anxiety with sex

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 5:38 pm

I have anxiety when we don't hve sex. Sex relieves any depression, phsical pain, and sadness.

HeatherRDJ · Post by **HeatherRDJ** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 3:03 am

I also have anxiety with sex, mainly beforehand, I seem to dread it. I've never been able to finish, if you know what I mean and mainly find sex just okay. I am sure it's a control issue with me and being able to let myself go. Though I've never had much luck by myself either. Anyhow, I let my husband do it about once a week but normally I tell him to hurry up and get it over with.

Anna Burrell · Post by **Anna Burrell** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 3:13 am

It seems like im only doing it as a favor to my boyfriend. Not because I really want to do it. It tears me up because I used to enjoy sex and I am attracted to him but I dread doing it

JNfree · Post by **JNfree** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 3:52 am

I have anxiety about sex for many months now. I have posted about it in the past. I want to be pregnant badly but am afraid to be...So in turn I developed a fear of sex....

Rhasslariel · Post by **Rhasslariel** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 11:54 am

I also have no sex drive. Though, i can't say I ever really liked sex. I used to like the idea of it more than the actual act. (My fantasy sex life was always just fine.

) Its always been painful for me. My gyno says I'm very narrow. And unfortunately, yes, you see that right, UNFORTUNATELY (LOL) my husband is big. So in my case, bigger is definitely not better. He also is a very submissive personality. So its totally up to me to make any moves regarding sex, and since I don't well, he's out of luck. And if I did, I'd have to do ALL the work. I already have a full time job.

He never says anything though. And I have no problem if he watches adult videos when I'm at work or sleeping. Heck, it saves me from having to do anything. LOL I do feel guilty about it though. But then, If I tried, I'd also be afraid it would bring back my heart palpitations. Even though it never has, just the possibility makes me nervous.

Staying Positive · Post by **Staying Positive** » Tue Jun 10, 2008 12:49 pm

I like a couple others of yous have no sex drive either. I love my husband but just don't want anything to do with sex. I also feel like I'm just doing him a favor and that makes me feel weird. He knows this , so when we rarely have sex he asks questions like if I liked it, etc... and then I feel weird or bad for actually not liking it and I feel ashamed or gross. I hope it's just my hormones and this anxiety cuz we used to be like rabbits!