"What if" thinking

[Loveslife]

Love to all.
Hip hip hooray and YAY!!!! BB made it outside today. That is a HUGE accomplishment.

Please God let me make it through tonight's night shift. It is my last one for a few days. After tonight my shift will be 4pm-12midnight. Much easier.

Please let me handle it with GRACE. I am exhausted. I think I will be tested tonight and given a code red alarm, and a cardiac arrest alarm. Yikes.

He accused me of meeting a boyfriend at work. what else is new. I don't care. I have to stay focused. (I almost typed "stray") Tina will appreciate that freudian slip. I won't stray. I just want to work. I'm off to work now. 12midnight - 8am. Yuck.

Peace to all.

Love to all.

[tina martin]

Lordy Lord, what a fine morning. BB is going to turn into our marathon walker, J (LL) is going to save the patients in the hospital, Paislee is going to put up boundaries, and SoWhatIf (R) has shown up in the What If thread. What could be better? A snow storm (so dry). No doubt there are fires (not nearby), but I have turned the TV OFF. Stress from the news is making me sick, no, sicker.

J, I'd tell the Old Boy that if he wants to be in the running he needs to learn how to compete in:

Behavior
Manners
Consideration
Taking out the garbage
Earning a good living
Grooming
Building muscles

And this with a deep voice and stylish black leather whip. March 23 must be a good day on the Zodiac.

[Paisleegreen]

Hey, you guys have made my day! J (LL) I hope you do great tonight on the night shift! Your next shift sounds much better and manageble. I've done the shifts from 4:00PM to Midnight, much better, and done the other shifts only by raising children.
But the night shift you started training in is what my DH has been doing for 20 years and we are like ships that cross in the night, so when his working hours changed and I became an "Empty Nester" that's when more problems showed up.

I was so use to my night's free and my days sort of free as well and I was in "charge" of the household, just as WhatIf says, I have lost my "authority" around here and it stinks! Now I have a an almost 20 year old taking over my "turf" and DH still ignoring my "requests". So that's why I have put up the boundaries of "control" in the main bedroom. DH has to sleep in the guest room as long as he is going to snore and not go see a DR about it or lose some weight. He could work on losing some weight by cutting back the sweets, he isn't getting any younger as well.

Anyway, I'm waiting for DH to talk to DS about his schooling, dishes and toe nails. He makes the excuse that DS is sleeping and is going places so he doesn't have a chance to talk to him. I tell him to make an appointment with DS or just tell him you want to have a "meeting" a Father/Son meeting. I think DH doesn't want to ruffle DS's feathers because he does so much for us Well, I haven't seen him do that much that isn't reciprocated double or triple by us.

Eventually, this son is going to move on and we are going to have to hire other people to do what this son does. So it sort of is a balancing act on give and take, while this kid matures and we, DH and I, prepare for the time he is not going to be around to work on our computers, wire up electrical outlets, redo our sprinkler system, fix things wrong in our work vans or everyday vehicles and eventually move on to work in his own field of knowledge instead of our business.

Hey, I tested the color portion of posting here. Yippee, I did something new while still sick with a cold, but thinking better! Paislee

Thanks for all your comments, I appreciate hearing from all of you. F, T, J and BB. I'll be back...

[SoWhatif]

Hope you gals are feeling better.

P, you dropped the hammer on the loosening house nails, WOW YOU GO GIRL, congrats and best wishes at taking charge.
I think you will succed and thrive on the long term outcome.
Sorry I do not have the talent to use words that are not so sharp. I know only to deal with facts everything else just mucks up the water for me. Feelings can change, facts do not. Again congrats on putting your train back on the tracks.
Here is a tune that may help.
http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/ ... FORM=VIRE2

Tina , Are ya feeling better, we got no time for flu's?

[SoWhatif]

BB, How are ya? Are you up and running?

[bklynbee]

Good Morning,
Been doing a little bit better...yesterday I went out 2 times with my dogs so thats a good thing but this morning I am just feeling crappy...i feel so tired because i cant seem to sleep past 5am so im hoping if i take a little nap i will feel better when I wake up...just keep telling myself take it day by day....how is everyone else doing? hopefully good!

[tina martin]

BB, here I go with self inventions. If you can think of something nice about yourself or what you may look forward to in the day, waking up may take a better turn. Just a thought.

Those cold buggers are battling it out. I come out with all my ammo and they flee. Then return. Keep hammering away at them. The battle is not quite over, but I anticipate victory shortly. Your interest has them scampering. Thanks for the help.

[Loveslife]

Hi BB. I hope you were able to get out today, even for a short time. You are doing so much better, and we applaud you for all of your achievements, no matter how big or how small.

Tomorrow is another day for you.....

I rested today because tomorrow I work the 2nd shift. 4-12 midnight. I also went back to the Chiropracter and the beauty salon.

I only say this because 1 year ago I truly was where you are today. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm thinking of broaching the topic of moving to Florida to my daughter, and am petrified. She might see though that a change and chance to be on my own is right for me, no matter how scared I am.

So, I'm just putting one foot in front of the other too. One bruised foot that is healing nicely.

Peace .....

[bklynbee]

Thank you for all of your advice....today I was very productive considering I felt like crap this morning...walked the dogs twice and did a lot of house cleaning....maybe tomorrow I can get out and go do something fun for myself...we will see..I hope all of you have a great night!

[Loveslife]

I'm sorry If I sound like I'm giving you advise. I don't mean to. I'm merely trying to help you. Seriously, take what helps you and leave the rest.

I hope your day is lovely tomorrow.

J.