break ups

bubblybrunette · Post by **bubblybrunette** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:43 pm

i just broke up with my boyfriend and i am so upset. he was still really into me, but i know we're just supposed to be friends. i prayed about it and came to that realization,but its still not easy. i hurt him so bad and its killing me. i just want to be cheered up but its definitely sad. any advice on breaking up?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:51 pm

I know what you are going through. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year will be next month, and I have met someone else and it has made things very confusing i know i love my boyfriend and i am soo comfortable with him and i would never want to hurt him. But the way this other guy talks to me and about me is a wa my bf never has, and its hard to think about me not being with him. I have been praying about it and not getting any clear signs. If you know that this guy is only suppose to be your friend then things will be ok. You have to really love someone to be with them and love them unconditionally and take them for who they are if u dont then it will never work, and if its not meant to be he will move on as well

p.s I like your little quote at the end of your forum

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 3:11 pm

Hi Living...

Don't break up with your boyfriend for reasons like that. It sounds like you love him and what that other guy has is only "talk". Who knows if this other guy has something more to offer you, emotionally, than your boyfriend.

"New people" are always going to sound more interesting than the "old" person that you've gotten use to and is comfortable with. It's just the "mystery" that's intriguing, but that only lasts so long.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 3:18 pm

Hi Bubbly...

I don't really know what to say to you about this because you broke up with him. Therefore, you must believe you made the right decision. If you are having a change of mind; let him know.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 4:41 pm

Ok time for a male point of view, I would like to say to living, first I read what you had written and I have been with the same woman for 21 years I new her for three weeks before I married her. I think you know why he is being so romantic he wants to be more than friends, if you are not attempting to sabotage your current relation ship you would have already told this person you were involved and stopped seeing him. Bubbly only you know what is in your hart and how you truly feel, people’s feelings get hurt and we tend to amplify are gilt due to are condition. He will get over you eventually or not but that is not anything you have control over.

Hoping you both look into your harts and are doing the right thing for you.
Phil

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:01 pm

I found this going through another posting and thought this was sage advise.

"Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it."

Phil

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:02 pm

Bubbly,
Let him go, if it was meant to be , it will be in the future.
Keep your chin up, have confidence in your decisions!

Best of luck.

Chrissy

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:30 pm

To DeeDee.Chicago rules I live there to.Do take care,Harry

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Mar 28, 2008 7:00 am

To Harry..

<span class="ev_code_BLUE">YOU KNOW IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!</span>

Welcome neighbor.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Mar 28, 2008 3:10 pm

to philip-

I have told my boyfriend about this other guy. I didnt talk much about what was going on in my last post. I love my boyfriend but i am not sure if i am happy he is 22 and acts like he is younger he sits on this stupid computer game all day long until he starts working again its been cold. But anyways he is not romantic like at all and doesnt talk to me the way i want him to, he doesnt talk mean to me either. I am very comfortable with him and have never been able to stay the night with a guy and not wake up with anxiety until him, I have been living with him for about 6 months now, but I am starting to think it is ruing our relationship. I told this other guy that I could only be friends with him at least for now bc i am not ready to leave my boyfriend