Support circle for depression

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 2:58 am

Mary Jane, If you were my neighbor, I'd just invite myself over and bring the tea and a distant newspaper, one with headlines from somewhere far away and fascinating to put a social zing in your day.
I have grown so fond of all your posts to me and to others. I hope you know how well loved you are in this community. Sincerely, Pecos

Mary Wargo · Post by **Mary Wargo** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 3:01 am

Cornflower -- I feel the same way as Pecos. Course I have already told you how much I enjoy your posts but it doesn't hurt to say it again!

Barb G. · Post by **Barb G.** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 4:04 am

Hi Pecos and Mary!
Thank you both for your kind words.
The truth is that I am content most of the time.
But your kind words really lift my spirits!

You are both very special people!

I do not really isolate myself. One of my brothers is in the nursing home. I go visit him often.

Last week my other brother and I went to East Texas to see my older sister. That was several hours of driving. He drove it. Anyway , my older sister will be 87 in October. It was so nice to see her. We found that she is pretty frail. But she still pieces quilt tops. She had to give up the quilting of them, though.

I am happy and content. But I really do enjoy this forum. I learn a lot from all of you.
I watch for certain posts, such as the ones that you two post, and several others also.

And I like to see the progress that others make.

I do feel a part of this community. I do not feel lonely. I'm not adverse to being with people but I have learned to appreciate solitude. Thinking peaceful thoughts cuts down on loneliness for me.

My days go so quickly. The older I get, the faster the days go.

Again, thank you! You are appreciated.
Your friend,
MaryJane

niki65 · Post by **niki65** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 9:24 am

I have not been checking in with the support group in about a month, but also suffer with mostly depression and would love to join the circle. I'm on Week 9 and for some reason today I feel overwhelmed and am not certain why. Depression just sneaks in out of nowhere for me and it truly frustrates me. I know I've made significant progress since starting the program, for this I am truly grateful

. I've been depressed for many years...I must be patient and know this will take time. School will be starting soon for my kids and I'm a little concerned about being home alone (as I'm a stay-at-home mom). I started the program when school let out. I'm glad this circle was created and know together we can help one another.

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 10:47 am

Niki, you are certainly embraced by all here. Depression is a sly beast, and can sneak into our life and take over our home like an unwanted guest. My own depression settled in and took over my days and nights. I am on Session Seven, and suffered another huge setback last Saturday. New to me was how the tools I have learned so far here made my advance from shock into denial and onto grief, acceptance and recovery a journey less horrific, almost transitional. I feel at peace. Am sad, but at peace, with what happened. Before this program, I would have been stuck in the shock and denial for weeks, and the grief for months, with no peace. Your situation is of course different. Your kids go off to school and suddenly you are alone with the loss of their presence. I don't know which CD will help you through that phase, but perhaps one or several of them will help you make the transition? For me it was Three. I listened to Three, and watched ALL the Coaching DVD's, one through seven, several times, until the first feelings of shock and loss wore off. I don't know why. Something in that session spoke to me so that I was able to handle my loss. Session Three became my guide on a journey toward peace with what happened. Does that make sense? It may not be of any use at all to you, but I wanted to share how I managed my own recent loss (of a pet).

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 11:10 am

Welcome Niki!!
I spent years in the dark pit of depression.
I didn't have the program. Time and the easing
of some tough stresses gradually let the sunshine enter my life again.
At the time I ordered the program (Jan. 2007), I was having trouble driving. Also when I'd try to go shopping I would feel sure that I would pass out.
I was helped right away by the program. In the first cd, I learned that the anxiety attacks were not dangerous. That they really wouldn't hurt me. This took a lot of the fear away.
I got past Session 6 and then I kind of slacked off.
I am going to finish the program though.
I have received much help from this forum. I learned many things from reading the posts that have helped.
And I feel like some are my close friends. I do not feel alone now. Although I live alone.

So I think you will find help and comfort here.
Depression is a theif that steals the joy right out of a life. But you will get better!

I'm glad you dropped in. Keep coming here.
Mary Jane

happy2b · Post by **happy2b** » Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:57 am

Hi Pecos ! I think what you are doing is a wonderful thing. I have done the program, and have had on and off depression and anxiety for over 3o years. The last few days i've been having depression again. Today though it's worse than it has been in a while. Our family business is going thorough extremely bad times, and my sons and daughter all work and are part owners of the company, and my husband has been doing everything he can to keep our heads above water. I try not to let it affect me by worry. I have bring praying everyday for help. When I get this way I feel so alone and scared. I could use some incouragement. I know I should get out and walk or do something, but my IBS is back, and I just feel sad and weepy. Thanks, Bonnie

happy2b · Post by **happy2b** » Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:58 am

Originally posted by happy2b:
Hi Pecos ! I think what you are doing is a wonderful thing. I have done the program, and have had on and off depression and anxiety for over 3o years. The last few days i've been having depression again. Today though it's worse than it has been in a while. Our family business is going thorough extremely bad times, and my sons and daughter all work and are part owners of the company, and my husband has been doing everything he can to keep our heads above water. I try not to let it affect me by worry. I have bring praying everyday for help. When I get this way I feel so alone and scared. I could use some incouragement. I know I should get out and walk or do something, but my IBS is back, and I just feel sad and weepy. Thanks, Bonnie

happy2b · Post by **happy2b** » Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:06 am

Mary Jane, You sound like a wonderful person, one who I also wish were my next door neighbor. I feel lonely so often, and I'm Married with children and grandchildren who I see often, but when I get dpressed, I get so lonely and isolated feeling. I have no reason to feel this way, but I guess depression makes you feel that way sometime. I wish I had your additude. With love, Bonnie

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:48 am

Bonnie, your external stressors are enormous. Businesses and companies of all sizes are struggling these days, so your feelings are certainly based on real things. I wish I had answers for those problems. I do have huge wishes of encouragement for you, and want you to know depression is a real thing, too. It doesn't just drift into our head and wait until we shake it off. I want you to feel welcomed right back into this community. Perhaps you could do something wonderful for yourself (sounds like you do so much for others). Perhaps that something could be doing this program all over again. It will work you out of your depression; it's working me out of mine.
Many warm hugs to you, my friend.
Pecos