Feeling overwhelmed and depressed
Hi all. I just needed somewhere to vent. I am on session 3 now. I am feeling so lonely and sad and want to snap out of it. I have no one to talk to about my depression except here. My family doesn't understand and my sister thinks its a cop out from her comments so I wouldn't even tell her how I feel. All other family members are always so busy. I feel so alone and left out of the family at times anyway. I have 4 great children and my husband. He is working alot and always very positive so he doesn't understand when I feel sad or negative. He is not a good comunicater so I don't get much out of him unfortunately. So I am turning to the support group here. I really want to recover and be positive and happy and get rid of this gloominess. It's gotten so bad that I isolate myself from the world and just stay home except for occasional trips to the store which I have to give me a good pep talk before leaving because I do get anxiety driving and suffer social anxiety. I get so nervous when talking with other people and always feel like I sound so stupid, etc. and that only makes it worse. I get sweaty and my voice gets so high in social situations. i want this to go away. I am 41 and feel so ridiculous!! I am sorry to complain and be so down I just don't have anyone to vent to and that would understand. We are also having financial difficulties so there never any extra money to do anything fun. i am trying to sell things on ebay but don't have much computer skills and don't have a clue how to set it up so i have to depend on my husband and then he gets grumpy. It is the pitts. I have lived here 2 years and have not one friend. I know it probably is my fault for not trying but I feel like have so many issues that is better just to be myself and try to recover. Everyone around me seems so happy and together and I feel like such a mess inside and then have to act happy on the outside if that makes sense. i am such a sensitive person who cries very easy if being picked at or confronted in an agressive way. PLEASE TELL ME THERE IS HOPE FOR ME. I want to feel better and am so overwheled. I am sorry to make this so long just so alone and lost. Thanks for listening and any advice will greatly be appreciated. Where do I start, I WANT TO CHANGE MYSELF.
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JenniPatrice
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There IS hope for you. It is a process healing and changing our thinking. Take it one thought at a time. One moment at a time. The worst thing you can do for yourself is compare yourself to other people. You have no idea what's really going on inside of them. For the most part people who know me or meet me would never assume that i deal with intense anxiety. Stop comparing or assuming first because what you are comparing yourself to is not real becuse in fact you do not know what is going on inside people's lives. Secondly, take your day one issue at time and one thought at a time. Replace your negative thoughts with truth and with the facts. Most of the time what we are anxious about is not the truth of our life. it's a fear of somethign that might or maybe has happened but isn't currently happening. You need to give yourself some grace and realize that you won't feel perfect but you will feel better if you begin to speak more positively to yourself if you begin to practice relaxation and monitor you self-talk. YOu have to challenge yourself and get out. It will feel uncomfortable at first but as you continue to do the opposite of how you feel you will notice that you willb eging to feel better. Not perfect.. but better. Are you doing the program? The tapes really help!
ali04,
your aren't alone so rememer that. this is a good place to go for support but also I think you should see a family doc and express your concerns.
I think that also about everyone looking so happy and why can't I. I have many issues to deal with to but hopefully by working this program, and seeing my doctor it will help.
there has some been some very insightful people on this forum and hopefully they will respond yo ur email.
Hang in there it will take time but you can do it. Also, try to get involved in something you enjoy and you might meet people there and it may help with the loneliness.
good luck, I wish you the best! And make that appointment with your doc!
remember: one day at a time!
your aren't alone so rememer that. this is a good place to go for support but also I think you should see a family doc and express your concerns.
I think that also about everyone looking so happy and why can't I. I have many issues to deal with to but hopefully by working this program, and seeing my doctor it will help.
there has some been some very insightful people on this forum and hopefully they will respond yo ur email.
Hang in there it will take time but you can do it. Also, try to get involved in something you enjoy and you might meet people there and it may help with the loneliness.
good luck, I wish you the best! And make that appointment with your doc!
remember: one day at a time!
jenniPatrice. Thanks so much for replying back. I am trying now to consume all this wonderful advice from everyone and put it into action. I know I do need to give myself more positive self talk and I am going to work at this. I am doing the program and am on session 3. I started in feb. the first time but only made it to 5. I want it to work and am ready for change. Thanks again.
lisalee I have been thinking of seeing my family doctor. I just don't know how to talk to him. He is the type of doctor that is very serious and doesn't say alot, I am trying to get the courage. I have never seen a therapist so I am scared and have never been on any meds. only for migraines. I am taking a b complex and fish oil trying to help with this feeling of depression. Not sure if it works but worth the try. Thank you again I appreciate the great advice and feel so happy knowing I have support here this is difficult as we all know.
lisalee I have been thinking of seeing my family doctor. I just don't know how to talk to him. He is the type of doctor that is very serious and doesn't say alot, I am trying to get the courage. I have never seen a therapist so I am scared and have never been on any meds. only for migraines. I am taking a b complex and fish oil trying to help with this feeling of depression. Not sure if it works but worth the try. Thank you again I appreciate the great advice and feel so happy knowing I have support here this is difficult as we all know.
Pecos, Wow thanks for giving me so much to think about. I am going to listen to 3 again and also do the relaxation tape. I haven't been doing that. I will do like you said and try and forget about everyone and focus on me. 5 min. is a great place to start. It makes sense why I am feeling overwhelmed I just have so much negative going on and that does make sense like it's all being thrown into a big pot. Thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry to here what you went through and look how positive you are dealing with it is an inspiration to me. WoW. That is alot to lose. You sound like such a positive disiplined person and thats how I want to be. I am glad to see how much this has helped you and it gives me hope. As for ebay I do need to calm down and just keep trying. I feel like such a idiot because it can't be that diff. even for the computer challenged. We go through seller sourcebook and i get confused but deep breaths and I will keep reviewing and hopefully grasp it. I don't want to be dependent on my husband and have to have him do it makes me feel so in adequate. i probably am making it more diff. and all he says is take a basic computer class but we are in a financial rut as of now. I will have to be self taught on this e bay stuff and keep your fingers crossed i can figure it out. I am sorry to hear about your friend with ms and i am blessed to have my health and family. my sister's best friend has ms and is not doing well either and it so sad to hear about. How do you find out about volunteering at nursing homes etc.? I have all the tools in the program now i just to get organized focused and not procrastinate and dwell on the negatives. Life is good and I am so thankful for this forum and all the positive support I have received. I know I want change and the only way is to apply myself and do it. Thanks again Pecos.
Hi. So sorry. I deleted my post after re-reading it and thinking it was way too long, and probably overwhelming with too much information. I am glad it helped. I didn't realize you'd actually muddled your way through it already.
Basic computer classes should be free if you check with adult education (colleges and high schools). Find the nursing home of your choice and let the director know who you are, and what you'd like to do. Mi Casa in Mesa is a very good nursing home. Good luck. Don't give up.
Pecos
Basic computer classes should be free if you check with adult education (colleges and high schools). Find the nursing home of your choice and let the director know who you are, and what you'd like to do. Mi Casa in Mesa is a very good nursing home. Good luck. Don't give up.
Pecos
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monty'smom
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<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">(((((HUGS)))) ali04</span>,
So glad you came here to vent. I'm not having a very inspiring day myself but will do my best to help you feel not so alone. I can relate to so much of what you have written. I almost felt at times it was my life. There are much better days ahead hun, it will take time but you will feel and live a much happier life free from the lonliness and have all the tools you need to work with yourself on each and every problem. I was a total mess and felt all the same things you wrote about and up until today have been doing great. There will be good, bad, and in between days for a bit but trust me if you really want to live the life you deserve and dream about you can and will. So many people just like us are living those lives now. Please start to be kinder to yourself, respect yourself, love yourself, and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS.
Never think you are beneath anyone, you are not!
In fact I bet you are a very kind, gentle, caring, loving person and wouldn't ever hurt anyone on purpose! Am I right? I say Yes I Am.
My husband is really bad at communicating also. It's an issue we are trying to work on together but all good things take time. I spend a lot of time here so I can communicate with people. I live in a new town, far from home and it's a rural community far from a city and no neighbors close and we in fact have lived here just 14 months and don't have any friends. They don't like new comers here. So here we are with no family and the 2 of us and 4 fur kids. It's okay though because I am now comfortable to be alone with myself..did that make sense, so chin up, do something special for yourself and you come to the site as often as you need to. So many wonderfull, caring people here to help out.
God Bless and help you to feel better.
Prayers and thoughts for you.
So glad you came here to vent. I'm not having a very inspiring day myself but will do my best to help you feel not so alone. I can relate to so much of what you have written. I almost felt at times it was my life. There are much better days ahead hun, it will take time but you will feel and live a much happier life free from the lonliness and have all the tools you need to work with yourself on each and every problem. I was a total mess and felt all the same things you wrote about and up until today have been doing great. There will be good, bad, and in between days for a bit but trust me if you really want to live the life you deserve and dream about you can and will. So many people just like us are living those lives now. Please start to be kinder to yourself, respect yourself, love yourself, and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS.
Never think you are beneath anyone, you are not!
In fact I bet you are a very kind, gentle, caring, loving person and wouldn't ever hurt anyone on purpose! Am I right? I say Yes I Am.
My husband is really bad at communicating also. It's an issue we are trying to work on together but all good things take time. I spend a lot of time here so I can communicate with people. I live in a new town, far from home and it's a rural community far from a city and no neighbors close and we in fact have lived here just 14 months and don't have any friends. They don't like new comers here. So here we are with no family and the 2 of us and 4 fur kids. It's okay though because I am now comfortable to be alone with myself..did that make sense, so chin up, do something special for yourself and you come to the site as often as you need to. So many wonderfull, caring people here to help out.
God Bless and help you to feel better.
Prayers and thoughts for you.
BELIEVE YOU CAN CONQUER ANYTHING~ AND YOU WILL !! I DID IT, YES !!!!!
monty's mom I wanted to say thank you for helpful post. It is so empowering to know we can come to this forum to vent and get such encouragement. I really needed that and am feeling a little better. I have alot of changing to do and I do realize I need to be kinder to myself and love who I am more. I am so ready to get out of this gloominess and anxiety I just have to stick with it and use the tools. I do admit there is alot to learn and it does become overwhelming but I am ready to get on the right track. I hope you are feeling better yourself. It is nice to know that I am not alone and others have some of the same feelings. This program seems to really helped and that is an inspiration. So I will go listen to 3 again and this time include the relaxation which I haven't been doing. I just wanted to say thank you and hope that things are going better for you. I have like I said nobody to vent to so it was releiving to be able to come here and also get so many helpful relplies. God Bless and Thanks again.QUOTE]Originally posted by monty'smom:
<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">(((((HUGS)))) ali04</span>,
So glad you came here to vent. I'm not having a very inspiring day myself but will do my best to help you feel not so alone. I can relate to so much of what you have written. I almost felt at times it was my life. There are much better days ahead hun, it will take time but you will feel and live a much happier life free from the lonliness and have all the tools you need to work with yourself on each and every problem. I was a total mess and felt all the same things you wrote about and up until today have been doing great. There will be good, bad, and in between days for a bit but trust me if you really want to live the life you deserve and dream about you can and will. So many people just like us are living those lives now. Please start to be kinder to yourself, respect yourself, love yourself, and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS.
Never think you are beneath anyone, you are not!
In fact I bet you are a very kind, gentle, caring, loving person and wouldn't ever hurt anyone on purpose! Am I right? I say Yes I Am.
My husband is really bad at communicating also. It's an issue we are trying to work on together but all good things take time. I spend a lot of time here so I can communicate with people. I live in a new town, far from home and it's a rural community far from a city and no neighbors close and we in fact have lived here just 14 months and don't have any friends. They don't like new comers here. So here we are with no family and the 2 of us and 4 fur kids. It's okay though because I am now comfortable to be alone with myself..did that make sense, so chin up, do something special for yourself and you come to the site as often as you need to. So many wonderfull, caring people here to help out.
God Bless and help you to feel better.
Prayers and thoughts for you.[/QUOTE]
<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">(((((HUGS)))) ali04</span>,
So glad you came here to vent. I'm not having a very inspiring day myself but will do my best to help you feel not so alone. I can relate to so much of what you have written. I almost felt at times it was my life. There are much better days ahead hun, it will take time but you will feel and live a much happier life free from the lonliness and have all the tools you need to work with yourself on each and every problem. I was a total mess and felt all the same things you wrote about and up until today have been doing great. There will be good, bad, and in between days for a bit but trust me if you really want to live the life you deserve and dream about you can and will. So many people just like us are living those lives now. Please start to be kinder to yourself, respect yourself, love yourself, and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS.
Never think you are beneath anyone, you are not!
In fact I bet you are a very kind, gentle, caring, loving person and wouldn't ever hurt anyone on purpose! Am I right? I say Yes I Am.
My husband is really bad at communicating also. It's an issue we are trying to work on together but all good things take time. I spend a lot of time here so I can communicate with people. I live in a new town, far from home and it's a rural community far from a city and no neighbors close and we in fact have lived here just 14 months and don't have any friends. They don't like new comers here. So here we are with no family and the 2 of us and 4 fur kids. It's okay though because I am now comfortable to be alone with myself..did that make sense, so chin up, do something special for yourself and you come to the site as often as you need to. So many wonderfull, caring people here to help out.
God Bless and help you to feel better.
Prayers and thoughts for you.
[/QUOTE]I am so sorry to hear you are not feeling well. I, too, went through the same exact feelings of loneliness, anxiety leaving the house, being around others. I am here to tell you that it DOES GET BETTER! I have been using the tapes. I am also on Lexapro which has helped tremendously! I ordered the tapes hoping to get off the meds. Please know that you are not alone and that there are others who have gone through it and have gotten better (myself included!) I will say a prayer for you and I hope this helps in some small way! God Bless you!