Wish I could get that "desire" back

[Iwillbebetter]

I don't know where it went, I still have the "want" to change, but somehow I seem to have lost the "desire". I am still listening to the discs and doing the work. Reading books. I just don't seem to have the passion, drive, desire, that I had before. I am hoping it comes back. Wondering if anyone has any advise on how to go and get it back, instead of sitting and waiting for it to come back!
Eitherway, I know I can't give up. I will continue on!!

[tina martin]

Not at all sure I can help much because there will be ups and downs and in betweens. It is not all smooth sailing, necessarily. How to stay the course? I come from a different time. Observing the culture of today I cannot help but sometimes shudder. Am relieved my son and daughter are grown. It is as if life must be lived on some constant, steady "high" of emotions, passions pitched to a frenzy, excitement we in the past tried to keep in check, or so it seems to me. I'm hoping someone far more observant than me will study and assess the impact of all that technology on us little humans. As the saying goes, "All that glitters is not gold," or so I think.

Look at your sweet, dear children. Their beautiful faces and smiles will revive your motivation. I work at exercise and meditation every day. Try to recondition my mind from negatives to positives every day. It is a daily effort. Easy, slowly, steady will get you there.

[Iwillbebetter]

That is deffinatley true it is not smooth sailing!! I guess I tend to forget that sometimes, and think there should be more ups than downs. Or I should be able to rid myself of the downs faster. Guess I should get my head out of the clouds
I guess it is inpart also where I'm at. There are so many things to work at. So many things I am seeing about myself for the first time. Some good, but others not so good. But you can't work to change it if you don't see it. I guess I have just seen more than I thought I would or wanted to.
Yes the exercise is another thing I need to get back to. I haven't been as good at that. I guess maybe some of the desire has faded with that. Keeping at it does help so much. I guess sometimes it just seems like so much... but I just have to keep at it no matter...
Thank you for your response, it was more helpful that you think

[LyndaLu]

dear iwillbebetter: I know exactly how you feel. I felt like that the moment I was going to start

Session Five ( about diet and exercise ). Suddenly I did not want to work on the program anymore

because I knew I would fail at Session Five, I just knew it. But one day it just clicked and I decided

to exercise and to go on a short walk outside. I surprised myself when I went on the walk because

I never move my body at all. Then today I surprised myself by going to the grocery store and buying

foods that are good for me, versus everything with sugar in it ( I love sugar ). Just take life and the

program one day at a time. So, you may not do anything with the program for a week, don't give up

on it entirely. When the desire comes back, start on it again. Take it day by day. I had some good

days last week when my relatives were visiting, but now I am feeling down and tired and don't want

to do a thing....such a contrast ! Like there is no middle ground, either I am up and feeling active

or really down and doing nothing. Think of all you have accomplished so far, that is what I am going to

do. This is my second time working on the program and I am going to finish it this time with

a better understanding of myself and the world around me. Don't give up now, you have come

so far !

Lynda

[Iwillbebetter]

Lynda, thank you for your response I think that is part of it, I kinda lost my way. I was slacking a bit in many area's of working on the program. I think also the expectations that I should have more ups than downs. The ups should last longer than the downs. I should be able to get myself out of the downs by now.... I was shoulding to much lol
Over the past couple days I have gotten back into it. I am back to my reading (What to say when you talk to yourself... recommended by program) I did some yoga the other day... went for a walk the evening before... it might not be as strong as before, but that is ok. I have it back!
I am so glad to have such wonderful people here to offer advise and support!! We all need it sometimes!!

thanks again

[LyndaLu]

dear iwillbebetter:
I have been in a slump for the past few days too. I have all of the resources here at my fingertips
to help me along the way to feeling better, but I just have to open that book or listen to that
CD to get me going again. I guess I have been having those expectations that are too high again,
instead of the ones that are rational, realistic and reasonable ! Having some relatives visit recently
sort of put me off track, because I did not work on the program for at least 4 days. Then after
that I did nothing also. Well, this week Tuesday is gonna be my "first day of the week" , instead
of Sunday, because on Tuesday I am going to be working on Session Six FOR SURE.
Lynda Lu

[Iwillbebetter]

Lynda, it's amazing how hard it can be to get "back into it" after taking a few days off. This really is a 2 steps forward 1 step back kind of thing. Just gotta keep keeping on even if we don't have the "desire" we still have the want and we can use that to keep us going until the "desire" comes back!! I know I should have started session 9 but I've been busy with Easter, and we are suppose to be moving at the end of the month.... but we are still looking for a place. I am working on starting to pack. I still have to get my boyfriend and my taxes done. Only a week left for that. Even though I haven't been able to do the program as I would like. I am still reading daily and journaling every few days. I'm trying to still keep my head in that frame of mind.

[LyndaLu]

Moods: Research seems to support the idea that most "bad moods" are preventable, or at least fairly easy
to repair in a relatively short period of time.

Steps:

1. Trace the mood, if there is something that you can do about the source-DO it; if not, choose
your attitude ( make it postive ).
2. List positives in your life.
3. Exercise.
4. Socialize.
5. Seek humor.
6. Do something nice for someone.
7. Change your environment.
8. Enjoy the arts.
9. Spend time in a natural setting
10. Speak to yourself as if you were speaking to a beloved friend.

This is from Session Two.

Lynda Lu

[lucy knepp]

I agree that you need to stay involved , keep busy, eat right, fill your mind with positive sights.........look at a child's face. Sometimes, though, you get stuck...........just plain stuck in that gloom and doom and no motivation mental state. That's when I guess we just "wait" "This too shall Pass."
Lucy