I need an Anxiety Book for Spouses!

TaniaJPS · Post by **TaniaJPS** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 4:05 am

My husband wants a book. He wants a book directed at significant others and how they can help and better understand their loved one's anxiety disorder.

I can't find any books that address this. I can find books for OCD and a plentiful array for helping your children but haven't found any for helping your spouse or loved one.

Does anyone have anything that they could point me to? I'd greatly appreciate it - AND - I'd like to give it for Christmas...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:18 am

HI TaniaJPS,

I know there isn't much out there for spouses on this subject, however there is a great book called "Hope and Help for Your Nerves" by Claire Weekes. It isn't directly geared towards spouses, but it has a couple of chapters in the book on advice for the family members of the person dealing with anxiety and also one on a husbands attitude to his wifes anxiety. It also goes into what our bodies and minds are doing and how we (those with anxiety) react to them. It can help them understand much better of the struggles we are going through. Here's the link if you'd like to take a look. Hope this helps!

<A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0451167 ... eader-link" TARGET=_blank>http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0451167 ... er-link</A>

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:27 am

found one more that might be helpful.

<A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/Talking-Anxiety-S ... 105&sr=1-9" TARGET=_blank>http://www.amazon.com/Talking-Anxiety-S ... &sr=1-9</A>

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:39 am

Hello,
I just went to Amazon and ordered this book about Anxiety. They also have 1 on Depression which is the same idea which I ordered also because I have both Anxiety and Depression. I have found that so often if our spouses have never been directly affected in their life prior to their marriage with us, they do not understand and more commonly say "Snap out of it" and that cannot be done. At least my chemicals don't react well to that phrase.
I hope these books help and thank you for finding it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:41 am

Find a forum or website where people have posted their symptoms, or maybe a doctor has posted their symptoms and/or fears, this within itself should help him understand. Let me say this, if you are wanting a spouse to COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND, it isnt going to happen. Nobody can completely understand unless they have experienced it. I hope you are not wanting a 'safe person'.DO NOT look unto a spouse or parent to be you safe place because YOU are your safe place! That is very-very important to grasp for everyone!
ROCKY gave you a great book to look at, YOU need to read the Dr. Claire Weekes books, she was a former sufferer of panic, but being a medical doctor she figured her way completely out of panic and anxiety. She is the pioneer of recovery! A MUST READ !

Rod

epa · Post by **epa** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 11:01 am

someone here told me about a great book called "Freedom from Fear by Dr. Howard Leibgold" Very simple language and fun to read and TRUE!!

It would be good for both of you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 12:28 pm

Thanks for your responses. I already have "Hope and Help for Your Nerves" by Dr. Claire Weeks. I haven't finished it though, so I know not to which you are referring in terms of its relativity to spouses. I'll look more specifically to that book to see if I can find to what you are referring.

Thanks for the comments and suggestions. Any other ideas?

TMc · Post by **TMc** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 12:31 pm

Brilliant suggestion here!

Thanks SO MUCH!!!

<A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/Talking-Anxiety-S ... 105&sr=1-9" TARGET=_blank>Talking to Anxiety</A> Talking To Anxiety: Simple Ways to Support Someone in Your LIfe Who Suffers From Anxiety (Paperback) by Claudia J. Strauss

jess23 · Post by **jess23** » Tue Dec 09, 2008 11:02 am

Originally posted by newrunner:
someone here told me about a great book called "Freedom from Fear by Dr. Howard Leibgold" Very simple language and fun to read and TRUE!!

It would be good for both of you.

That's the best book I've ever read on the subject. Not sure how much it would help a loved one, but it helped me out a lot

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 09, 2008 12:31 pm

<span class="ev_code_BROWN">Tania,

Tell your husband to go through your course WITH you and he can then better understand what you are going through. That is my best advice.</span>