crushes

[MC Grace]

i realize that i tend to develop crushes in the workplace. it kind of annoys me that i'm thinking about these people after work.
this time it's a manager with a girlfriend (and this is the third time. . !). it seems kinda petty but it's really annoying moi. any thought on how to redirect my thoughts?

[Carolyn Dickman]

OMG. I'm the worst at this. I always have some free-floating crush cycle going on. Currently, it's with a (straight) married coworker. We're actually pretty good friends, so it's all the more disturbing. But fantasize, I do. I think his wife is super. And, I know he doesn't mean to encourage me (in fact, I have never mentioned said crush), but he's so nice to me and always joking around in a subtly sexual way.

If anyone has ideas how to quash this, I'd love to hear them.

[Guest]

Two words: be careful. I know, it's trite, but seriously, work is hard enough without having additional awkwardness. Personally, I always suppressed workplace crushes (none at all since I'm now married). Suppressing or indulging is your choice; always your choice. My opinion is that it's generally not a good idea; every situation is different, though. Between two peers, ok, but between supervisor and supervisee, can get ugly in a big bad way. If one or both parties are taken, also this can get big bad and ugly. Good luck, and take care of yourself whatever you do! It's not wrong or bad to be attracted to someone and have it be returned, just make sure the situation isn't going to harm you in any way.

[Maestoso29]

thanks you guys! i was listening to a tape after i posted this, i forget which one--and also reading another post. . . both mentioned: putting up a stop sign in your mind. this has been working pretty well.

it's so helpful to hear someone who can relate, Christian73, and also cuttingirl's well-put advice.