Anyone in this program lost a child?

o2Bme · Post by **o2Bme** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 6:39 am

Two years ago my 10 year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. My two sons and I survived. My hope is that this program will help me through the grieving process in a healthy way. So that I can be emotionally sound for my boys. And not fear everytime we walk out the door that something horrific will happen.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 7:29 am

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss! Its no wonder that you would feel such anxiety and heartache over that. I pray that God will give you some needed peace and comfort. I have had two miscarriages. I know its not the same but it still hurts. I was pretty far along with one of them (16 weeks) and the other one pretty early (4 weeks.) I feel for you! If you ever want to talk dont hesitate to send me a email. I am here for you.

Tryinhard · Post by **Tryinhard** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 7:40 am

Hello, I just read your post and thought I would reply. I have not lost a child in the manner you have but lost one through a pregnancy that was VERY MUCH wanted. That was when my real first anxiety hit that I could not manage. My brother died suddenly when I was only 5 and my parents did not handle it well with explaining it to the rest of us kids. That happened 41 years ago. I believe if my parents had the right tools then on their son's death that myself and my other two sisters would have coped and grown up very differently from what we are now. You are going in the right direction on getting some help and realizing that you still have two sons that need you.
Dealing with grief properly is a key to getting better. I have witnessed and been a part of families that do not cope well after family deaths. I have also seen people that have lost their child and have learned coping skills and cope in a good and healthy manner. Encouragement from others who have learned these skills would really help you I think God Bless you and keep seeking the help you need. People out there care. Take Care

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 7:43 am

Thank you Rachel very much. The way I feel no matter what age a child is when you lose them it is still painful. They are a part of you from the beginning. God brings me great comfort and peace.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 7:46 am

I am SO sorry for your loss...I have a 10 year old daughter and can not even imagine what you have gone through. I have not lost a child, thank God, but have lost my mother, to whom I was extremely close. Her loss helped push me over the "anxiety edge", so to speak. While I have not endured the same type of loss that you have, I completely understand what a loss like this does to you mentally and emotionally. Please feel free to pm me at any time, and please accept my sincere and deep condolences for your loss...I trust the driver will be paying for this dearly???

Tara

epa · Post by **epa** » Mon Dec 29, 2008 9:02 am

I can tell you about grieving. My son committed suicide in 2005. I still reel from his death. You will be able to go out without fear and do what you need to do and go where you need to go. My son left behind 2 daughters - ages 5 and 9 mos. It seems so senseless and just hard to comprehend how such a thing could happen. All I can say is God only knows. All I can tell you is remember the good times not what could have been or should have been. There is no good that comes from that thinking. It is just like " What if" thinking. There seems to be no end. No solution. So why even bother going there. You have better things to focus on. those feelings of sadness and loss will come back time and again but you have to come up with a phrase or a couple of sentences that you can repeat to satisfy that longing. It is not easy. It takes practice. Hang in there. Keep the FAITH!