I'm afraid to even start!

AB1978 · Post by **AB1978** » Tue Apr 14, 2009 10:08 am

Hi,

It's okay if you need to start the tapes again. I believe they were made to be used over and over again when feeling of anxiety and depression try to creep up and make you sick. I am only on CD 8 right now so far. I enjoy this program. I may have to listen to them over again from the beginning since it takes repetition for me to really get it and remember it. Anyways, my mother will be 50 next year and she thinks her life is over too. She says she is too old to exercise. She thinks she's going to die early so why bother. I believe she could benefit from the program as well for sure. I know she is depressed. She is married to a man that she shouldn't be married to and I think she has low self esteem big time. They say misery loves company. My mom just seems like she doesn't want to be alone. The fact of the matter is that she is supporting her husband who won't go to work, taking care of his kids, stays with him even after he's cheated on her, he's an alcoholic, and he verbally abuses her. So.... gosh, I wish she would leave him and gain that strength. I am doing this program because I need this program so that I can learn the correct coping strategies and have the tools to communicate better and have better self esteem. I grew up in a crazy household. My parents use to yell and scream at each other. My Dad hit my mom too. My parents cheated on one another and the only reason my Dad married my mom was because I was an accident. My mom was in H.S. when she got pregnant. Anyways, I don't want to ramble anymore. U catch my drift. You are not being selfish. Don't think that. When u take care of yourself, you can give more of yourself in a positive way. That's not being selfish.

AB1978 · Post by **AB1978** » Tue Apr 14, 2009 10:11 am

Clarification: My mother is married to a man who is not my Dad. My parents are divorced. I want her to divorce the man she is with.

ERB · Post by **ERB** » Fri May 15, 2009 8:11 am

The program can set you free from your past. Im so glad to be in the program, it makes sense. I lived my life running on empty and relying on nobody else. One day I awoke and realised how alone I was and life was just going by, I decided to get moving and embrce life again...

IntoTheFuture · Post by **IntoTheFuture** » Thu May 21, 2009 2:40 pm

I am new to this - working on it for about a month now but I had the same situation. I never even opened the box! It sat in my bedroom for literally a year before I opened it up. Now that I have I'm so happy I did. It's not hard - it's all intuitive. Get started - you'll be fine!!

Tender Care · Post by **Tender Care** » Tue May 26, 2009 1:11 pm

I would suggest that those of you who find yourselves resisting the program do a google search of Psychological Reversal and read a couple of articles there to see if it fits. Then go to www.emofree.com and learn that method and use it in conjunction with StressCenter Program. My guess is that you will benefit from the program triplefold. Good luck with it if you are game to venture into that area. If you are prone to Psychological Reversal there is probably no program or therapy that will have a positive impact without dealing with it as you go along.

OCDEditor · Post by **OCDEditor** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 2:01 pm

Yes, afraid to even start, though I have tried and failed many times! I bought this program a year ago now ... I have listened to the first 3 or 4 sessions so far, and feel like I don't know where to start now.

Since I'm already familiar with the Intro and Session 1, I feel like I can't sit through it again. But I know I need to do this program. There goes the perfectionist in me already trying to sabotage.

My new boyfriend was saved by this same program 10 years ago! He was in bad shape from PTSD-induced anxiety, at rock bottom. He told me I'm not willing to go for it yet with this because I have not hit my bottom yet. But I don't want to hit rock bottom!

I am now avoiding people, rehearsals for a show I'm in, returning phone calls, changing my career. Really, how many more years of my life can I waste because of this?

I'll read all your posts to see what you all are doing to cope with this avoidance issue.
Avoidance is my middle name!

ESTHER HAVENS · Post by **ESTHER HAVENS** » Mon Jul 27, 2009 8:45 am

I BOUGHT MY PROGRAM IN 2003 OPENED UP LOOKED THROUGH IT. SET IT ASIDE FOR 6 YEARS. I HAVE JUST READ ALL THE FIRST INFO AND I AM READY TO START LESSON 1. AND THAT WAS 2 DAYS AGO. I KNOW WITHOUT DOUGHT THIS PROGRAM WILL WORK. I NEED TO WORK IT.

Bees4me · Post by **Bees4me** » Sat Aug 01, 2009 3:05 am

Esther,

I understand your fear. But you're facing up to it and I hope you can congratulate yourself for it. I have felt that if this doesn't work, I don't know what I'll do. But how can I know if I don't try? Expect some anxiety; this is new and scary. But from the success stories I read, we have everything to gain by continuing.
Don't give up!

Les

Susan Gilbert · Post by **Susan Gilbert** » Sat Aug 01, 2009 4:34 am

Esther,

Just take it one step at a time. I suggest start with just listening to Lesson 1. When I started, I cried because it made me feel like I finally found something that could help me. It is scary but it still amazes me how it has changed my life! I like who I am and it is affecting everything in my life: relationships, finances, health, self-esteem. You are so close to starting. If you need a cheerleader, someone to encourage you along the way, email me. You have taken the first step by buying the program. Now, listen to the first lesson or just watch the first video. You can work at the program at your own pace. You will not regret it. Your are so close to bringing peace and relief to your life. Believe in yourself! It sounds like you are now ready for the next step. It might help you to write down what you want to accomplish like, start using the program by... or I want to listen to the first lesson by the end of to day. Then reread that a few times during the day. That might help you get past the initial fear or anxiety. You can do it.

christmasvalley · Post by **christmasvalley** » Mon Aug 10, 2009 3:39 am

Hello to everyone - I bought the program years ago (when it was VHS and cassette tapes!) and never got past lesson 2. This time I am determined to make it work as I feel it is my only option. A couple of you have mentioned being afraid of going into a psych hospital; don't be. I've been in twice. If you need that extra support and structure to get you headed in a good direction, that's OK. Don't let that be one more "scary thought"! It is just so good to not feel alone, and to know that all of you out there are working along with me is such a strength. I've had a stressful past 6 months which triggered my latest bout with anxiety/depression, starting with a heart attack and then my mom's declining health and family stress and my baby starting high school (!). Like some of you I am scared cause I know "the only way out is through" and I wish I could just hide my head under the covers and avoid the pain, the scary thoughts and feelings - but I know I can't. But we can do it together! Thank you to all of you for being there.