Rejected, Sad, Anxious

BookOfPsalms · Post by **BookOfPsalms** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 7:39 am

Wow Shasha! You sound like a really kind hearted person and I would count anyone lucky to have a friend like you!
I have found that as we get older (and this is coming from a 26 year old!), it becomes harder to make friends and keep up with old friends. People just lose touch and their lives often become hectic between work, kids, spouses and constant work to do around the house. It's also harder to meet new people when you interact with the same people everyday. I often feel sad and lonely and my boyfriend and I really wish we had other couples/friends to hang out with. It is depressing. I don't know if you ever watch "The King of Queens" (it's one of my favorite shows and so funny), but it reminds me of an episode I saw one time where Doug and Carry were desperately trying to find friends to hang out with because they felt the same way you (and I) are feeling now and they were going all over the place trying to strike up conversations with people. They went to Home Depot and ended up getting kicked out because they were freaking people out. It was really funny, but only because it's true and I could relate to it!
Just be confident in yourself and continue doing the things you are doing! I hope God sends someone really special in your life who will truly appreciate you for all you are! Sometimes we just have to be patient (I'm still waiting, but I have my family and people who love me, I'm sure you do too - lean on them) things don't always happen on our time...unfortunately...xoxox

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 7:51 am

SHASHA,
people cabe so mean smetime. when i read what you wrote you sound just like i used to be..i know that with the program that you will get the skills and tools that you need to make things happen that is positive for you..in here no one will talk bad to you or laugh at you. you can make friends that will be there no matter what. they will walk with you and pray for you as well.i hope that you have good luck..there is a light at the end of the tunnel.take care and when you get a chance read my profile. its to long to post in here.be blessed.
don

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 7:54 am

Thanks MinnChad & Britt55 for the replies. I am an old lady compared to you guys. I'm almost 57 years old although I don't feel like it. It is wonderful that you are starting the program at such young ages. I wish I had had the insight to get help when I was young.

Yes, MinnChad women feel rejected too.

I do realize how blessed I am to have found someone to spend my life with when I was so young - married at age 20! And I have two grown sons who are wonderful - they are both in their 30's. That is what I need to concentrate on!

Best wishes to both of you - ShaSha

jessanxious · Post by **jessanxious** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:00 am

Don - thanks for the encouragement. I am only on lesson 1 and I can't wait to get further along so I can learn the skills to fight depression. I did peak ahead though so I am encouraged. I am also encouraged by the kind people on this site who have responed. That is already helping me a lot.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:21 am

ShaSha,
You are NOT an old lady! You're only as old as you feel! It's funny because when I was younger I use to think 40 was old, but the older I get...the younger "older" seems to me! Maybe that's because I don't want to be "old" (not that I'd prefer the alternative...). I just can't imagine feeling old...I'll always feel young at heart, hopefully my heart keeps up with me!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:28 am

Yes I know - I don't feel old. As they say it is just a number right?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:30 am

Can anyone tell me how to check other's profiles? Thanks!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:44 am

Just click on his name (in blue) from the reply to the post he sent you (upper left corner).

Jacksonbrown · Post by **Jacksonbrown** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:57 am

Shasha, I was touched by your message. I,too, was taunted in school (for being overweight); and because I came from an extremely abusive and alcoholic family, and although I did have friends, I always felt "different". I am now in my early 60's, and I have had my share of friends who have "dropped" me. And, to tell the truth, I really do not know why, which makes it even more disturbing to me. Before this program, I took all the blame for these failed relationships, but I am beginning to feel differently, and startring to take a more philosophical attitude....perhaps it just wasn't the right "fit" for either of us, and perhaps it is not all my fault, for there are always two people in a relationship. Also, I have found that when there is more than one other couple involved, someone (or in this case couple) always seems to be squeezed out. I bet if you surveyed people, we have all had these experiences. I think a lot of people need to feel "better than"....I am learning in this program that that is their problem. I have also heard it said that you are lucky if you have one or two really close friends. I don't know if this helps, but I wanted you to know that you are not alone. And you sound like a lovely person.
P.S. I DID go back to my H.S. reunions. A lot of people did not know who I was, because I have lost a lot of weight, and I truly look a whole lot better. And some of the people who had taunted me were friendly, and did not seem to have a clue as to the pain that they had caused me in the past. Luckily, with this program, I was able to just let it go. One of them even gave me her phone #, so that I should call so we could get together! Needless to say, I never did call. But there's a lesson in there,I think......sometimes WE do the rejecting and it may be just as hurtful to others as it has been to us. I hope this helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 9:20 am

Thanks Again