Hope

Mike239 · Post by **Mike239** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:39 pm

Hello everyone. Here are some tips that got me through my mess of anxiety and depression.

Jesus once said that worrying won't add a day to anyone's life. This is very true. I could worry about cancer till the day I die but it won't add a day to my life. And gosh darn it, if I really think I am going to die soon, I better enjoy every last second of my life!

I was depressed and tired, struggling to return to my old self. Then I realized there is only one true way to be happy: To be content with the now. I realized that I was trying to obtain something that was impossible. I also realized that I actually didn't want to be my old self. I created a new self. A person of knowledge and thankfulness.

A worrying mind is an intelligent mind that is off course. When I use to worry, I would think that I just wanted it all to end. I couldn't stand the bad feelings and repetitive thoughts. I made a discovery one day. Focusing on my feelings all the time fed energy into them. It was only when I moved my energy to other things that the negative lost its' power.

Take results one day at a time. You can't improve instantly. As discouraging as this is, you will get better. Patience brings rewards!

I hope this helped a little bit! Message me anytime for support

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 1:26 pm

That's great! so true!
Thank you so much for your encouragement.
It's a hard road trying to redirect ourselves away from believing the lies we have gotten into the habit of listening to, but it can be done. I believe it. God has much bigger plans for us than we could even imagine!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 2:04 pm

I was feeling really down today after listening to conversations of how much fun everyone had with their families and then thinking how much I want that for me and my family.

Thanks for the encouragement. Finding this tonight helped, pinkee

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 11, 2008 10:22 am

I am in a situation were my mother & father are very difficult for me to deal with and that really has deterred me from putting forth my full efforts. I feel that if they are in my life they are always going to try to control it. I don't know what to do with them. I have been told not to let them influence me in a negative way, but when I am depending on them for help in watching my 3 year old daughter while I work I feel as though I have to listen to the negative things that they say. How can I ask for their help and then ignore them when they are rude and ugly to me? Daily my mom and I hang up the phone on each other in furry with each other. I am tired. I am at the point that I am not sure if there is hope in my situation. I just recently moved 80 miles away from them. I felt I had no more choices. We have only been gone for a month and I am not sure if things are better just yet. This move was to get out of their territory and into my fiance's parent's territory and we are still dealing with my parents because of my daughter. I am trying desperatly to get her into a day care center here in town, but they won't take her until she is totally potty trained, so I am stuck! Where is my hope??? It's been one thing after another, we haven't received a pay check or any money income in about a month and a half. We have sold everything that was worth something and we still won't have a check until after Christmas! HOPE??? Well, I need to be thankful that I am alive and healthy and my family is too! I guess now all I can do is pray that God shows me a way to deal with all the new added stress in my life and no money for Christmas. But, I have to believe that there is always hope after all.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 11, 2008 12:32 pm

Man-D82,

Well, it sounds like you have quite a few troubles. The whole parent situation sounds tough but just remember your parents can SAY what they want but you don't have to let it influence you in any way. I know it's easier said than done but you need to do what is best for you. Your parents raised you and now their job is done, so you can move on and start living YOUR life without having to worry about them. Money troubles can definitely bring upon great worry and sadness. I discovered something through my struggles, and that is that in order to truly be happy, you have to be content with the now. When I was stuck in the worry I would always tell myself things like if I felt better I would be happy and then I could do things that make me happy or if I wasn't feeling sick like this I would be happy. The truth is, I wasn't happy because I was struggling to reach an impossible goal. I set standards for happiness. An example that helped me realize this was when I was outside in the cold. I kept thinking, I'll be happy when I am inside and warm. Then I got there, warm, only to realize I still wasn't happy. I decided to be happy in the cold. Happy all the time. You may be telling yourself "Oh if my parents would listen and be more kind then I would be so much happier!" Well.... to a certain degree maybe it would help, but the truth is You CAN"T CONTROL every element and aspect of life but you can CONTROL how you view and react to it. Tell yourself, "Well, my parents may not behave or act the way that I would like them too, but at least they are here, alive and well, and just trying to do what they believe is right"

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 11, 2008 1:00 pm

thats all true thank you for this words because it makes a lot of sense to me so we have to stop worring because we are not solving anything,insted we can do very positive things, thank you god bless you mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 11, 2008 2:11 pm

Great post and sooo true. Thanks for posting.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Sep 04, 2009 3:22 pm

Thanks for "Hope" we all need to hear the encouragements like all our fear there is also a huge fear I will fail at this program. It is so good to hear positive outcomes. thanks

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Sep 08, 2009 1:25 pm

So true! And as you can tell by my quote below, I totally agree!! Thanks for posting!