crying at work

[Clarysage]

This is my week two. I am under a tremendous strain at work. Lot's of changes and more pressure. My hours are cut. Just so upset over it all. Do not feel any support

[Gigi123]

Clarysage, I've been where you've been before. It can definitely be difficult. But this too will pass. I had several part time jobs prior to my current position and hours were cut often. I know how frustrating that can be, especially when you really need the money. I know the economy is in poor shape, but try and do what you can, continue to look for work, update your resume, these things will make you feel a more in control of the situation. As much as we would like to have support from others, sometimes we need to support ourselves and give ourselves positive messages. Sometimes when I'm sitting at my desk at work, I tell myself what a good job I'm doing and how lucky they are to have me. I rarely get praise but I know I'm a good worker and it makes me feel better to remind myself of that. I hope you're able to ride this out, I'm sure good things are around the corner.

[Clarysage]

Thank you so much. Today will begin my week three. I have been diligent with listening to the CD's and following direction. It has been very difficult during this transitional time at work. I'm not familiar with this computer posting stuff either and was worried that no one would reply. I feel I'm in a tremendous amount of pain right now. I have been suffering for a long time not knowing what is wrong with me. My anxiety is the dominant problem and the last two days I have been down in the dumps over this job situation. And my Mother is coming to visit next week. Just not up to it all. It all feels too much.

[Gigi123]

You sound very overwhelmed at the moment. Like I've said, I've definitely had many periods in my life when I've felt that way and I'm sure there are more to come. Everyone experiences moments where this just so much going on, whether you're dealing with family problem, money issues, work issues, the list goes on. So the key is really not to eliminate these situation because that's near to impossible, the goal is to survive or eve thrive during these moments of madness. Remember the positives, you did a great job of posting here, so obviously you have the real hang of this "posting" thing. I've had MANY jobs where when I started, I had no idea what I was doing or how to do it. Scary and stressful indeed! But every single time, I'd master that job, sometimes it took a few months, sometimes up to a year (at least!) Allow yourself to "float" in this new job and expect that you will make mistakes at times but things will get easier

Try and deal with one thing at a time. My therapist once likened it to sitting down at a dinner table and thinking about every meal you had to eat that week. You're only going to eat one meal at a time and you can only really deal with one issue at a time.

Could you talk to your mom about delaying her visit? Perhaps you need a little time to yourself at the moment and this isn't the best time for her to come down.

[Clarysage]

Thank you so much again. I have felt very overwhelmed. Today was a much better day. Today is day one of session 3. I was up early this morning and listened to the CD. It really helps a lot. I find it amazing that I have been struggling with this anxiety problem almost my entire life and am only now seeing it. People would accuse me of being a worry wart and I said no I'm not! And the negative thinking is incredible. It is amazing to me that we can be so self destructive just within our own heads.
By the way you sound very good like you are a professional.

[Gigi123]

You're welcome. You're too kind!,hehe I'm only 27 but I've suffered from anxiety forever. It runs rampant throughout my family, my dad, my sisters, brothers, you name it. I see it more and more now in my dad than I ever use to before as a kid. He was well into his 40's when he finally discovered through the program that he was suffering from anxiety. I can totally relate to you because I found out around age 20 and thought, wow, I'm not crazy, there's actually a name for this. I finished the program several years ago but I listen to my cds all the time and you're right, they're so helpful. I pull out different session depending on what I'm facing. Just the other day I felt like my expectations in my relationship were a little out of whack, so I'll listen to the cd on expectations or I was having some assertiveness problems with my parents and pulled out cd #9 to deal with the guilt I was feeling. But I would recommend doing the cds from start to finish without skipping around (at least the first time through)
Well this a great support board and I think the program will bring a lot of great things to your life.