How to NOT sweat the small stuff?
Question for everyone here. How do you NOT sweat the small stuff? Despite the major improvements in my anxiety and life, I still find myself really overreacting to small things that really do not mean anything at all. Also, sometimes I involve myself way too much in other peoples situations. It's usually an introspective thing where I spend way too much time thinking about their individual situations, contemplating and analyzing them. As you can probably guess, this is not only annoying, but also a giant waste of time. I'm sure these are cover ups for my own issues that I don't want to think about, but how can I go about turning this around?
hugs&kisses,
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
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Mary Wargo
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For me it's definitely an avoidance of wanting to look at my own issues and what I need to be working on. When I notice myself getting way too involved in other people's stuff I put the stop sign up and say "stop it, you're avoiding your own issues which are--------." As silly as this may sound it has been working for me.
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Good suggestion, MC.
Mary - I notice I do this a lot. Tonight, for example, I spent a good hour or so discussing a friend of mine to another friend of mine. I wouldn't say I was bashing them, but more of analyzing them and their situation and I am pretty certain it is because I have something I need to take care of and that freaks me out. I wish I could stop doing this. The stop sign thing works wonderfully. I use it often. It's hard to remember we have control over this stuff.
Mary - I notice I do this a lot. Tonight, for example, I spent a good hour or so discussing a friend of mine to another friend of mine. I wouldn't say I was bashing them, but more of analyzing them and their situation and I am pretty certain it is because I have something I need to take care of and that freaks me out. I wish I could stop doing this. The stop sign thing works wonderfully. I use it often. It's hard to remember we have control over this stuff.
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"You hear it all the time: a new experience cannot occur until you clear a space. It sounds like a cliche, but it is logical and true. If a house is full of clutter, there is no room for a new piano. You must clear away a space. If you buy a new refrigerator, you must get rid of the old one. It's logical.
Everyone knows its true — but how often do we resist this lesson when it comes to the clutter in our mind?
"We keep hatred, grievances, jealousy and limitation — all the while trying to move in HUGE new ideas like love, joy and abundance.
"These things literally will not fit in your mind while it is cluttered with old ideas"...
-- Lisa Natoli
A cluttered mind really is a terrible space to waste. Maybe it's time to pack away a few old beliefs and ideas along with those negative reactions that harm you so you can get on with the business of developing a beautifully blessed life...
May you always be willing to toss out the old and embrace that which is pure and good and beautiful...
~ Kate Nowak ~
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Everyone knows its true — but how often do we resist this lesson when it comes to the clutter in our mind?
"We keep hatred, grievances, jealousy and limitation — all the while trying to move in HUGE new ideas like love, joy and abundance.
"These things literally will not fit in your mind while it is cluttered with old ideas"...
-- Lisa Natoli
A cluttered mind really is a terrible space to waste. Maybe it's time to pack away a few old beliefs and ideas along with those negative reactions that harm you so you can get on with the business of developing a beautifully blessed life...
May you always be willing to toss out the old and embrace that which is pure and good and beautiful...
~ Kate Nowak ~
Posted by: LINELLA BRECKENRIDGE
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Karilynn,
I was so glad to see what you posted and the replies (which were helpful). I do this same thing. It doesn't matter, people I dislike, people I like, I mean, I talk about them and their situations, good and bad and like Lucinda says in one of the tapes-I bring 'them' home for the wknd or at night to my family etc. I just recently started the program for the second time because of stuff like this. I was in a much better place with myself while I did the program the first time. Good Luck with this.
I was so glad to see what you posted and the replies (which were helpful). I do this same thing. It doesn't matter, people I dislike, people I like, I mean, I talk about them and their situations, good and bad and like Lucinda says in one of the tapes-I bring 'them' home for the wknd or at night to my family etc. I just recently started the program for the second time because of stuff like this. I was in a much better place with myself while I did the program the first time. Good Luck with this.