How do you practice going through my fear of being a mom - when you just have to do?

[Dreaming Good 2]

Guys,

Any adivice would be greatly appreciated. I had been on a low dose of medication for several years and had no anxiety for 5 years. Have tried in past year to get off twice to try to get pregnant. I ordered program and was doing well, till they started talking about having to live through your fears. I have always known I wanted to be a mom, but when it came down to my husband and I trying, I started obsessing about why I can't picture it, can I do it, how will I work full time and care for child (even though husband would be wonderful), how will I go sleep deprived (basically obsessing) ect. ect. Which got the ball rolling. Then had to get back on meds., becuse anxiety is worst it has been in my life. Therapist said to maybe stop the program until meds kick back in. My worst fear is to waste my life on this disorder, never be able to have a child - becuse I can't practice and never get over this disorder ----- Any advice welcome - I am desperate here! I try to be positive and surrender to god every day, but nothing seems to be working?????????????

[bevhembree]

I've forgotten exactly what I was on, I think it was Lexapro, but ask your doc if any of the meds are safe with pregnancy. I think there are a few. Then get yourself a good pregnancy book and know what's going to happen or might happen so you didn't get any surprises and freak out (like me)! Best of luck!

[Thefriend]

I am no woman so I can't really tell you what you need to do. However, I am someone who has gone through a lot of meds and was diagnosed with a lot of things only to realize at the end that I could learn how to control myself untill finally I got to where I am right now. I do not take meds anymore. I used to get depressed and very beat up before and no one save God could help me. Just to let you know how bad I was, I'll tell you that I ended up in a mental institution twice and the Doctors never gave a sence of hope. I thought I was doomed to be like that forever with all the terrible sideeffects that the pills wold cause in my body. It was affecting my entire life because I could not function properly. I missed a lot of oportunities in life as a result of something that was not even my fault. To make a long story short, One day I started feeling that perhaps it was all the meds that were making me so pathetic. I then did a lot of reasearch to see what I needed to do. One day I finally stood up and said to my very negative Doctor that I would not take those pills anymore because I felt in my heart that they were doing far worse damage than the illness itself. He got so upset that He threatened me to have me taken and put in a mental institution against my will if I somehow became Ill again. I still took my chances because I felt my cause was righteous. Son after I stoped the pills, I startyed having terrible withdrawl symptoms that had nothing to do with the illness. I did some more reasearch and found out that almost all of these pills (antipsychotics and antidepressants) desensitize certain sectors in your brain which upon removal of the substance, put your body in a state of shock for about one month. During this time your brain tries to re-stimulate the sector that had for such a long time been asleep. The result triggers a defense mechanism in which your brain cells not only get stimulated but get hyperstimulated causing exagerated nerve responses which in turn hyperstimulates other tissues and/or organs in the body causing exreme irregularities or symptoms such as: mania, depression, psychosis, mood swings, temperament problems and many more that if not controlled, can be deadly. Once again, all of these have nothing to do with the illness itself, but merely withdrawl symptoms that mimic several serious psychiatric diseases. If you are to stop a pill, it is recommended by most experts that you taper it slowly and replace it with Benzodiazepines for a time till the risk is gone. However, even this can turn into a disaster. If for any reason you are very stressed and are not resting properly, you may fall into a very depressive state if you take these pills at night and the result would be like an alcoholic who just got out of the bar and takes a sleeping pill which may end up causing him to fall into a coma or hypersleep state which may end up killing him. I know this because it happened to me. I am very blessed to be alive and now I feel even better than before. I feel I was given a knew body that before I could only dream of. There truly is a way to control your symptoms without pills, but it is a work of a lot of dedication, willingness to learn and change from bad habits to new, good ones. This program really works and I feel it was inspired by God. Pay really close attention to it, and be true to the inspirations that come to your heart. This is how God communicates with us and He is by far the best Doctor that exists. Don't give up and may all your righteous dreams come true!

[wayneg]

just a little bit of reassurance for you you will not waste your life on this disorder just you coming on here and talking about it is reason enough for me to beleive you are strong and by the way having a baby is a huge step in anybodys life man or woman so for now try to give yourself a break be delicate w yourself itll al be ok .......wayne

[Dreaming Good 2]

Thank you all for your advice - I really am trying to control the negative thoughts, but they continue to persist. I have to believe, if so many others can do it, I can to - I just don't know about being able to practice what I can't go through. It is stuck in my head from the tapes, that you have to live through the fear to get over it. I can't live through having a child, but it sound like others have recovered, by not living through their worst fears? Is this correct and how did you do it?