emotional

Stacy d · Post by **Stacy d** » Tue Oct 28, 2008 6:21 am

i keep crying for now reason and i think it may be my thyroid medication, but the problem is my bf tries to be understanding and there for me , but hes not. He is telling me that i am not trying that i need to just try and have a good time. it makes me so mad cause how can i have fun when im on the verge of tears. I just feel alone sometimes.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 28, 2008 6:39 am

Hi Stacey, You what I realized, not even the closest of people can understand what YOU are really going through. Not you mother, father, best friend, or significant other. I have bipolar disorder and my boyfriend has been really supportive of me with me taking my medicantion and all. He thinks the medication is helping me, as do I. I have had bipolar disorder ever since I was little. But it never really affected me greatly until I reached my twenties. That is when I had to start aking mood stabilizers for my disorder. They have helped me a great deal, and granted, there are side effects when you first start the medication. But they go away after a while. Maybe you can talk to a friend or write in a journal about your thoughts/feelings. I love writing in my journal because it listens to you unconditionally. (I know that sounds a little crazy).I think you just have to understand you can try to make your boyfriend understand how you are feeling, but he will never TRULY know, only you will know. I have learned that after many years of trying to make my family understand what I am going through. And my parents even haven't been supportive of me taking my medication.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 28, 2008 12:52 pm

Often in my life when I am really sad because of another person's comments or behavior, it's because I am putting too much importance on being validated by them. I am giving the specific person too much control over how I feel. I am putting too much importance on having their approval. How silly, really. The only person we need approval from to be happy is our "Self". And expecting another to always understand us? That doesn't work, either. We don't often understand them, so how could they understand us? I try to notice this in myself, and then spend my efforts at understanding me. When I do, I don't feel sad, or alone. I wish you the best.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 1:37 pm

Hi Stacy...I could sail the Queen Mary on the tears I've cried so I totally relate to what you're going through. I'm brand new (today) to the program so I have no advice or inspiration but I can tell you that you are not alone.

I also really appreciated the comments you received from pecos and jasminemody. Your boyfriend, try as he might, will never understand. Try not to hold that against him and be grateful that he's not experiencing the pain you feel. If you wouldn't wish your pain on your worst enemy, you certainly wouldn't wish it on your boyfriend. And as Pecos says try to avoid looking to your boyfriend for validation. Validate and celebrate yourself. This is about you! Good luck!
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