Death of loved ones

Luckymom59 · Post by **Luckymom59** » Tue Mar 24, 2009 7:58 am

Does anyone ever get really anxious about everyone around them dying and being left alone?
My father and brother-in-law both passed away and now I'm terrified that everyone I care about will die and leave me. I know this is not normal but it is making me really anxious. Please help

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 24, 2009 9:18 am

I feel this is a normal reaction - especially with people who are very sensitive to begin with. Don't push these feelings down. Breathe into them and understand that with time they will pass and not feel so strong. Keep yourself present as best you can. You need to keep out of your head. This is future thinking and will get you absolutely nowhere. If you are feeling anxiety from this concern, then just allow it its passage. It will eventually go away. Keep yourself busy. The rumination will eventually pass.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 1:23 pm

Hi Luckymom, one of my more memorable panic attacks came from thinking about what I would do if my husband died. Believe it or not I kept thinking over and over what if I panic when he dies, what will it feel like to be alone? Wow did I ever have myself in a state then. Every since then this is a subject I find myself dwelling on from time to time and one I definity have to stop right away. Boon is right about it being very negative future thinking, and we do not need to push these thoughts. I haven't yet found a cure for lack of a better word, but I have noticed that with the skills I am learning from the program, I am better able to stop these sort of thoughts from escalating and getting out of control. This way they seem less scary and overwhelming. Sorry I couldn't give any better help than I have, but maybe knowing other people think the same things you do will give you a little comfort. Good luck to you. Boon you gave some really good advice that I also will be using. Thanks.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 1:43 pm

Dear Luckymom...I am acquainted with this feeling very well. I have lost so many loved ones out of my life, and I do think that losing people you love brings on this fear....I just place all of my trust in the Lord, and ask his protection upon all of my family...I could not ever imagine living my life without my husband. We have been together, since, we were teenagers...It is a very scary thought, but, we just have to trust in God to take care of the ones we love. I, also, think it helps to appreciate the moments we have with them, and try our best to live in the moment. We have no idea what tomorrow holds, but, we know who holds tomorrow...Who knows...we may die before they do???? Or Jesus could come back and we could just all go together to be with Him...

I am learning to trust in God, more and more, everyday. This helps me tremendously...And, I use prayer and positive affirmations, and it helps me tremendously in all areas of my life...
I pray that God helps you to overcome this fear...God Bless!!!!