Feeling sort of depressed (PMS?)

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 1:05 am

This is pretty unusual for me so I'm a little concerned.

It started a few weeks ago with my DH and I getting into a big fight. I have been a little bit suspicious of him and accusing him of things he swears he hasn't done.

Then, looking back I've noticed I have been sleeping more and more.

I've had time, especially before my period, where I get really short tempered and angry with the kids and my DH.

And now the last few days (PMS week) I'm just "blah". . . not a whole lot makes me smile, I don't feel like playing with the kids.

I don't want to go on medication, and so I need some tips to get back on the right track.

My DH and I have talked and worked everything out. I am going to try and get some extra exercise. I'm getting back out my multivitamins, fish oil, and vitamin C.

The frustrating thing is I have finally got to a place where I rarely get panic attacks any more. So, is this why now I'm getting depression? Has my brain decided to find a different way to get to me?

At least with the panic attacks I can get up and move and fake that I feel well. With the depressed feelings I just want to get through the day so I can go to bed.

Hopefully once I start my period I'll feel a little bit better.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 4:09 am

Faith_TX...I know just where you're coming from! I'm in the same situation right now, myself. I spent alot of my precious present time, this week end, being very irritated & cranky...then I'd feel guilty for wasting our family time together by feeling so blah and angry. I think all the emotions take a toll on us physically, thus feeling tired. I think you're definately onto something, with getting more exercise...I'm going to "get moving" today too in hopes of getting the clutter from my mind out as well as the clutter that's been accumulating around our house (newspapers, magazines, etc)...
Just remember in all you do today to remain kind to yourself and know that this PMS shall pass too! Don't try to read anything more into than that!
Here's to a better today!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 4:33 am

Thanks. I just want to be "normal" hahahaha right whatever that is!!

I really just want to become more positive too. I'm realizing that some of my friends are drifting away and then I look and think. . . no wonder I've been such a whining neurotic mess the last few months. Hopefully I can be more positive and they'll come back around.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 6:39 am

I had a similar experience when my anxiety subsided. I thought I was feeling very blah and maybe even depressed. I think I was so addicted to all the adrenaline and anxiety and how it was motivating me that when it left I felt kind of flat. For me it was the acceptance of a different kind of feeling that helped. I didn't have to have that anxiety to help me feel alive and it was ok to just feel pleasant. Those of us with anxiety problems get so used to feeling all these surges that we come to believe that this is what makes us alive. The panic and anxiety is such an intense feeling that nothing else seems to compare, and as crazy as it may sound, it is a big adjustment when it leaves. I felt like an addict that finally had to overcome the urge to get high on the adrenaline. After a long time of being without all that, my whole perception changed. I started seeing the difference between healthy excitement and fear producing anxiety. Maybe it just takes time once the panic attacks stop to readjust to this new person that we have become.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 7:02 am

I completely agree with you Mary!!!!
I have been doing SO well lately! I think what helped me was to put the program away for awhile and really live it.
I never did that.. Lucinda even says to do that in the program yet I never ever did. I would constantly redo redo and redo the program. Well I know the program back, front, left, right, etc. I didn't give myself the time to live it! So once I did, it was like, hmmm ok, so I let this oanic and anxiety go now what???
I would actually look for things to make me feel that fear response because ffeling pleasant felt funny...
How silly it sounds but it is so true... Yes it is all about being OK with feeling Presesnt and for me it was almost like being anxious, scaed,a worrier defined who I was as a person and NOT feeling that or talking about feeling like that felt wrong.
I hope I am not confusing anyone. SO yes, Mary I agree and am this is where I am in the program. I am so happy and yet I feel "wierd" without the anxiety, Like I should have SOMETHING to worry about. Yet... I can't find anything....=)
To all the peopel who are suffering with anxiety and OST's whick were my BIGGIE, they go away! They do and when they pop up spontaneously, because they will, you can seriously laugh them off and within 5 minutes you've forgotten about them. Trust me!!
I was there and now I'm here.....=)
Hugs to all!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 10:01 am

Originally posted by Ld26angell:
Yes it is all about being OK with feeling Presesnt and for me it was almost like being anxious, scaed,a worrier defined who I was as a person and NOT feeling that or talking about feeling like that felt wrong.

This is SO TRUE! And come to think of it, that is probably what caused our marriage issues lately. I was feeling better and we were getting alongfine. . . things were going well. Then I threw a bunch of drama into the mix and we started having some problems. It's like I'm not OK with just having a calm life. It feels boring, I guess!

We're working through this and I'm so glad that the two of you posted because I would not have looked at it this way.

I was ready to go to the doctor to see what was wrong with my hormones and possibly get on medication. Of course that COULD be necessary, but more likely it's what y'all are saying. ..just looking for that drama that I'm used to. Pretty sad when you think about it.

Thanks for the food for thought.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 10:03 am

Originally posted by Mary Wargo:
I had a similar experience when my anxiety subsided. I thought I was feeling very blah and maybe even depressed. I think I was so addicted to all the adrenaline and anxiety and how it was motivating me that when it left I felt kind of flat. For me it was the acceptance of a different kind of feeling that helped. I didn't have to have that anxiety to help me feel alive and it was ok to just feel pleasant.

Maybe it just takes time once the panic attacks stop to readjust to this new person that we have become.

That sounds wonderful. I hope that's all this is. I can deal with that! What a nice way of reframing things.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 2:22 am

Well. . . today I feel fine! I started my period yesterday. . . gotta love the hormones.

But, also I think my thoughts changed about this after reading your replies.