A Simple Question

Jeff-in-Mpls · Post by **Jeff-in-Mpls** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 11:25 am

Is jealousy/envy part of my anxiety disorder?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 12:11 pm

YES! A very BIG part of it! As outlined in the program, our personality traits are basically the root causes of our condition. Do you have the program?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 12:17 pm

Does it seem unrealistic at times? Do you blow things up out of proportion? May not seem like it, maybe, we all have at one point or another.
Could be Jeff, especially if it's unfounded, or just seems to be a constant habit, constant thought. I think lots of us can relate to the question you're asking and Lucinda mentions this on one or two of the tapes. With anxiety we can feel insecure and that may lead to jealousy. Think of all the worry, obsessive thinking and "what if" thinking that goes hand in hand with anxiety, that brought on the anxiety in the first place.
We think too much Jeff and when it's negative, any thought can creep in there.
This is why it's so important for us to use positive self talk, be good to ourselves in our thoughts.
With healthy self esteem, jealousy usually has a hard time creeping in there. There's one good reason to work hard at bringing down the anxiety level. That "J" word has a real nasty bite to it.
God bless and hugs.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 19, 2007 1:08 pm

Hi, It's a relief to hear someone else explain the way they feel in those words, I have been to many doctors that just didn't seem to believe me. I understand the jealousy part- I look at other people when I'm out and think wow, look at all these "normal" people out driving, eating in restaurants, laughing....wondering if I can get that back...just started the program 2 weeks ago.. hope to find my answer

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jun 04, 2009 1:04 pm

I just researched the jealousy word and found this. Been a while since anyone wrote here but I just had to say it was a relief to find that jealousy was related to the anxiety. I had begun to think I was nuts, always watching my husband's every move, looking for evidence that he'd done something wrong and God forbid when he did slip here and there I was ready to hang him out to dry. NOw I realize that it was my obsessive thinking that was getting triggered. Before I couldn't understand WHY I kept thinking this way.