I am so confused and anxious

living_4_the-future · Post by **living_4_the-future** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 4:31 pm

Everyone keeps telling me that writting is good for you and helps with anxiety. Well here I am writting, I am going to write whats been going on lately. I have been un happy with my boyfriend lately, and I was thinking about cheating on him and it is eating me alive and I cant handle it. My boyfriend is not romantic at all and I feel like he doesnt give me enough attention. But I have never been able to stay away from home this long before without anxiety, I feel more comfortable at my boufriends house than my own house I have never been able to stay with a guy all night without waking up with anxiety. I will get to whats bothering me. I met a guy and he is the romantic type and talks to me romantic but words are only words. I hung out with this guy last sat, and I couldnt even dance with him because I felt like I was cheating, I had anxiety when I first met him, and I couldnt look him in the eyes, but yet he made me start being confused about my boyfriends and I's relationship. Every sence I have met this other guy I have had anxiety symptoms. And tonite I had an attack, I am actually having one right now as I write this. I was not feeling good tonite and felt like I was going to throw up and now I feel like my head is going to explode from all the thoughts. Anyways I told my boyfriend about all this and he got kinda mad about it, and I told himI love him and I want to be with him. But in the back of my mind I just dont know. Please someone help me my mind is boggling I cant take it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 4:48 pm

Hey!

Ouch. Sounds like a rough night and a rough time you are having. Hey... I care and you will be okay. Love is a difficult and confusing thing. Think of something nice right now and concentrate on that.
I don't know if this helps, but imagine an early Christmas morning from when you were little and how amazing and beautiful the tree looked the first time you saw it, and how excited you were to see the presents under the tree...
Or...
imagine the fun you had last time you were on a swing, just rocking back and forth, back and forth, without a care in the world...
I'm here if you want to talk..

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Apr 02, 2008 11:43 am

Hi Living.

I think I responed to you on another post that you had almost exactly like this one. I would get mad too if I were him. Either choose your boyfriend or this other guy and be done with it. Of cousres this other guy is going to make it seem as though your relationship with your boyfriend is not good, that's because he want's you. Or want's to fool around with you. I think that if you're sneaking around with this other guy, and hiding it from your boyfriend; you are cheating, in my opinion. But that's just my opinion.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Apr 02, 2008 1:59 pm

One suggestion is to break up with your bf and play the field for a while, date several guys at once, not just one, until you find someone who appeals to you. Finding a good bf or gf and a life partner is a very important decision. For me, dating several girls at the same time worked a lot better than "going steady" like I did in high school and college. Just a thought.