Feeling of burden

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 1:51 pm

Hello Joy,

I'm so sorry that you feel so very sad and lonely. I wish I could take it all away and make you feel better. I know it's not easy for you being without family but it's good to see you back posting. I was wondering today where you have been lately. I myself am on ever day, I really feel it helps with the depression and I love to try and be of some help to others. Anyway tomorrow is another day and I hope with all my heart it's a better day for you thatn today was. Glad though that you vented...it's better to get it out.
<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">((((BIG GENTLE HUGS))))</span>
Deb

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 2:34 pm

Originally posted by joy jenkins:
This might be too depressing for anyone to even want to read but thanks for letting me just get out some of my feelings. Tomorrow is another day.
Joy

Not at all! I think we all have days like that and isn't it nice to know you have a safe place to say it?

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 2:51 pm

Joy,
So much of your post rang true for me. I have so many of the same issues. Would you like to PM and talk more about how to deal with those feelings? Or maybe we could post each separately and get everyone's input while taking it one step at a time?
Either way, my email is in my profile. I'd love to hear from you.
I believe whole-heartedly that we will work through this even though there are some steps backward at times. And I know that my experiences can be used for good to help others and even for me to learn better to understand others.
Thank you for your post (thank all of you for replying). It feels good to know that you aren't alone and completely insane, and the encouragement is always appreciated.

joy jenkins · Post by **joy jenkins** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 3:43 pm

Hello, I am so so grateful and touched by the response I have received from you all. I am not very good yet at figuring out PMing but am getting better. Perhaps you could help me out a bit. I will definitely be e-mailing Pekos, Monty's Mum, and bevhembree - I can't express how grateful I feel for your support today. I am just at a loss as to how to handle the situation I am facing. Never thought I would have to face this. Sorry I am so tired right now but just wanted to express my great appreciation for your support.
Joy

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 5:55 pm

Shimdan,
I understand about the effects of this on a marriage which brings more worries.
Since you had made progress before those two rejections, I believe you can get there again.
Please let me know if you'd like to talk about it or if I can help in any way. Thank you for sharing.

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 6:11 pm

Joy,
I think if you click on someone's screenname to the left of their message, it will give you several options- one of which is to private message them.
There is a way to PM several people as a small group but I don't know much about it.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Bev

shimdan · Post by **shimdan** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 12:32 am

Thanks Bev for your response. sometimes it is hard to share even on this board. These two rejections came during my lesson on being assertive. It is easier to read about being assertive than to do it. Being such a people pleaser and wanting approval so desperatly really gets one down.
One gets on such a tangent in your brain when you feel like a burden-like telling your husband he would be better off without you, if only he married so and so etc. AT least this program is giving me insight why I get so weird. Before I did not have much of a clue -I thoughtI was just crazy and of course that not great for helping ones self image. Thanks again for response.