Childhood responsible for anxiety/depression???
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I too feel that childhood experiences play a part in depression. I was never aloud to show emotion, but encouraged to stuff it down. My father molested me at 13 and my mother turned on me. Causing me to stuff the whole thing deep inside. Now I live with the knowledge that neither of my sisters belive me. So I have no one to turn too. My parents are both dead and I would love to confront them
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Maude AS,
I think that you will find the book, "The Courage to Heal" a really helpful resource. However, I highly advise you to work through it with the help of a counselor who is well trained in treating survivors of sexual abuse. They do exist, but not all counselors are adept with this very sensitive issue so you have to be careful. The book deals with all of the symptoms you may have, how to handle unbelieving and invalidating family members, and addresses the issues regarding confrontation and how to deal with not being able to confront the perpetrators when he/and/or she is deceased.
Take care,
luvpiggy
I think that you will find the book, "The Courage to Heal" a really helpful resource. However, I highly advise you to work through it with the help of a counselor who is well trained in treating survivors of sexual abuse. They do exist, but not all counselors are adept with this very sensitive issue so you have to be careful. The book deals with all of the symptoms you may have, how to handle unbelieving and invalidating family members, and addresses the issues regarding confrontation and how to deal with not being able to confront the perpetrators when he/and/or she is deceased.
Take care,
luvpiggy
Yes, I agree your childhood can cause depression/anxiety. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom was abusive. Even for people who grew up in a great home, there may be constant pressures or expectations that can cause anxiety/depression as well.
If your parents weren't supportive to equip you with skills to cope with stress, anger, etc. then I do believe this all can manifest itself into anxiety/depression.
Even though you may not have the best childhood, upbringing, influences, you should not dwell on the past, nor point the blame. Yes, those things contributed to it but we must not live in resentment and regret. We must move forward to conquer our fears and overcome obstacles. Feeling guilt and regret, sadness and blaming others or certain events will not cure the anxiety/depression and holds you back from recovering sooner or at all.
If your parents weren't supportive to equip you with skills to cope with stress, anger, etc. then I do believe this all can manifest itself into anxiety/depression.
Even though you may not have the best childhood, upbringing, influences, you should not dwell on the past, nor point the blame. Yes, those things contributed to it but we must not live in resentment and regret. We must move forward to conquer our fears and overcome obstacles. Feeling guilt and regret, sadness and blaming others or certain events will not cure the anxiety/depression and holds you back from recovering sooner or at all.
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My dad is an alcoholic and I am pretty sure this is where my problems originated. Someone above mentioned the book by sam obitz on overcoming a dysfunctional past and I found it to be a simple book with solid advice. If you use the TEA form exercise in it it definitely helps you deal with your anxiety and feel better and the putting things back into perspective exercise helps you get rid of those old messages that cause your hurt in your own self-dialogue.
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I was also a former sufferer of anxiety disorder & depression, whose issues stemmed from childhood trauma & experiences. These deep seeded issues were left surpressed, unbeknownst to me, for many yr's prior to my anxiety disorder triggering in April/May 2005. You can't exactly fix what you don't know is broken. Well, lol (yes I can laugh now as Lucinda says in the program)Anxiety disorder bopped me upside my head & made me aware.
Out of the sheer cumulativeness of my experiences & long b/4 I could face myself, I needed to face my pas. I needed to unburden myself of all those negative surpressed emotions so I could FINALLY get myself to the place where I could face myself - see those negative aspects hat contributed to my ailments & muster up the courage to CHANGE THEM.
That is the GREAT THING about all this - yes, there is a silver lining to all this. I can NOW say SO WHAT. Meaning & not @ all to discount what I had been through, but so what about what had been done to me. I am ME, wonderful + great + courageous & my life is my own: how I choose to live + think + feel + act + react + love, etc. That inspite of anything they/them/he/she did to me, I recognized that I needed to change + heal + forgive & I did all those things. That I could & do love MANY in my life & this world, inspite of any & all experiences - INCLUDING MYSELF. I am not saying it was easy, I can't lie - it wasn't. However, how liberating it was to have done so.
Choosing to take the journey to heal + grow + evolve + change + recover - for I realize now that I am not defined by my past or experiences - just prepped me to be where I am right now & who I have yet to evolve into - God has great plans for me. That I am living as the woman Lenore - not the eternal victim = the sum total of my experiences.
Following Lucinda's program was key for me - it was like looking into a mirror to my subconscious self - a place I was afraid to, but yet still did. I changed in ways I never knew/thought possible. I don't fear those long ago experiences as I had for many years - I faced them & now I am in a great & unique position to say to those experiences & folks(not literally, figuratively speaking)AND SO WHAT - I won! Take a look at me now. You can too.
All my best & your friend,
LENORE
Out of the sheer cumulativeness of my experiences & long b/4 I could face myself, I needed to face my pas. I needed to unburden myself of all those negative surpressed emotions so I could FINALLY get myself to the place where I could face myself - see those negative aspects hat contributed to my ailments & muster up the courage to CHANGE THEM.
That is the GREAT THING about all this - yes, there is a silver lining to all this. I can NOW say SO WHAT. Meaning & not @ all to discount what I had been through, but so what about what had been done to me. I am ME, wonderful + great + courageous & my life is my own: how I choose to live + think + feel + act + react + love, etc. That inspite of anything they/them/he/she did to me, I recognized that I needed to change + heal + forgive & I did all those things. That I could & do love MANY in my life & this world, inspite of any & all experiences - INCLUDING MYSELF. I am not saying it was easy, I can't lie - it wasn't. However, how liberating it was to have done so.
Choosing to take the journey to heal + grow + evolve + change + recover - for I realize now that I am not defined by my past or experiences - just prepped me to be where I am right now & who I have yet to evolve into - God has great plans for me. That I am living as the woman Lenore - not the eternal victim = the sum total of my experiences.
Following Lucinda's program was key for me - it was like looking into a mirror to my subconscious self - a place I was afraid to, but yet still did. I changed in ways I never knew/thought possible. I don't fear those long ago experiences as I had for many years - I faced them & now I am in a great & unique position to say to those experiences & folks(not literally, figuratively speaking)AND SO WHAT - I won! Take a look at me now. You can too.
All my best & your friend,
LENORE
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I do not know anyone who does not have some kind of trauma or dysfunction in their lives. However, not all of them have anxiety disorder, ocd or depression. Just because you have the above does not mean it is from poor parenting, altho, it seems that most of us did indeed experience that. Look closely. You will find that we are born predisposed to these conditions. You will also find that some - even many - of your relatives have PA, OCD, depression. The tendency toward it is inherited. I believe that's why alcoholism is so prevalent in families with these disorders. We learn to manage this. We learn to live with it and survive beautifully in the world. Our parents and their parents before them did not have access to the tools we are taught today. Think of how different the world would be if they had this information.
