Im afraid of Failing

Mandabanana2009 · Post by **Mandabanana2009** » Mon May 19, 2008 4:39 pm

Im listening to the first session of the series. Im afraid of failing... Not being able to do it. Im afraid of it making the panic attacks worse... I already have at least one a week... Idk...

Manda

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 19, 2008 4:52 pm

hi manda,, i can relate, i started my second session today, but the fear of failing is also high there for me. or will it really work? my roller coaster of mood swings have become so common i worry that nothing will help and i should just keep trying to do it on my own, the kit sits on my floor and i look at it , and find it takes all i have to even believe it will work, and hate to waste the money if this is how i am going to be. and yet i am tired of the up; and lows.
my fiance is very understanding but he too has wondered why i get these ups and lows so often.
and if i try to do this and fail, then i am afraid i will believe there is not help for me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 19, 2008 6:31 pm

I think instead of looking at whether or not the course works or fails, is that one look at the support they will get here. That's the main reason I signed up for this course. I was attracted to the fact that there was support that came along with the course. I am so tired of struggling alone.... Good luck with it. Any small gain should be worth it, don't you think

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 19, 2008 6:56 pm

i relate too.
and since i started the program (im on day 5) there have been times where listening to the relaxation tapes have made me way more anxious than before, or thinking about doing this 15 week thing gets too overwhelming.
and you bet i feel guilty about not living up to my expectations of doing it perfectly.
but so what?
either i do this, and i know it will help me at least *some* and let it be uncomfortable in the meantime, or i go back to the way i was.

so, i'm uncomfortable.
but yesterday for the first time that pain in the back of my neck went away for a couple of hours, and for a little while all the chatter in my head went away.

so, i bet in no time you'll have similar stories.
we have faith in you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 19, 2008 9:25 pm

i see where ur coming from im sure all of us have i was afrade as well an i did fail an i picked myself up an did the program over an over agin until i got it we can do so much thinking in our heads we should be able to take it all in and we can you can do it!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 20, 2008 3:19 am

I think the bigger failure is to fail to try. I will say that this stuff isn't easy and sometimes you feel like your anxiety is getting worse before it gets better. But as you persist and apply the techniques of the program a profound change will occur with time. You are reprogramming your mind and it resists change because it is scary to lose sight of the old & familiar ways of thinking in favor of more productive & self enhancing ways. Yet, it was these old ways of looking at things that brought you to anxiety/panic/depression to begin with. So what if you feel anxiety- it is only anxiety and if you work diligently on the program you will feel better. The journey begins from here with a single step...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 20, 2008 3:26 am

I have the same problem. I tried to do the relaxation tape yesterday and was feeling so anxious, I turned it off. Rinolinca, do you find sometimes you can do the relaxation and sometimes you can't ? I almost afraid to try again.

jersey:jackie:) · Post by **jersey:jackie:)** » Tue May 20, 2008 3:38 am

this was my thought.how can you be a failure if you are trying something. it seems like you would work harder to make it work for you.people do not like changes and they are scared that they might fail so some do not want to do anything that makes them feel better.you can all make it and if i did so can you.i wish all of you that has started on your journey good luck and GOD BLESS.
don
THIS IS THE DAY THAT THE LORD HAS MADE. LET US REJOYCE AND BE GLAD IN IT.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue May 20, 2008 4:03 am

Try listening to the sessions in small increments until you feel comfortable with the sessions. Start slow if you need to. It can seem overwhelming at first but there really is no rush. Once you get thru the first three I will bet you will be wondering why you were afraid of it to begin with.

lilsismj · Post by **lilsismj** » Tue May 20, 2008 5:17 am

amberh,
yes, that's exactly how it happens for me.
one time i can almost compleatly relax, one time it makes me nervous and angry, one time it feels great to do something for myself and i'm totally into it, another time i'm bored of it and swear it doesn't work and can't sit still anyway.

it's of tremendous comfort to me to know that this is really common. we are such anxious people that the very idea of slowing down really freaks us out. but my attitude is: so what.
so what if i can't sit through it this time, so what if i still can't relax, so what if i might get anxious?
i know for a fact that it's going to help me at least a little, and that eventually i'll get the hang of it, so who cares if it makes me uncomfortable?
i don't think it matters that i go through it perfectly like i expect to- wich is that when i want to relax i demand that i be able to or i'll freak out. i'm letting myself go through it imperfectly, and it still works. (i heard it can take up to three months)
keep on love- it's gonna work for you too.