Anxious about a wedding

Puddin · Post by **Puddin** » Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:59 am

I have been having many panic attacks lately.I m in my cousins wedding party tomorrow and I m feeling panicky about it cause I dont really do good at sitting in a church.I feel stupid cause its not my wedding so who is looking at me.But that feeling is already making my mind work in overdrive.I had a bad experience in church when I was younger and it still makes me feel that spacey feeling whenever I m in a church.Just venting here and trying to put my mind at ease

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jun 27, 2008 11:44 am

I have had that problem many times. Just know that you will be ok. Take deep breaths. I have to do a reading at my cousin's wedding next weekend. My therapist told me about grounding techniques. She said it will help to keep me in the present moment. Wear a bracelet and keep touching it, twirling it, etc.. Or bring an object with you that you can focus on. I used to read the wedding program over and over.

Hope this helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jun 27, 2008 12:20 pm

Hey Puddin
Weddings can be fun just look at it this way:
-Observe the nervous and happy face of the groom
-Observe that old aunt that is already crying
-Look at the clothes people are wearing. Just to yourself say it if you like it, didnt like, look at the colors and hairstyle
-Look at the church, I personally find them very interesting with all those pictures and decoration.
-Of course do all of this discreately
-The jewellery thing is good, Im always picking on my earings and watch when Im anxious and bored.
-Have fun! Weddings can be a great opportunity to have a good laugh
Good luck and all the best.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 30, 2008 4:05 am

Hey guys thanx for the advice.I had a very long day starting early on in the morning.I was pretty good up until halfway through the ceremony and I started having anxious thoughts and i was a little panicky but made it threw.We then had to make pics outside and it was very hot.I didnt have much to eat or drink all day and was feeling a little dehydrated and my heart started racing and i was getting very nervous and started to panic.I made it to the wedding hall for the party but felt jittery and for the first time took a half of a zanac.I hate to take any sort of pills so i was kind of nervous.It took about 30 min to kick in but I definitely felt less panicky and my heart wasnt racing as much.By the last couple of hours of the party i was dancing around and having a great time.I couldnt believe that i was dancing that much after how I felt earlier in the day.I felt so much better when i was leaving the party.
This is whats so frustrating that I have these panic attacks especially in the morning and at night I feel like a different person.For example this morning I had to go see my therapist and i was having a panic attack before i left.It takes about 20 to 25 min to get there and when I drive alone lately I have been freaking out.I had all the symptoms,racing heart,couldnt breath,heavy chest feeling and i ended up getting there late.I was very fidgety during the sesssion when normally i feel a little more relaxed when i m there.I m getting very depressed cause i cant figure out whats causing all these feelings.I feel like i m trapping myself cause i m not just living.I m thinking about everything I do now instead of just doing.I m getting in such a rut and my wife cant be happy with me.I feel like I m botherin her with this.I have a one year old boy and I want to get better so I can do things with him and I m scared that I wont be able to.I am frightening myself over every little thing and getting myself upset.
When I drive with someone I m fine and last week I played basketball for like an hour and felt great after but the next morning felt horrible again.this cycle is occurring on a daily basis and i need to break and just dont know how.Looking for answers and I would appreciate any help.Thanx