Hostile Work Enviornment?

SongWriter · Post by **SongWriter** » Wed Feb 04, 2009 1:26 pm

I have until February 20th before my job ends. But I am finding it increasingly difficult to go to my job. The one person I thought was my best friend is very hostile towards me. When I come in the morning she made a comment saying "oh you're here now I have to put up with your negativity..." Another time she rolls her eyes. Yet she it not losing her job.

She says everyone is sick of my "meltdowns." I am sure they are. I am embarrassed by them. Yet, does she remember all those arguments she had with one of the workers? No she doesn't. But that is human nature.

I am taking the next few days off. But I really think I should not go back. I have some sick days left. I don't want to use any of the vacation days because I get paid for them. However, I can't take more of this.

However, I don't want to burn a bridge with this place I work. I don't know what to do.

I set myself up for this stuff because I am so opened with people. I am confused as to what to do.

There are many other things that have been said to me that were illegal. I could have people fired or I could sue. But I don't want any trouble and I don't want to burn bridges.

She is a bully.

One more thing. I have to show my other coworker how to do certain things on the project I have done. So I have to at least go back for him.
I'm lost here.

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Wed Feb 04, 2009 2:39 pm

Hi songwriter!!! Sorry about the job thing. Work is both rewarding and challenging at the same time. I don't know what gets into people in the office environment. One thing I have learned is that you really can't have friends in the place of business. Association is fine. I was employed for several years with the State. And I discovered that because someone is nice to you doesn't mean they like you and want to take the relationship to the next level. I've seen first hand how individuals can be chummy, chummy but when a promotional job opens up, loyality fades into the sunset. It becomes one pitted against another. Before I left the job I had myself barricaded in a cubicle as far from eye shot as possible, avoiding others as much as possible. When I finally left, I was sooo happy. They're still there in that coach roach infested building, discovering that the Governor furloughed them two days a week without pay.

I know that something better will show up for you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 04, 2009 2:43 pm

Thanks SlicksPlace.
This was a school job and perfect. It had a State Pension, was 2 miles from home, and I got off the same day as my kid.

This woman has abused me verbally: I don't know how your wife puts up with you, your bipolar, and more.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 04, 2009 3:11 pm

I know, I know.. .. She is a cruel person. I understand the job has good perks. Honestly, no one deserves that kind of treatment. Did you talk to your boss? Because the woman is way out of line. Did you document what goes on there?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 04, 2009 3:22 pm

Since I am on my way out I don't want to "burn any bridges." I already was called a freak by another woman. Maybe I have issued with woman, I don't know. I threated to write a report and to go HR. I was going to let it go, but my boss had us both write up a memo to protect his butt. Nothing became of it because I was willing to let it go. The only reason it went that far was because the woman was scared and went to someone else to report it. But now this woman is on my side against the other woman.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Feb 05, 2009 1:22 am

well,

if i may indulge...

...i, too worked in a horrible work environment (one co-worker who was always a b!tch towards everyone reported me to HR because i did not say 'hi' to her). daily harrassment from coworkers, supervisors, and managers while constantly being threatened with your job if your performance was anywhere beneath the unrealistic goals set (so, basically no one was secure).

and this is the work environment; we also had to deal with customers in negative situations (which is stressful enough).

why a business would choose to allow such a negative work environment, i do not know. how much money is spent in training, equipping employees with the tools to do the job, then to allow a poisonous environment to force said investment (the employee) to walk out the door.

it baffles me.

but hey, after getting bailouts the banking industry still felt inclined to give all of its failed executives bonuses; ofcourse that was due to (ahem)...contractual...obligation...ofcourse.

but i digress.

you mentioned 2/20 is your last day. ah, today is 2/5. that is only 11 more working days. i know that it is painful, but after 2/20 you are never going back there, right?

can you find a way to make it 11 more days (and there are 3 fridays in there!)?