How do u stay focused?

Stressed Momma · Post by **Stressed Momma** » Sat Jan 03, 2009 2:42 pm

I am so easily distracted to where I don't feel like doing the program anymore. Why i don't know. I have left it out so it will remind me to do my homework and listen to my tapes. But I still go through the day sometimes depressed or have my anxiety act up. My biggest issue is the depression. How do I overcome that and build up my self esteem?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 03, 2009 6:39 pm

Hello,

My agoraphobia has been so bad that I've been housebound for the past 2 1/2 months. Given this, I obviously have a lot of motivation to continue working on the program. More than anything, I want to break free from anxiety. I'm ready to start living life to the fullest. I feel that after almost 20 years of anxiety that I've missed sooooo much. I can tell you that I'm on Week 2 and already starting to feel better. I can only imagine what I'm going to be accomplishing in a few weeks. Ultimately, I think that the more someone puts into something, the more they;re going to get out of it.

Good Luck To All,

~Bridgette~

ooc · Post by **ooc** » Sun Jan 04, 2009 12:11 am

stressed momma I am exactlly where you are I have never finished the program I have only listened to the tapes read a little in the workbook journaled a little you can't expect to get better doing that I wonder some times if I want to get better I have had this for 30 years I need to do a lot of soul searching there is something allowing me to not try to get better I have a grandchild on the way

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Sun Jan 04, 2009 8:12 am

My biggest problem is procrastination. I felt really bad because I could not complete the program in a week. But after I talked to a counselor she said I don't have to finish it in a week. So that made me feel better.

Now to answer your questions, my mind usually wonders with whatif thoughts. Well today for the very first time, I tried something new. The preacher was speaking I close my eyes and saw the words he spoke. I know it sounds weird. But my thoughts did not go into what if mode.
I don't know why (I don't need to know why) I saw words in my mind. But it work for me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jan 04, 2009 9:14 am

Hi Stressed Momma,
My challenges, when I began, were the same as yours. Discipline, like everything we learn in life, takes time and effort to become proficient at!
We tend to have unrealistic expectations - especially about ourselves. Give yourself a Break and Lighten Up on yourself.
Start with small steps and give yourself time to adapt to the changes. Say "This is a Process". And don't allow any negative thoughts to creep in! (Like... "I should be done by now!” This kind of thinking is a real NO-No.)
Listen to the advice on the cd's and try them in your life. Investigate the Workbooks. Progress at Your Own Speed, because you are right where you are supposed to Be!
The Self Esteem will come, with time, as you Progress through the Program and the lessons you will learn in your own Life.
Keep going - you will do fine! Steve

Inna · Post by **Inna** » Mon Jan 05, 2009 5:03 am

I wanted to say thank you for everyone's advice. and to let you know since this post I have been feeling better. I'm changing the way I eat, starting to exercise more and keep myself fit. I guess all it takes is some guidance and one day at a time.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 06, 2009 12:36 pm

I am having a horrible time focusing on anything. I have a trip coming up next week to visit my family and I haven't seen them since for over 20 years. I just started talking to them on the computer last year.

I am terrified of the plane and the family

derfy · Post by **derfy** » Thu Jan 08, 2009 8:42 am

The relaxation tapes should help you calm down, then you can focus better.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 10, 2009 4:33 am

Thank thanks I just got into a huge fight with my roommate an hour ago and if I didn't have this program to help me control myself I would still be fuming.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 3:03 pm

Trisho,

The family is what it is nothing you do will change them so relax and take it in stride. My wife is a Flight Attendant and said she has had many people on her flights who feel the same way you do and they Always make it to there destination don't fret!! Keep in touch and hang in there live in the moment!