Death of a parent

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 12:16 pm

Thank you all who responded to my issue- I am a christian and I do know she is free from pain and is where she has been longing to be- with her Lord. AT first I seemed to understand and was glad she passed on because I watched her and took care of her through her battle with cancer. I feel like she hung on as long as she did because of me-she wanted to make sure I was going to be okay. I think I am going to try to see a counselor just to help me along the way. What is so hard is that I don't think of her sick and hurting anymore I just feel such a void in my life-as if a part of me died with her. I know I have to pull it together because I have 3 children who look at me like I looked at her. She was my HERO! Well-I am so sorry for all of your losses-it is hard and only human to not want to let go. I tried to be so strong after her death and I think it all just kind of caught up with me. Now I beat myself up about whether I told her I loved her enough and did she really know it and did I really do enough for her. Did I comfort her all those times when she was frightened from chemo or the process of dying. Her death was very peaceful and I was there with my brothers and aunt. It was an awesome experience that day. I felt like I had truly saw God that day. He could not have blessed me more than what he did allowing her to pass-it was so perfect-but I do miss her. Thank you all again for all the advice and your stories and May God bless us all and give us strength to carry on where they left off.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 8:16 am

momto3--

I can totally relate to your loss!! I lost my mother suddenly 6 years ago and I still cry about it all of the time! As with you, she was my best friend and confidante.

I am getting married on Friday and I have missed her presence terribly during this time. I am 32 and was 25 when she died. She was only 52 and died suddenly.

I wish I could tell you how to feel better, but I haven't found anyway for myself. I have considered going to counseling because I feel it is really taking a toll on me. My grandmother (my mom's mom) died last year and that, too, has been very hard.

I can't offer any great words of advice...my mom did not have cancer and I can only imagine having to watch her go through that! But if you ever need a lending ear, please feel free to PM me or email me as I can definitely appreciate where you are coming from!!

Good luck and best wishes!!