Have you ever felt like this?Its hard to muster up motivation?
Well a new year and I am still as unmotivated as ever, I have so much I want to change I don't know where to start, I want rid of anxiety and depression, I want to get out an exercise, I want to give up smoking, I want to lose weight, I just can't find any motivation for any of it. Have you ever felt like this?
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Yes. Year after year I feel like this. I made a point that this year will be the year of change. I know it's probably going to be the most difficult year of my life, but I believe by the end of 2009, I'll be where I need to be in order to live the rest of my life the way I want to. Hopefully you can find a reason to move on.
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DJ, I am sorry to hear about your lack of motivation. Sometimes motivation happens just by doing. Would it help to write your goals for the New year and try and prioritize what you really would like to accomplishment. Break everything down to babysteps and try to spend a few minutes doing something positive to achieve your goal. Sometimes just the thought of having to do so many things can be overwhelming and you just don;t know where to start.
Try and acknowledge even the smallest of steps towards reaching your goals. It will help you feel so much better about yourself.
Everey day is a brand new day and we need to see it like a brand new year. Good luck and God Bless,
Try and acknowledge even the smallest of steps towards reaching your goals. It will help you feel so much better about yourself.
Everey day is a brand new day and we need to see it like a brand new year. Good luck and God Bless,
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Carolyn Dickman
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Hello everyone,
I'm still very new to this, including this forum, but I realized last week that motivation is probably one of my biggest issues. I used to be pretty creative, but life has taken its toll. Recently, I was put into a position where I have the time I always thought I needed to accomplish what I wanted. But I'm finding I'm all tied up in knots. I tackled a few projects and actually completed one, knitting socks of all things. Never did that before. But that was simple. Just follow the instructions and do it. I got together with a few ladies who get together once a week at a book store and knit. They are helping me out.
But completing the really creative things is another matter. I'm finding I cannot get past reading about it. I wanted to paint again and a friend encouraged me by sending a whole box full of supplies to get started. To date I have not picked up a brush except to put it in a box. I'm actually afraid I will enjoy it too much and it will become an obsession for me taking me away from other really important things. I finally realized that....I guess that is one big step in the right direction. I also want to write and have started several times but burn out within a short time. Those are my biggies....would love to see some improvement in those areas and overcome all the negativity.
I'm still very new to this, including this forum, but I realized last week that motivation is probably one of my biggest issues. I used to be pretty creative, but life has taken its toll. Recently, I was put into a position where I have the time I always thought I needed to accomplish what I wanted. But I'm finding I'm all tied up in knots. I tackled a few projects and actually completed one, knitting socks of all things. Never did that before. But that was simple. Just follow the instructions and do it. I got together with a few ladies who get together once a week at a book store and knit. They are helping me out.
But completing the really creative things is another matter. I'm finding I cannot get past reading about it. I wanted to paint again and a friend encouraged me by sending a whole box full of supplies to get started. To date I have not picked up a brush except to put it in a box. I'm actually afraid I will enjoy it too much and it will become an obsession for me taking me away from other really important things. I finally realized that....I guess that is one big step in the right direction. I also want to write and have started several times but burn out within a short time. Those are my biggies....would love to see some improvement in those areas and overcome all the negativity.
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Anniegal,
It sounds like you ARE making progress. I too have the problem with motivation. Don't look at the whole picture. Just take each little progress day by day. I have been trying to get myself to exercise and lose weight for months! Yesterday I told myself that I would go for a walk by 10am and I did. It was only 15 minutes, but I got myself out there. And when I went to the grocery store I managed to resist the tempting foods. It's nothing monumental, but I made progress today.
I skipped session five over the holidays and I've noticed the last couple of days I've woken up feeling the anxiety again. But I got back on track yesterday.
It sounds like you ARE making progress. I too have the problem with motivation. Don't look at the whole picture. Just take each little progress day by day. I have been trying to get myself to exercise and lose weight for months! Yesterday I told myself that I would go for a walk by 10am and I did. It was only 15 minutes, but I got myself out there. And when I went to the grocery store I managed to resist the tempting foods. It's nothing monumental, but I made progress today.
I skipped session five over the holidays and I've noticed the last couple of days I've woken up feeling the anxiety again. But I got back on track yesterday.
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I know exactly how you feel. I want to do all those things too. However, with all the stessors in my life, I just can't seem to get started on any of those goals. I have been working for a temp company and my position for the last year as Office Manager at a construction job site has been challenging, but also rewarding. I have never held a management position before. The job is almost over and I am starting to worry about where I will go next. I really enjoying working with all the people at the job site. I also am in the process of moving. I am anxious about this because I am moving in with my guy friend (who I have only known for a year and see only on the weekends). I am not ready for this step in our relationship; however, I have no choice at this time. I've been betrayed by a family member. I feel I have no control over my life and it is unbearable most days lately. My fears are rearing their ugly heads. I do know I need to get involved in this program as much as possible, but trying to find the time is difficult. I know I want some positive changes in life and the program should be my #1 priority so that I can, hopefully, handle everything else in my life at this time. I am so tired of being disappointed and depressed!
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Hi Izzie,
Since you were in the process of moving on the 6th you may not get a chance to read this until you're done, but I really hope you will reconsider moving in with you BF. You stated that you are not ready yet and I really believe you would just be creating more stress for yourself. (And less time to devote to learning to make healthy choices from my perspective). You might consider looking for another place to live that is within your budget before unpacking everything.
I realize it is not my business, but as an old lady with many years, experiences and mistakes under my belt, I have learned a few things. The biggest one: I could have done very well just by myself and did not NEED a relationship to keep me going. I always thought I did, but it is one of those many misconceptions we live with for too long that cause lots of anxiety. That doesn't mean we NEED to be alone, just that waiting for the right match we are comfortable with sometimes takes time.
Hope I haven't overstepped my boundaries. I'd like to see you, as well as all those that are part of this "Grand Experiment" (or "Grand Experience?") will become strong and confident in life.
Hope you find another wonderful position somewhere that is similar to what you enjoyed doing at your last job.
Till next time.
Since you were in the process of moving on the 6th you may not get a chance to read this until you're done, but I really hope you will reconsider moving in with you BF. You stated that you are not ready yet and I really believe you would just be creating more stress for yourself. (And less time to devote to learning to make healthy choices from my perspective). You might consider looking for another place to live that is within your budget before unpacking everything.
I realize it is not my business, but as an old lady with many years, experiences and mistakes under my belt, I have learned a few things. The biggest one: I could have done very well just by myself and did not NEED a relationship to keep me going. I always thought I did, but it is one of those many misconceptions we live with for too long that cause lots of anxiety. That doesn't mean we NEED to be alone, just that waiting for the right match we are comfortable with sometimes takes time.
Hope I haven't overstepped my boundaries. I'd like to see you, as well as all those that are part of this "Grand Experiment" (or "Grand Experience?") will become strong and confident in life.
Hope you find another wonderful position somewhere that is similar to what you enjoyed doing at your last job.
Till next time.
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beckyphoenix
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- Joined: Sun Apr 09, 2006 12:59 am
hey annielegal,
for a newbie, you are doing really well
i'm not that experienced on this site as some, but i would say i am nearing a year here.
anyways, your post caught my eye, because i am finding myself in a similar situation.
i left a horrible insurance job to finish my masters degree in education.
the only problem is that my passion, my love is film and theatre. i got my associates degree in drama, acted in tons of plays, and even pulled a stint in CA for a couple of years.
lately, i desire to be starting a film career track. i know that the current money and success comes from being able to write AND direct, i went out and bought the top of the line Apple, and here i sit. lots of desire, some good ideas, a little experience, passion, but no writing.
i know that creativity cannot be forced (atleast for me), it has to be playfully engaged into coming out.
for a newbie, you are doing really well
i'm not that experienced on this site as some, but i would say i am nearing a year here.
anyways, your post caught my eye, because i am finding myself in a similar situation.
i left a horrible insurance job to finish my masters degree in education.
the only problem is that my passion, my love is film and theatre. i got my associates degree in drama, acted in tons of plays, and even pulled a stint in CA for a couple of years.
lately, i desire to be starting a film career track. i know that the current money and success comes from being able to write AND direct, i went out and bought the top of the line Apple, and here i sit. lots of desire, some good ideas, a little experience, passion, but no writing.
i know that creativity cannot be forced (atleast for me), it has to be playfully engaged into coming out.
hi all! all the posts on this topic have made me smile. it feels like a supportive little community of friends!
dj, look at you with all of your fantastic goals! you are already on the right track. one year i wrote down !26! goals on a piece of loose leaf paper and posted it right by my bed and i would read it all the time, morning, night, daytime, whenever i was in my bed. i didn't even have to think about reading it cause it was right there in front of me. i accomplished almost all of those goals that year! and they were ones that had been on my list for probably a good five to ten years.
here's what i see from your goal list:
1. get rid of anxiety and depression.
well, you seem to be getting started with that. these tapes are putting you on that path!!!
2. get out and exercise.
depending on what you do for work and throughout your day, work this in. don't make it a really really difficult step, ease into it. go for a 10 minute walk when you pick up the mail at night. or take the stairs instead of the elevator at work. walk to get lunch if there is a place nearby. enjoy longer walks on the weekend if possible. make it a walk around a pretty lake. starting an exercise regime can be DAUNTING. exercise is moving more. start by moving more and see that you do have time for a ten minute walk when you get the mail.... you just might discover that some nights you have time for a twenty minute walk.. heck you might even find out you LOVE the way the cold winter air feels when you are bundled up. it's refreshing, not so much cold also, if you always make time for a tv show and you want to start going to the gym, head to the gym 15 minutes before the show starts and watch it while you walk on the treadmill. what a way to get two things done at once!
3. quit smoking.
figure out how many packs you buy a week and set aside the money for this. then take out the cost of one pack and put it in a jar labelled, NEW _____. (coat or dinner out or whatever you want it to be.. heck it could even be something small like a new book). then use the money you have set aside for cigarettes to buy cigarettes, minus one pack. go off cigs the way you would go off an antidepressant... in very small increments. keep the original amount of packs you would buy the same and every two weeks, take another 'cost of a pack' out of your original number and add it to your jar. by the end of the year, you are going to be making large purchases with your money saved! (or you can just save the money, it's up to you!) you'd be surprised by how far you have cut back by 2010!
4. lose weight.
one very effective method for this is to eat before you go to the grocery store. and FILL UP! then make a list of healthier foods that you enjoy, some fruits and vegetables, some soups that are healthier, whatever 'good for you foods' you enjoy. some of those frozen 'weight watchers' or 'lean cuisine' foods out there are pretty tasty! then shop based on your list. that way when you are home and hungry, you have healthy foods around to choose from and chances are, when you are hungry, you will just eat what is around rather than running out to the store to buy something less healthy just because you are craving it. also, snack more often on healthier choices so that your hunger cravings don't over power you.
you have to remember that all of these things that you want to accomplish take time and you have a whole year to do these things! that's a great amount of time!!! and heck, by 2010, you will have started some great habits that put you on the path to really getting where you want to be.
think of it as a journey.
enjoy the journey, it can be really amazing!!!
dj, look at you with all of your fantastic goals! you are already on the right track. one year i wrote down !26! goals on a piece of loose leaf paper and posted it right by my bed and i would read it all the time, morning, night, daytime, whenever i was in my bed. i didn't even have to think about reading it cause it was right there in front of me. i accomplished almost all of those goals that year! and they were ones that had been on my list for probably a good five to ten years.
here's what i see from your goal list:
1. get rid of anxiety and depression.
well, you seem to be getting started with that. these tapes are putting you on that path!!!
2. get out and exercise.
depending on what you do for work and throughout your day, work this in. don't make it a really really difficult step, ease into it. go for a 10 minute walk when you pick up the mail at night. or take the stairs instead of the elevator at work. walk to get lunch if there is a place nearby. enjoy longer walks on the weekend if possible. make it a walk around a pretty lake. starting an exercise regime can be DAUNTING. exercise is moving more. start by moving more and see that you do have time for a ten minute walk when you get the mail.... you just might discover that some nights you have time for a twenty minute walk.. heck you might even find out you LOVE the way the cold winter air feels when you are bundled up. it's refreshing, not so much cold
also, if you always make time for a tv show and you want to start going to the gym, head to the gym 15 minutes before the show starts and watch it while you walk on the treadmill. what a way to get two things done at once!3. quit smoking.
figure out how many packs you buy a week and set aside the money for this. then take out the cost of one pack and put it in a jar labelled, NEW _____. (coat or dinner out or whatever you want it to be.. heck it could even be something small like a new book). then use the money you have set aside for cigarettes to buy cigarettes, minus one pack. go off cigs the way you would go off an antidepressant... in very small increments. keep the original amount of packs you would buy the same and every two weeks, take another 'cost of a pack' out of your original number and add it to your jar. by the end of the year, you are going to be making large purchases with your money saved! (or you can just save the money, it's up to you!) you'd be surprised by how far you have cut back by 2010!
4. lose weight.
one very effective method for this is to eat before you go to the grocery store. and FILL UP! then make a list of healthier foods that you enjoy, some fruits and vegetables, some soups that are healthier, whatever 'good for you foods' you enjoy. some of those frozen 'weight watchers' or 'lean cuisine' foods out there are pretty tasty! then shop based on your list. that way when you are home and hungry, you have healthy foods around to choose from and chances are, when you are hungry, you will just eat what is around rather than running out to the store to buy something less healthy just because you are craving it. also, snack more often on healthier choices so that your hunger cravings don't over power you.
you have to remember that all of these things that you want to accomplish take time and you have a whole year to do these things! that's a great amount of time!!! and heck, by 2010, you will have started some great habits that put you on the path to really getting where you want to be.
think of it as a journey.
enjoy the journey, it can be really amazing!!!