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I just started the program this week, but I am finding it is hard to find time to do it. My husband is supportive, but my 14 yr. old daughter is not. I got the program for me and her to do but all I get is negative from her. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her more interested or to at least get her to let me do it peacefully without more negativity?
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I am a mother of 6, and grandmother of 3, so my house is pretty hectic. I bought headphones and I go into my room and make time for my tapes. I also take them to the gym and listen when I am working out.
I live this motto- If I always do what I have always done, I will always get what I have always gotten. Change is the key!
I have been agrophobic for 25 years and it is time for a change.
I live this motto- If I always do what I have always done, I will always get what I have always gotten. Change is the key!
I have been agrophobic for 25 years and it is time for a change.
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I thikn that the actions speak louder than words adage applies double to teenagers! Take care of yourself Keo...she'll see the difference in you!
I think it was in session 9 that Carolyn talks about having a conversation with her daughter - kind of looking back and feeling guilty (
) for past actions and her daughter told her what a blessing it was to be able to watch that change and to have their mother's example to follow in her strength (sorry - paraphrasing there, Carolyn! 
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Stick to the program for your sake! You'll be amazed at the results...and I think you may be surprised at how your relationship with your daughter grows as well as a result!
Blessings,
Dawn
I think it was in session 9 that Carolyn talks about having a conversation with her daughter - kind of looking back and feeling guilty (
) for past actions and her daughter told her what a blessing it was to be able to watch that change and to have their mother's example to follow in her strength (sorry - paraphrasing there, Carolyn! ).Stick to the program for your sake! You'll be amazed at the results...and I think you may be surprised at how your relationship with your daughter grows as well as a result!
Blessings,
Dawn
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Keo, I just started this program also. I am doing this for myself and my 14 yr. old son. He is always jealous of anything I do alone. About the 2nd lesson he was busting to make me stop-so I had a small meltdown in which I asked him, "So, you want me to quit doing this too?" meaning and he knew what I meant-how many things I have postponed or canceled because he would have an attack over it! Then I told him to -"Forget it, this is something I am going to do for both of us." He stopped short and very surprised Then I had the opportunity to "coach" him through a panic attack and it worked! His attacks always start with-"Mom I need to talk to you RIGHT NOW." It doesn't matter if I am on the phone-dressing-trying to sleep.....So, once he got through his attack listening to me tell him about what to do-he has let up on me.
It sounds to me like you have given alot-alot-of yourself to your family and now you need to get you back-Do it.Sometime, somewhere all this info is going to help you deal with your daughter-so I know you will keep on keeping on.
God Bless you,
Always, Deb ^J^
"Searching for a Rainbow"
Marshall Tucker Band
Then I had the opportunity to "coach" him through a panic attack and it worked! His attacks always start with-"Mom I need to talk to you RIGHT NOW." It doesn't matter if I am on the phone-dressing-trying to sleep.....So, once he got through his attack listening to me tell him about what to do-he has let up on me. It sounds to me like you have given alot-alot-of yourself to your family and now you need to get you back-Do it.Sometime, somewhere all this info is going to help you deal with your daughter-so I know you will keep on keeping on.
God Bless you,
Always, Deb ^J^
"Searching for a Rainbow"
Marshall Tucker Band
Keo,
We have to remember that we are here because of our anxiety, and with anxiety comes negative thoughts. I have an 11 year old son who is extremely negative. Basically, for eleven years he has been living with my negativity. It's all he knows. My mom always used to tell me "children learn what they live." It really is true. What I am saying is yes she is going to be very negative about this because that is probably all she knows. But you can't help her until you help yourself. I am on week 10 this week and I have used some of these strategies with my son. Believe it or not I have noticed a teeny tiny change in him. I'll take that any day over where we used to be. Keep doing the tapes it will be worth it for you and your child. Good luck.
We have to remember that we are here because of our anxiety, and with anxiety comes negative thoughts. I have an 11 year old son who is extremely negative. Basically, for eleven years he has been living with my negativity. It's all he knows. My mom always used to tell me "children learn what they live." It really is true. What I am saying is yes she is going to be very negative about this because that is probably all she knows. But you can't help her until you help yourself. I am on week 10 this week and I have used some of these strategies with my son. Believe it or not I have noticed a teeny tiny change in him. I'll take that any day over where we used to be. Keep doing the tapes it will be worth it for you and your child. Good luck.