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i started the program last thurs. my husband was all for it and said he would support me. My B'day was Sun and no one acknowleded it. I lost it on sat with my son-in-law while chatting on the computer. My daughter emailed me a put me down, my husband said I told him to get out of the house. I do not recal ever saying that. He was gone when I woke up, is living probably in a motel and says that inorder for him to come back, I have to promise him that I will have no more outbursts. He talked negatively to me and over me the entire time. I mention to him that there are pages for others to read in the workbook. He didn't want to go through the program. It was up to me to make myself better or he wasn't coming home. I tried the breathing and it worked for awhile. But I cry most of the time. I feel that by leaving, he is not showing me any support and at this point I can't make the kind of promise that he demands. He tells me he should have left me a yr. ago. I have signed up for some 1 on 1 help just a little while ago. I hope someone can help me!!! moonkid/Annie
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Annie,
You poor thing. You have endured so much.
It really stinks that no one acknowledged your birthday. That was not nice of them at all. But it is NOT a character reference about you. It is about them though.
Your daughter probably has her own issues to deal with and lashed out at someone she could, and would still love her and be there.
Maybe your husband leaving IS showing support. It's not what you want, but maybe it's what you need. You can now focus on yourself more than you would've been able to before. Sometimes, I think it's good to have some solitude, time to ourselves. It can force us to learn to depend on ourself. Try and take the negative and find a positive in it. There's got to be a silver lining somewhere. Maybe it's better he isn't around while you work on this, get started with it, because he wouldn't be as supportive as you need, and so God removed him from the picture, sort of, to give you that space and opportunity.
Let's face it, being like this isn't easy for us. But it can't be easy for our families either. It sounds like there's alot of hurt going around.
You've taken the first step. Keep moving forward. As difficult as it is, keep plugging away at the program.
By you changing, the others in your family will be forced to change as well, therefore, the entire situation will change.
Everything will work out.
My cousin always tells me, "This too shall pass." As much as I hate to admit it, she's right.
Keep your chin up, face to the sun. Relax, breathe, and take each day one at a time. You can do no more.
You will succeed. You can do this. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for.
You have come to the right place. Either posts in the forums, or even live chat if you need some immediate communication. Everyone here is going through these things too and are so empathetic and sympathetic. It has been a source of great comfort and commraderie for me.
<span class="ev_code_RED">STAY STRONG!!</span>
You poor thing. You have endured so much.
It really stinks that no one acknowledged your birthday. That was not nice of them at all. But it is NOT a character reference about you. It is about them though.
Your daughter probably has her own issues to deal with and lashed out at someone she could, and would still love her and be there.
Maybe your husband leaving IS showing support. It's not what you want, but maybe it's what you need. You can now focus on yourself more than you would've been able to before. Sometimes, I think it's good to have some solitude, time to ourselves. It can force us to learn to depend on ourself. Try and take the negative and find a positive in it. There's got to be a silver lining somewhere. Maybe it's better he isn't around while you work on this, get started with it, because he wouldn't be as supportive as you need, and so God removed him from the picture, sort of, to give you that space and opportunity.
Let's face it, being like this isn't easy for us. But it can't be easy for our families either. It sounds like there's alot of hurt going around.
You've taken the first step. Keep moving forward. As difficult as it is, keep plugging away at the program.
By you changing, the others in your family will be forced to change as well, therefore, the entire situation will change.
Everything will work out.
My cousin always tells me, "This too shall pass." As much as I hate to admit it, she's right.
Keep your chin up, face to the sun. Relax, breathe, and take each day one at a time. You can do no more.
You will succeed. You can do this. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for.
You have come to the right place. Either posts in the forums, or even live chat if you need some immediate communication. Everyone here is going through these things too and are so empathetic and sympathetic. It has been a source of great comfort and commraderie for me.
<span class="ev_code_RED">STAY STRONG!!</span>
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Annie...hang on, help is on the way! As you work thru the program...which of course you have to do for YOU...not anyone else, you'll find the strength and confidence in yourself to support whatever decision your heart and your God direct you! You've already taken a HUGE step in acknowledging your need for assistance and ordering the program...now get to it! Take this time to yourself to work on the program and please. please, please DO NOT replay the negatives in your mind, that you've either heard and/or said during this past week...instead focus on all of your great attributes! Lastly, happy belated birthday! 
Take good care of Annie, she needs it right now!
Take good care of Annie, she needs it right now!-
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Annie,
LisaWoo has made some great points and I do agree. Although solitude typically has been a big struggle for me, more and more I am finding it to be quite positive. It has given me the opportunity to change my thinking and encourage myself. I am now beginning to give myself the support I need. I am working on depending on me alone. Any support I get from others is just a bonus! This is a huge challenge and today is a good day for me. I had a very tough day late last week (lots of tears and lonely feelings). It's a work in progress and there is hope that things will get better.
You are a strong, unique beautiful person with the ability to make your life so much better. Give your husband and family some time. When I am depressed, I know I become quite irritable and say things I really don't mean. I am doing better at being kind to myself and others. What has helped me the most, as far as my depression, is to get exercise and LOSE THE SUGAR.
Take care of yourself - treat yourself to a walk outside! Have faith in your abilities to work through this program. It WILL help. Things will work out in the end and you will be much better for the hard work and struggles that you're going through now.
May God give you comfort and strength.
LisaWoo has made some great points and I do agree. Although solitude typically has been a big struggle for me, more and more I am finding it to be quite positive. It has given me the opportunity to change my thinking and encourage myself. I am now beginning to give myself the support I need. I am working on depending on me alone. Any support I get from others is just a bonus! This is a huge challenge and today is a good day for me. I had a very tough day late last week (lots of tears and lonely feelings). It's a work in progress and there is hope that things will get better.
You are a strong, unique beautiful person with the ability to make your life so much better. Give your husband and family some time. When I am depressed, I know I become quite irritable and say things I really don't mean. I am doing better at being kind to myself and others. What has helped me the most, as far as my depression, is to get exercise and LOSE THE SUGAR.
Take care of yourself - treat yourself to a walk outside! Have faith in your abilities to work through this program. It WILL help. Things will work out in the end and you will be much better for the hard work and struggles that you're going through now.
May God give you comfort and strength.
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You can take heart in the knowledge that there is no place on earth that you could have chosen to be that will better your life than this program.You will get yourself well and your family will come around.I put my wife through hell before I took the program.Your husband is scared and doesn't know how to react to your mood swings.When you start to get better he will remember why he fell in love with you in the first place.