Being Angry and Negative Thinker..Are u like this?

[AllisonJane]

I hate to say this but i have had this program sitting in my room for a month. My dad purchased it for me but for a while i thought i was doing fine. I started going to a therapist and the "roller coasters" stopped. But now I am just angry. Angry all the time.

I started the program but unforchanutely, I believe it works but not fully. I question how listening to others stories are going to help me. The relaxation tapes i did for the first time and I fell asleep. I woke up and tryed it again...and well I was still angry. I will admit, that I am scared of myself because i am scared i will get lazy with the program. I read the first assignments and I don't know how to stop my traits...i feel it happening, hold back from it telling myself it is silly, and then BAM! it comes in full force then I am ticked off at anyone who trys to come talk to me. Again the anger. I can't take it anymore.

Does anyone ever feel like this? (or am I the poor unforchante one pinned as the angry, angry, negative girl)

[Teshua]

Allison, there is a session devoted just to anger. I am hoping that that lesson may help you find some healthy ways of eliminating the anger or letting it out in different ways. I know that I was angry a lot too. But talking with a therapist about my anger has really helped. Please stick with the program. It does work!

Missletoes

[Ocean]

Nobody changes over night. It took years to get where you are now, it will take time to change. Patience is a virtue. There is a lot more to the program than just listening. The work starts with journaling your negative and angry thoughts and seeking replacement thoughts for the negative, angry ones. Changing self-talk is key to getting better, as is lowering expectations, forgiveness, letting go of guilt, yada, yada, yada. It's a lot more than listening. Just do the program and see how you are at the end of it. I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised. Most of us are negative and angry when we start the program.

You fell asleep when you listened to the relaxation tape. It's working already.

[Guest]

I have also stuggled with anger, but the good news isthat this program does work, but you have to do the work. There is no magical pill or spell that can take away all of our problems, but it can be done. It takes a lot of hard work and sometimes it can be hard and painful, but it is worth it. I have been using this program for a few months now as well as some therapy at Kaiser and a private therapist. Your anger may be justified but as you go through the program you will learn how to resolve your anger and other issues. Good Luck and keep with it!

[Motor City Madman]

Allison, I assure you that you are NOT the 'poor unfortunate'. Many others in the program (including me) have gone through anger of varying degrees. It seems to be part of the anxiety, and personally I think it is a 'victim' mentality (Yes I speak of myself again!)(and no this is NOT an attempt to put you nor anyone else on a guilt trip!!) I knew that attitude was'nt going to get me anywhere, but would only harm me in my walk of life and harm relationships with friends and family. I certainly had a valid reason to be angry with parents, peers etc. but anger terribly hinders our personal growth, happiness and peace!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Hang in there and work the program! Read the workbook and when you are finished, it would probably help to read the workbook again ( I don't want the old stuff to come back again so I keep with the program,and I remind myself that what I get out of the program is what I put in it!)
Hang in there,
YOU CAN DO IT !!


Rod