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ShaSha,
Depression was the reason that I started this program...and it has helped me IMMENSELY!! Just keep with it and follow Lucinda's recommendations. You'll see good things happening! I promise!
This may sounds "lame" but I've really found truth in the verse in scripture that says "Love your neighbor as yourself." It's the "AS YOURSELF" bit that I wasn't getting before. I didn't love myself...therefore...how could I love others? Through this program and some other books I've been reading I am really learning how to love myself (and not feel guilty about it!) and therefore how to better love others...and not stress so much if they don't like me back!
Best things to you!! Blessings,
Dawn
Depression was the reason that I started this program...and it has helped me IMMENSELY!! Just keep with it and follow Lucinda's recommendations. You'll see good things happening! I promise!
This may sounds "lame" but I've really found truth in the verse in scripture that says "Love your neighbor as yourself." It's the "AS YOURSELF" bit that I wasn't getting before. I didn't love myself...therefore...how could I love others? Through this program and some other books I've been reading I am really learning how to love myself (and not feel guilty about it!) and therefore how to better love others...and not stress so much if they don't like me back!
Best things to you!! Blessings,
Dawn
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Thanks Dawn. What books would you recommend. I am a Christian also but there are things that still I just don't "get". I guess I just want people to appreciate me as I appreciate them. I guess that is "expectations". I'm still on chapter 1 so I haven't done that lesson yet. Thanks again and blessings to you also 
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ShaSha, You're not an old lady lol I'm 1 year older than you. We are both young at heart and that's all that matters.
I have felt like you many times, even with my own family and yes, it does hurt. Somehow we have to push past it and KNOW as Deedee said that God is our very best friends. Sometimes we may not feel that either but to heck with how we feel. We must know the TRUTH and the truth will set us FREE. I have made friends here. I know you will too. I'D LIKE TO BE YOUR FRIEND. pm me if you want.
I have felt like you many times, even with my own family and yes, it does hurt. Somehow we have to push past it and KNOW as Deedee said that God is our very best friends. Sometimes we may not feel that either but to heck with how we feel. We must know the TRUTH and the truth will set us FREE. I have made friends here. I know you will too. I'D LIKE TO BE YOUR FRIEND. pm me if you want.
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ShaSha - I'm reading a really good book called "Boundaries in Marriage" by Dr. Henry Cloud, but he also has written one called "Boundaries" that is about other relationships (than marriage). The title says somehing in it about "When to say yes, when to say no and take control of your life..." I have that one, but haven't read it yet - although the marriage one is great. Another one that is not a Christian book, but does have Christian and other spiritual references throughout is called "You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought" - it has short easy to read chapters and I have found it very encouraging and helpful.
And of course you'll find LOTS of help in the workbook that comes with this program. Be patient with yourself and reward yourself for good days (and sometimes for good hours!!!). Float through the hard times...come on here to vent and be encouraged...good things will happen for and to you...and especially as a result of the changes that you'll start making for yourself!
You deserve a good life...you can do this!
All my best,
Dawn
And of course you'll find LOTS of help in the workbook that comes with this program. Be patient with yourself and reward yourself for good days (and sometimes for good hours!!!
). Float through the hard times...come on here to vent and be encouraged...good things will happen for and to you...and especially as a result of the changes that you'll start making for yourself!You deserve a good life...you can do this!
All my best,
Dawn
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Hi ShaSha.
I see that you're only on the 1st lesson, but you are going to learn about somethings called "shoulds" and "expectations". In the program, Lucinda and others talk about how we have to let go of what we think people "should" do or how they "should" be like or treat us. We have to realize that people are going to be the way they are, regardless of how we think they should be. And that's where the "expectations" come in. You will learn not to "expect" people to be or act a certain way. People are not always going to treat you the way you think they should, nor do we act the way other people think we should. The more you get into the program, the less your anxieties will get, and you are going to feel like a weight has been lifted off of you.
I see that you're only on the 1st lesson, but you are going to learn about somethings called "shoulds" and "expectations". In the program, Lucinda and others talk about how we have to let go of what we think people "should" do or how they "should" be like or treat us. We have to realize that people are going to be the way they are, regardless of how we think they should be. And that's where the "expectations" come in. You will learn not to "expect" people to be or act a certain way. People are not always going to treat you the way you think they should, nor do we act the way other people think we should. The more you get into the program, the less your anxieties will get, and you are going to feel like a weight has been lifted off of you.
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Dear Sha Sha,
You are not old to be working on this program! i am 62 and have a son 41 and a daughter 38. I actually have a granddaughter 21, and grandsons 14 and 8!
My husband and I have talked about this several times (he is 71) about having close friends, and it is difficult to meet and have close friends. What is important is to have friends who have the same values and interests as you have, and who value you as people. Keep reaching out to people and I am sure you will find someone who will turn out to be the friend you dream of having! A gem of a friend takes time to find! Who knows maybe they are here on a forum - you never know.
Don't stop looking, God Bless You,
Jackie
You are not old to be working on this program! i am 62 and have a son 41 and a daughter 38. I actually have a granddaughter 21, and grandsons 14 and 8!
My husband and I have talked about this several times (he is 71) about having close friends, and it is difficult to meet and have close friends. What is important is to have friends who have the same values and interests as you have, and who value you as people. Keep reaching out to people and I am sure you will find someone who will turn out to be the friend you dream of having! A gem of a friend takes time to find! Who knows maybe they are here on a forum - you never know.
Don't stop looking, God Bless You,
Jackie