I havent purchased it yet, I am always the sceptic but I found this forum and I am hoping it will help. Anyways I just felt like i could relate with you, especially the baseball game etc, please know I am here...if you would like to talk!
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Ms. T Bones,
Thanks again for all your help. Yes I do have the program and am working on session 3. This is my third attempt to make it through and not quit. I will be gone for awhile this summer but plan on downloading onto my mp3 so I can still listen to the sessions,etc. I want this to work and for me to come out of this darkness and be happy once again.
I have been googleing like you said and have been reading alot of great stuff. I am also reading the book What to say when you talk to yourself. Like you said we have to accept the feelings and not run from them that is hard but I am tired of being negative and miserable, and depressed.
I have also started excercising and taking vitamins and fish oil. I bought b12 yesterday to hopefully help with energy. I was taking too many naps I suppose from the depression and blah days. I started feeling as I am missing out on so much, living like this.
I went to my sons game this morning and didn't let the others bother me as much. I was so concerned about fitting in and being liked and have no control over that or other peoples feelings. I guess you could say I think I am slowly learning and catching on. I have also received an email today from my niece that for what ever reason hadn't talked to me in almost a year. That really hurt me and bothered me as I was always there for her, anyways the email was somewhat sarcastic but also sweet so maybe I should just except it and be in touch with her again.
Hey do you have any advice for a constant worrier and for getting over being a little shy. I am working on so many changes.
I can't thank you and everyone on here for the awesome support I have recieved. It's a good feeling to know there are so many who care, and we are all here for each other and to make it through this!!
I just have to shut out the negative feelings and thoughts which pop into my head and bring me down and ruin a good day. Thanks again for the encouragement and God Bless You. You truly do have a gift of helping and comforting others. Peace be with you!!
Thanks again for all your help. Yes I do have the program and am working on session 3. This is my third attempt to make it through and not quit. I will be gone for awhile this summer but plan on downloading onto my mp3 so I can still listen to the sessions,etc. I want this to work and for me to come out of this darkness and be happy once again.
I have been googleing like you said and have been reading alot of great stuff. I am also reading the book What to say when you talk to yourself. Like you said we have to accept the feelings and not run from them that is hard but I am tired of being negative and miserable, and depressed.
I have also started excercising and taking vitamins and fish oil. I bought b12 yesterday to hopefully help with energy. I was taking too many naps I suppose from the depression and blah days. I started feeling as I am missing out on so much, living like this.
I went to my sons game this morning and didn't let the others bother me as much. I was so concerned about fitting in and being liked and have no control over that or other peoples feelings. I guess you could say I think I am slowly learning and catching on. I have also received an email today from my niece that for what ever reason hadn't talked to me in almost a year. That really hurt me and bothered me as I was always there for her, anyways the email was somewhat sarcastic but also sweet so maybe I should just except it and be in touch with her again.
Hey do you have any advice for a constant worrier and for getting over being a little shy. I am working on so many changes.
I can't thank you and everyone on here for the awesome support I have recieved. It's a good feeling to know there are so many who care, and we are all here for each other and to make it through this!!
I just have to shut out the negative feelings and thoughts which pop into my head and bring me down and ruin a good day. Thanks again for the encouragement and God Bless You. You truly do have a gift of helping and comforting others. Peace be with you!!
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Tona,
That is so amazing how we do have alot in common. I suggest if you can to order the program it really is awesome and full of alot of good materials. It takes time but we can invest it if it means feeling better and learning life skills and the tools to get through anxiety, depression and panic attacks.
I also get heart palpitations alot and have told the doctor but he hasn't done anything except I did have an ekg a while ago. I have read that anxiety does cause this.
Do you feel out of place at baseball too. We can get through this it just takes alot of changes and being positive. I would love to keep in touch and be of any support to you. By the way I hated also admitting my age ha ha. I just feel so strange being shy and I am a mom ect. It is difficult and so painful. I want to overcome so much. Take care and if you can order the program I don't think you will regret it.
That is so amazing how we do have alot in common. I suggest if you can to order the program it really is awesome and full of alot of good materials. It takes time but we can invest it if it means feeling better and learning life skills and the tools to get through anxiety, depression and panic attacks.
I also get heart palpitations alot and have told the doctor but he hasn't done anything except I did have an ekg a while ago. I have read that anxiety does cause this.
Do you feel out of place at baseball too. We can get through this it just takes alot of changes and being positive. I would love to keep in touch and be of any support to you. By the way I hated also admitting my age ha ha. I just feel so strange being shy and I am a mom ect. It is difficult and so painful. I want to overcome so much. Take care and if you can order the program I don't think you will regret it.
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Hey Ali, i'm not 42 but I know EXACTLY how you feel, I would strongly recommend doing you relaxation CD religiously and keeping your diet free of sugar and caffeine, Also I don't know if Mrs Tbones told you about panicportal dot com (my period doesn't work) it really helped me ALOT and it really coincides with what buddah teaches
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Ali...You are sooo welcome. I really believe this is my mission in life!!!
In order to overcome the worrying, you really need to learn how to catch those negative thoughts, and put a stop sign in your mind's eye. Make sure to replace them with more positive and truthful thoughts. Thoughts that make you feel warm, loved, content, secure and healthy!!!
I always placed a rubber band on my wrist, and would flip it, when I caught myself thinking a negative thought!!!
Make sure to constantly check in on your thoughts throughout the day!!!! Make this your number one priority. Argue with those negative thoughts...
A thought is a thought and nothing more. Just because a negative thought pops into our head does not mean we have to believe it.
Become an observer of your own thoughts. Watch as your thoughts pass lazily by you. Label them. For instance...One negative thought might be..I think I have cancer, or some terminal disease...Observe that thought. Accept it as a thought, and don't count it as a fact. It is only a thought...nothing more...Argue with that thought...Say...Of course, I don't have cancer or any other disease...I am healthy!!!!
Do this with all your negative thoughts. They only have as much power over you, as you allow them too. Be very picky about the thoughts you choose to entertain...
You can also schedule a worry time. When a negative thought pops into your mind. Recognize it for what it is...Just a scary thought...Not a fact...An illusion...Say...I plan on thinking about this tomorrow at 12 0'clock. Just allow that thought to float by you. Nine chances out of 10, you will be thinking about something else tomorrow at 12...
We can choose which thoughts we entertain. We do have that in our power. Remember, our brain has no choice, but to believe what we tell it!!!
If you pay attention to a negative thought, then, it tends to stick to you like glue...
So, check in with those thoughts constantly, replace...replace...replace...with more positive realistic thoughts...
Do not give the negative thoughts any weight at all, and before you know it...Since, you refuse to entertain them, then, they will stop coming...
Accept that these are your thoughts, and that it is your choice what YOU decide to do with them...
May God Bless You On Your Road To Recovery...
In order to overcome the worrying, you really need to learn how to catch those negative thoughts, and put a stop sign in your mind's eye. Make sure to replace them with more positive and truthful thoughts. Thoughts that make you feel warm, loved, content, secure and healthy!!!
I always placed a rubber band on my wrist, and would flip it, when I caught myself thinking a negative thought!!!
Make sure to constantly check in on your thoughts throughout the day!!!! Make this your number one priority. Argue with those negative thoughts...
A thought is a thought and nothing more. Just because a negative thought pops into our head does not mean we have to believe it.
Become an observer of your own thoughts. Watch as your thoughts pass lazily by you. Label them. For instance...One negative thought might be..I think I have cancer, or some terminal disease...Observe that thought. Accept it as a thought, and don't count it as a fact. It is only a thought...nothing more...Argue with that thought...Say...Of course, I don't have cancer or any other disease...I am healthy!!!!
Do this with all your negative thoughts. They only have as much power over you, as you allow them too. Be very picky about the thoughts you choose to entertain...
You can also schedule a worry time. When a negative thought pops into your mind. Recognize it for what it is...Just a scary thought...Not a fact...An illusion...Say...I plan on thinking about this tomorrow at 12 0'clock. Just allow that thought to float by you. Nine chances out of 10, you will be thinking about something else tomorrow at 12...
We can choose which thoughts we entertain. We do have that in our power. Remember, our brain has no choice, but to believe what we tell it!!!
If you pay attention to a negative thought, then, it tends to stick to you like glue...
So, check in with those thoughts constantly, replace...replace...replace...with more positive realistic thoughts...
Do not give the negative thoughts any weight at all, and before you know it...Since, you refuse to entertain them, then, they will stop coming...
Accept that these are your thoughts, and that it is your choice what YOU decide to do with them...
May God Bless You On Your Road To Recovery...
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