I have carried my anxiety into every relationship I have been in. What kind of pattern is this and why am I doing it? I start out with everything being great and I have high hopes and then I get a thought 3-4 months into the relationship and the anxiety starts up and then I start second guessing everything I have done that made sense and got me to that point.
Any ideas?
Carrying your anxiety with you?
God knows why we do that to ourselves... Why isn't really important though, removing the action and reaction is. I am relaxed and easy going early in a relationship and scare myself out of the comfort by worrying about if I'm good enough for her, if she's the "one", if this is forever, if, if, if! I have covered up my real personality and changed to be what I think the other person wants and needs, leaving myself dissatisfied and unhappy as a result.
Trust yourself and be true to yourself. If you meet someone on those terms, chances are that any relationship resulting would have a chance. Hope this helps...
Trust yourself and be true to yourself. If you meet someone on those terms, chances are that any relationship resulting would have a chance. Hope this helps...
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How about self esteem based upon a "shifting" (not stable) source? Maybe it's based upon performance rather than unconditional love and acceptance of yourself? Just a guess. Seeking self love, self esteem, filling up that empty resorvoir inside of us, from a relationship and the other person doesn't work very well. Security and self love have to come from within us whether it's faith in ourselves or in a higher power.