General "Complaint"

fischee · Post by **fischee** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:18 pm

One frustration I've had is that sometimes I post a question/comment and never hear any feedback, even though many people have read it. Sometimes I feel like I'm talking to myself (which, yes, I have a tendency to do on a regular basis:D). This is especially aggravating because I always try to be helpful, supporative, and empathetic of others.

Sometimes I feel like I'm being ignored or even "blackballed"... Does anyone else feel this way?
fischee

fischee · Post by **fischee** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:24 pm

Your COMPLETE honesty is encouraged. I've been told I have a pretty strong and "assertive" personality; (My sister and I "stole" a toast from Boston Legal, "Love us or hate us, there's no one else like us"- HA!) am I too much of a know-it-all? Seriously, I WILL NOT be offended by constructive criticism.
Thanks!

Mary Wargo · Post by **Mary Wargo** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:37 pm

I'm sorry you feel like you're being ignored fischee. I've had posts where I didn't receive any replies either.. I think it depends on the mood of the group at the time a topic comes up sometimes, or if there's been a similar post that people have already replied to. ?????

Rowan · Post by **Rowan** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:39 pm

I wouldn't worry about it. I think all of us have posted a topic that didn't get many responses. I'm sure you're not being blackballed...

Perhaps the previous poster is correct, and the thread you start has already been addressed, therefore people are less likely to respond?

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:24 pm

I think it happens to all of us. Sometimes, I dont know about the topic or don't have anything worthwhile to contribute. When I have more free time, I tend to make effort to respond to more posts. I hope you'll give it another shot. You could also private message some people you might know and have a specific conversation. You're more likely to get a response back from a PM.

t rock · Post by **t rock** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 7:11 pm

hello all- this is the my first time being on this forum although I've had the program since the middle of may, just started it .fischee I'm sorry that you feel that you're talking to yourself.and maybe bevhembree. mary wargo and rowan are right so. I hope you won't let that stop you we are all in this thing together.if I have anything that I think will help be sure that I'll reply from what I've read on this forum I'm starting to see that this is a team thing be incouraged fischee o.k

Holly J · Post by **Holly J** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 9:29 pm

Some of my posts don't get replies either. . . I just think whatever and write another post. haha. Sometimes people probably don't know what to say. Sometimes I read posts that are very good but i don't know exactly what to write so I don't writ anything. I am sorry though. My posts too have been unanswered. iv read your posts though and think they're good!!

LMM · Post by **LMM** » Thu Jul 17, 2008 12:57 am

Holly,
you are one of the first people to answer my posts, and i thank you for that. i have read others of yours that i can not answer, but if i cant'answer,then i dont' reply.

ship2shore · Post by **ship2shore** » Thu Jul 17, 2008 1:08 am

You certainly have a valid complaint. I think you really touched a nerve with me when you brought up feeling blackballed. I try to reply only if I think I can help and I only want to put my 2 cents in if I have a clue about what the topic is about. Does that make sense?

RMENURSE8 · Post by **RMENURSE8** » Thu Jul 17, 2008 3:11 am

I like to state my thoughts to get the person to think back to what is being taught in the program. Sometimes what is being asked gets responses that have nothing to do with the person asking but everything to do with the person stating the response and becomes boring and irrelavent to the community. Moreover, the person asking often times really needs some redirecting, tough love and some of what I see is pitty, enabeling and cuddling. That all has its place but there are situations when if the person asking would just listen and refer back to the program, their issues would clearly be resolved. Resollution results in less anxiety, greater personal growth and an end to the misery the person is expressing.

That said, you feeling "black balled" is exactly that, your feelings! Are your expectations that people will (must) respond to you (that is a question to ask yourself, is this an expectation issue for me?). If they do or if they don't your stating we, as a group, have singled you out and won't answer your concerns. That is what black balled means to me. Is that negetive thinking or positive thinking?

Hey, what happens if i now get black balled or a post saying i am "hearless" for being honest? - nothing - Relax, no one is black balling anyone here!. (well, maybe me now hehe).

RB