Everyone Has Anxiety So Why Am I So Effected By It?

[celeron]

This dawned on me lastnight in bed, I was thinking about friends/relatives/wife and they all have anxiety.

For example when with friends, they have to have a few drinks before going out to relax them a bit because they are anxious, I remember one occasion when we were going to a concert, I was anticipating the worst, my stomach was turning etc, I met up with these guys only to discover they where having the exact same symptoms.

I look at my wife, She gets really anxious before going on long car jourmeys, or if she isn't driving IE is a passenger in the front or back she is the worst, her stomach turns, she has diarrhea etc the same as myself.

Everyone I know gets anxious, yet they just get on with it, why does it effect me so much then?? When I look back about 6 years ago, I was the same, I just got on with it, then I went to see my doctor who diagnosed anxiety and to be honest from that point on my life changed, I started googling, coming on message boards etc and to be honest anxiety has turned into an obsession. Ignorance is bliss when it comes to anxiety. I don't have anxiety 24/7 just the same as a normal person IE when in a crowded place, or going on a car journey which seems to be normal so why am I so effected by it, I have avoidance behaviour but why? I'm not scared of anything, As mentioned I just have normal anxiety levels.

[Guest]

I can't really say why. I feel the same as you though. I am starting to see more than 60% of people i come in contact with have it, they just don't allow it to control their lives. This is a Very good question, hopefully someone will be able to answer it. And maybe help us out!

[Admin_1]

Originally posted by Diggy:
I can't really say why. I feel the same as you though. I am starting to see more than 60% of people i come in contact with have it, they just don't allow it to control their lives. This is a Very good question, hopefully someone will be able to answer it. And maybe help us out!

I know I did have a bout of about 6 months with depersonlisation but that was about 6 years ago unless its that I'm living in fear of subconciously, all I know there is something subconcious stopping me doing things I used to.

To be right I should stop posting and never google or talk about anxiety again, but its became like a hobby almost

[Guest]

I guess the criteria would be if you feel that your anxiety is limiting what you want to do. Some people may not care if it limits their life and just accept the fact some of their dreams or goals won't be met. Other people (like me) know that the anxiety has prevented them from being and feeling happier with themselves. I went to a party a while ago and somehow got on the subject of how stressful life is now. Most people there said they felt they worried too much and would end up scaring themselves with their "what if thoughts." A lot of them were on medication and some of them said they just accepted the fact they would always be nervous. I guess it depends on how badly you feel it is limiting your life and whether you want to do something about it.