School starts soon
Hello, I'm just nervous to start college up in the fall again. I'm in grad school and you would think I would be use to the whole college thing by now. I am just nervous because I am going to live with an old friend and scared I am going to be alone a lot. I get really panicky alone because I fear there will be no one there to help me if I get a panic. I know....I need to stop the what if's, but its really hard to not think about. I was just looking for any suggestions on what to do or think about when I'm alone and feel a panic rising. I am trying to be more independent and trying to call people less when I panic (my main distraction). Thanks so much!!
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Find hobbies that you enjoy doing alone. I personally am addicted to word puzzles and logic problems, and since they can be complicated they really take my mind off of whatever is troubling me.
Writing in your journal is also a great activity. You get to talk all you want - and it doesn't get sick of you.
Writing in your journal is also a great activity. You get to talk all you want - and it doesn't get sick of you.
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Hey, listen, I am a teacher, and the source of my whole panic attacks - besides all the baggage from my past that I have to learn to deal with - is starting school again. This year they changed to grade I teach and that has scared the bejesus out of me. Your not alone. I like to understand it is coming and tell myself...It is hard right now because it is unkown. The first days will be very hard because THEY are unkown. But I will get used to it as I have many times before. During those days that are going the be the hardest I will just go through the motions until I get used to it. It's ok to be nervous. Everyone is. We just think we are alone. Your not and you will get through it. When you do get through it, tell yourself how proud you are of getting it done. Hope that helps...It's what I've been doing and it's made me feel a little better. Although, I am going to own my feelings and say I am still a bit afraid...and thats ok.
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Not sure if this will help or not - but it's helped me. My panic / anxiety escalated when I'm singing in front of a group along with all the hormonal imbalance I've been through. We've been into music all our lives and our four daughters also sing...so I flipped the whole thing and asked myself....what if someone were to prevent me from singing? I mean cause it all to hault?? That's what the fear was trying to do, although it wasn't a physical person I could see.... That, in itself, is enough to make me fight - let me tell ya - cuz this is what I've been called to do!!! So when it comes to college, or any other big steps....try to put yourself in a position of physically seeing someone in your way trying to block you. I'd shove em over and walk right over them. LOL A training I took called 'No more stage fright' had a really funny comic in our workbook. It was a big strong woman pushing herself through a heavy door and throwing it open and on her shirt it said "To hell with fear". And that's the truth because it needs to go right back where it originated...in the pits of hell. Hope I've helped!!
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Fear of the panic sensations seem to be the problem here. Once you overcome the fear of panic, you OVERCOME PANIC! I know it's hard to believe but it's true. That was probably the hardest truth for me to grasp but once I did, my life changed competely!
Hang in there and remember the only way to overcome fear is to face it with POSITIVE, TRUTHFUL SELF-TALK!
Hang in there and remember the only way to overcome fear is to face it with POSITIVE, TRUTHFUL SELF-TALK!
I, too, am a little nervous for school to start. Like you I am beginning grad school, but I've been out for 12 years and am completely changing my career path.
My psychologist told me to look at it as an "adventure"- not everyone is fortunate enough to have this opportunity and consequently, remain trapped in a career they've come to despise. I love this concept, because I've always been an adventurous person and this has a positive connotation.
The advice my acupressurist gave is equally good. When I mentioned I was intimitated by returning full-time, this is what he said, "You KNOW you're intelligent and have already successfully completed your BA. Additionly, you've acquired invaluable wisdom in your professional experience (taught h.s. English for 12 years). Lastly, when you think of being inadequate to profs, don't underestimate yourself- they have the knowledge you want and you have the $$$ that pays the University to keep them employed," (word of caution- keep this last part to yourself. Nothing ticks an instructor/prof off more than manipulation by entitlement).
MY advice... all of the grad courses I've ever taken in the past are about self-motivation/discipline. Complete your work, and you'll be fine.
fischee
Now if I can only follow my own advice ;*)!
My psychologist told me to look at it as an "adventure"- not everyone is fortunate enough to have this opportunity and consequently, remain trapped in a career they've come to despise. I love this concept, because I've always been an adventurous person and this has a positive connotation.
The advice my acupressurist gave is equally good. When I mentioned I was intimitated by returning full-time, this is what he said, "You KNOW you're intelligent and have already successfully completed your BA. Additionly, you've acquired invaluable wisdom in your professional experience (taught h.s. English for 12 years). Lastly, when you think of being inadequate to profs, don't underestimate yourself- they have the knowledge you want and you have the $$$ that pays the University to keep them employed," (word of caution- keep this last part to yourself. Nothing ticks an instructor/prof off more than manipulation by entitlement).
MY advice... all of the grad courses I've ever taken in the past are about self-motivation/discipline. Complete your work, and you'll be fine.
fischee
Now if I can only follow my own advice ;*)!
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