HAS THE PROGRAM MADE YOU QUESTION YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

NIRELANDGUY · Post by **NIRELANDGUY** » Fri Jul 04, 2008 5:10 am

This program has made me question many things in my life, From my job to my personality. The latest is my relationship, Is this the right woman for me? Is she my soul mate? We've been together about 9 years, and when we got together the anxiety and panic attacks just started. I find myself looking at other women thinking "Oh I'd love some of that" and the though has crossed my mind to leave, but then I also have dreams of what life would be like without her and I wake up sad and depressed, add to that we have 2 kids. It may be a case of the grass is greener etc. As I say the program has made me question almost everything in my life and I am just so confussed.

Have any of you's any experience?

epa · Post by **epa** » Fri Jul 04, 2008 5:45 am

Hello Nirelandguy,

I have recently had this concern with my husband of 19 years. But thanks to my anxiety forcing me into understand all of the different mental diseases out there and anxiety/panic, etc., I learned that much of my difficulties with him is from HIS mental disease. I'm not sure, but according to my therapist, he may be bipolar, which I am not. And I have been blaming myself for years for all of the difficulties (although I'm sure I did play a role in at times as well).

Anyways, I'm looking for help for him as well as for me. We have a little girl and I won't disrupt her little life for anything if I can help it. On the other hand, if his disease causes problems for her too and he won't address it, then I may be forced to make a decision that I don't want to make.

I guess I would suggest that you review your situation and weigh out all the possibilities of how it might hurt or how it might help everyone else involved. Your children are a serious consideration as well as your partner. Try a negative/positive chart and see which is the heavier side. And give it time and a lot of honesty. And when you feel better about yourself after going through Lucinda's program, these feelings/thoughts might go away. It may be your anxiety.

Good luck - Eileen

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jul 04, 2008 7:59 am

Originally posted by EileenV:
Hello Nirelandguy,

I have recently had this concern with my husband of 19 years. But thanks to my anxiety forcing me into understand all of the different mental diseases out there and anxiety/panic, etc., I learned that much of my difficulties with him is from HIS mental disease. I'm not sure, but according to my therapist, he may be bipolar, which I am not. And I have been blaming myself for years for all of the difficulties (although I'm sure I did play a role in at times as well).

Anyways, I'm looking for help for him as well as for me. We have a little girl and I won't disrupt her little life for anything if I can help it. On the other hand, if his disease causes problems for her too and he won't address it, then I may be forced to make a decision that I don't want to make.

I guess I would suggest that you review your situation and weigh out all the possibilities of how it might hurt or how it might help everyone else involved. Your children are a serious consideration as well as your partner. Try a negative/positive chart and see which is the heavier side. And give it time and a lot of honesty. And when you feel better about yourself after going through Lucinda's program, these feelings/thoughts might go away. It may be your anxiety.

Good luck - Eileen

I think its Lucinda's program that has made me think. Before I was just stick in a rut, I had no dreams, no goals, I just stuck with old familiar as I was to scared to change. Now I have the courage to change things in my life. But I think the dreams I have had of the pain of leaving is a warning not to.