Wanting to be loved

SADLONELYNDEPRESSED · Post by **SADLONELYNDEPRESSED** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 3:25 pm

well i suffer from serve depression because i went through a lot of abuse as a child and as a adult mental and physical an also it came from me losing my son that night has not left my mind at all right along with all the other things that has happen to me in life i just got married march of this year an ready to get a divorce already because i am not happy at all but thats because i haven't dealt with all the things that has happen in my life to keep me from being happy i don't have low self esteem at all i just don't understand my life an why i can't be happy

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 4:45 pm

Dear Sad,

I am sorry to hear that your experiences are not as you wish them to be. I can relate to your situation as mine is somewhat similar. You may need a therapist and this program to help you to analyze some of your past hurts. Please start the program as soon as possible; look for support groups in your area; make a list of all the things that you would be doing if you did not have depression; then try to do them and see if that brings any happiness to you. Try to eat well, exercise and get some sunshine too. These are just a few things that I can think of, but I am sure you have a few others to add to the list.

I know people say happiness comes from inside, but it's kinda hard to get at it when things outside are not peachy. I'll say a prayer for you. Hold on, be strong and never give up! God had good things in store for you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 12:47 am

I want to support you in being really diligent and committing to this program.
It is a self help program though so it will be hard. You are depressed and what you are saying out loud is probably what you are saying to yourself and that will only keep you depressed.
I have been doing the exact same thing. Different words different choices but I am unhappy due to the result of my lifes events early on and of late.We must work this program. Promise me?
Susie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 4:57 am

I know how you feel sometimes I cant get going because I dont know what the future brings for me , but you need to stay in you"re relationship because it will make you stronger and you need the support from you"re spouse.You have all of are support and prayers. Good luck and keep on trying.GOD BLESS YOU.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 5:11 am

Dear Sad, have you tried talking to your spouse about what you are feeling? Maybe you two just need to sit down and really try to understand each other and what you are going through. I hope that she is willing to do that with you. Please do not give up trying. Also, you two might want to try couples therapy. My boyfriend and I have been to a couple sessions together and it really helps. These are just a couple of suggestions. Let me know if this helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Nov 11, 2008 10:14 am

well I am going to pray for you. I have never been married yet, but I would always think that once I find my prince charming things would change instantly. Not true. I realized that I never really loved myself.

Its so important for us to love ourselves. I am also on that journey of discovery to accept me for me and to love myself.

You have gone through alot and you are a STRONG woman...You can and will make it. You have support here