remembering
Does anyone have any suggestions. I do in home daycare, and when the kids are busy and playing I am in the kitchen cleaning or cooking. When I am doing one thing, I am so worried about what I am going to do next. Like I won't remember. I may have 2 ideas go through my head while I am doing dishes, and then I finish that job, and I go blank. I can't remember what I was going to do, I try to stay calm and think rational, but I start to race. I need help with what to say to myself at this point to stay calm. What are some positives for this situation. This seems to be the one time I can't get the self talk thing right. Help!!!
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Hello momma.
Relaxation is the key. Do your relaxation at least three times a day. You need to relax your mind. I was the same way, and another thing that helped me was, in the beginning of the program, Lucinda had us to do everything slowly. We had to put up reminders to slow down. You have to start by moving slower, talking slower, and even thinking slower. The problem that you are having is, your thoughts are coming in too fast and then you forget the last one. When you learn how to slow down your thoughts, you won't have that problem anymore. I hope that makes sense to you.
Relaxation is the key. Do your relaxation at least three times a day. You need to relax your mind. I was the same way, and another thing that helped me was, in the beginning of the program, Lucinda had us to do everything slowly. We had to put up reminders to slow down. You have to start by moving slower, talking slower, and even thinking slower. The problem that you are having is, your thoughts are coming in too fast and then you forget the last one. When you learn how to slow down your thoughts, you won't have that problem anymore. I hope that makes sense to you.
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Hi:
I don't know if this will help - just wondering if you could make a list of the things that you'd won't to do while the children play. So that when you finish a job, you'd have a list there before you of what you could do next.
Another thing that might help is to set a timer.
Work for 15 minutes or so, then take a break and relax. Rest. Check on the children, then set timer again for another 15 minutes of chores. And practive the breatheing techniques
as you work; and as you rest.
As for what to say to yourself: Try saying:
"I have plenty of time. I am not in a hurry.
I will get done all that is essential. I will
not feel rushed. I will take my time. I am okay".
I hope this helps. I'm not sure it will. I'll be thinking of you.
MJ
I don't know if this will help - just wondering if you could make a list of the things that you'd won't to do while the children play. So that when you finish a job, you'd have a list there before you of what you could do next.
Another thing that might help is to set a timer.
Work for 15 minutes or so, then take a break and relax. Rest. Check on the children, then set timer again for another 15 minutes of chores. And practive the breatheing techniques
as you work; and as you rest.
As for what to say to yourself: Try saying:
"I have plenty of time. I am not in a hurry.
I will get done all that is essential. I will
not feel rushed. I will take my time. I am okay".
I hope this helps. I'm not sure it will. I'll be thinking of you.
MJ
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Guest
Thanks for the words. I will give it a try. I do make lists a lot, but I feel so dependent on them that without them is when I feel spacey. I guess as I progress through the program I hope to depend less on these lists as much as I hope to not always depend on another person to make me feel safe. I am beginning session 4 today. Wish me luck and thanks again