I don't know who I am..
I don't know who I am..
I don't know what I am doing in life. I really don't know who I am. I think to myself that I have to remember the things that I gabber to do so I can keep doing it. For example I have to do something so I can talk good to people. I don't know why nut talking to people is hard for me I always want them to like me. I want to be the bet at anything I do. I want too be funn I was really a likeable person.I always want to be funny because it makes me feel better. I just want to enjoy the things I do. Even texting with people I think to much about what I said and end up saying something that's not cool it makes me think and puts me down. It sounds dumb but I don't know why I think of stuff like this.
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Iwillbebetter
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Re: I don't know who I am..
it doesn't sound dumb. I can understand where you are coming from/what you are saying. That is the people pleaser in you. I have recenlty realized I have spent so much of my life trying to make others happy, I don't really know who I am anymore. As hard as it is to remember, not everyone is going to like you all of the time, and that's ok. What really matters is that you like yourself!! You can NOT make others happy, you can only control your happiness!! 
"Only rainbows after rain, the sun will always come again, and it's a cirlce, circling around again it comes around again...."
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tina martin
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Re: I don't know who I am..
Am so happy to see you IWBB. Have been hoping you are managing your move and adjusting. A big job, I know.
How many of us know who we are? I'd like to meet them. There is such a condition as ISS (Identity Suppression Syndrome) that I've been working on for years. Will never give up. Realize I must work on it every day, have plenty of company. Together we can get there.
How many of us know who we are? I'd like to meet them. There is such a condition as ISS (Identity Suppression Syndrome) that I've been working on for years. Will never give up. Realize I must work on it every day, have plenty of company. Together we can get there.
Re: I don't know who I am..
I agree that a lot of us don't really know who we are. Sometimes, I feel that who I am changes day to day and who I am with. I think it is a process. When you've spent your whole life trying to please others and fit in, you tend to lose your identity.
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lucy knepp
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Re: I don't know who I am..
I agree totally. With me, I lived all my life looking to others for validation. Looking for approval and acceptance. Looking UP to others and putting myself down. I really want to stop doing that and actually I feel like I am making progress. 
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tina martin
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Re: I don't know who I am..
My life has been lived but I refuse to have regrets. We have today and little else.
We can be, or work and aim to be, our own person now and make the most of today. Understanding the past is important, but then there is today. Do all I can not to waste one moment. Don't need to ride a crest of happiness, of thrills, of excitement. Peace and harmony with myself are enough. Have been working at this a long time. Maybe there are some results possible for anyone to seek and find and claim.
We can be, or work and aim to be, our own person now and make the most of today. Understanding the past is important, but then there is today. Do all I can not to waste one moment. Don't need to ride a crest of happiness, of thrills, of excitement. Peace and harmony with myself are enough. Have been working at this a long time. Maybe there are some results possible for anyone to seek and find and claim.