In Deep Depression, 3rd Day Now, need inspiration or something

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:36 am

Thankyou Faith and everyone. I know it will pass...again, just havn't felt like this for a while. and 3 days in a row , well it's been 6 months or so. Waiting for my husband to get home then he can watch the fur kids, one has the runs bad again and cant be left alone.

wish you all good feelings.

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:42 am

You're welcome. Sure wish we could do more to help. I remember days like that, thinking it was so hard to just take that next breath. It just plain sucks. Hug those fur babies and hubby tight when they get home.

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:42 am

Originally posted by ShelbyFae:
hasanyonetoldyou.com
Go there, turn up the volume and watch.

Be gentle with YOU~

Shelby

That's just awesome! Thanks for sharing!

ali04 · Post by **ali04** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 10:01 am

Monty's Mom, Hang in there. You are probably on overload with taking care of the dogs and stuck in the house. The weather doesn't sound good for a walk. Just be kind to yourself and if you get a chance listen to session 3 again. Maybe hubby could just take you out for dinner tonight and if that doesn't work how about just watching a funny movie together with popcorn and hot chocolate. Just throwing out some ideas that sometimes help me. Also just a nice bubble bath and cup of tea. I also read psalms at times when feeling blue. I wish you the best and hope tomorrow is a much better day for you. If the weather is nice try and get out for a walk I really think this will help you. It does help me. I haven't felt to good today I have a migraine eek. Take care and be think positive thoughts.

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 10:15 am

Hey. I sent you a PM with an idea that might get a handle on this. It's something that has worked for me. Your friend, Pecos

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 10:25 am

Originally posted by pecos:
Hey. I sent you a PM with an idea that might get a handle on this. It's something that has worked for me. Your friend, Pecos

Is it anything you'd like to share? We all have those days.

ShelbyFae · Post by **ShelbyFae** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 10:36 am

Yes, Pecos. I always enjoy reading your posts and try to glean what I can from them. I am not feeling particularly successful "working" this program, having severe (frightening) depression and I feel as if I am scrambling to find anything to comfort, console, uplift me. Please share?

Gentleness~
Shelby

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 10:37 am

I am so sorry, I didn't mean not to share this. I didn't know if anyone else would be interested. I have found this very helpful for me, and it may not totally lift the depressed mood, but it certainly illuminates what's causing it (for me). When I begin to experience an emotion that pulls me toward a depressed feeling, I grab a journal and start writing down everything I was thinking prior to the depressed mood. I do this all day (or night). Eventually, I have a pattern. I can see a theme in what I am telling myself. There might be two dozen thoughts, but there is one theme. For instance, the theme might be I talked too much and did not listen. I might have twenty different ways of berating myself about that. But maybe it all ended up there. That's the theme. Once I see the pattern and unravel it, the theme is apparent. Then, I work at catching that theme anytime it enters my thoughts. I can rework it because now I know what it is.
Doing this has helped me work myself out of some very sad depressing moods.
Patterns = theme = thoughts = depressed mood.
Does that make sense?

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 11:24 am

That does make sense. I've had similar moods. Mine can be:
<UL TYPE=SQUARE>
<LI>I talk to much and not listen (also)
<LI>I am too self-centered I need to help others more
<LI>I'm a bad mother
<LI>I'm a bad friend
</UL>

I can see how that would be very helpful. Because, you can't talk back to the negative feelings if you haven't identified what they are.

Thanks for sharing.

Yesterday I came home from jury duty and beat myelf up over my decision. I felt like she was guilty, but everyone else was against me. . . and after about 3 hours of them trying to convince me I decided to go with the group. I'm pretty black and white, so it was hard for me to see the grey area they were talking about. LOL It was a 20 year old pulled over for DWI and the breath test showed .09 but there were some problems with the paperwork that caused the others to doubt it. I felt like I should have stuck to my guns. But, in the grand scheme of things I felt like the girl learned a lesson and I didn't want the state to have to pay for another big trial (we were there for two whole days!), so I bent the way the others were leaning and gave a NOT GUILTY verdict. I just hope she learns from this. The officer was going to let her off with a warning as well, but she was the most sober one in the car so his hands were tied.

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 12:11 pm

monty'smom:

Sometimes a good purge helps.
hasanyonetoldyou.com
Go there, turn up the volume and watch.

Be gentle with YOU~

Shelby

Thankyou,

I tried to but could not get anything, I'm on a dial up modem...no high speed where I live.
Maybe that's why I couldn't watch, not sure!

Enjoy your evening