Anxiety Disorder is tough for everyone, male or female. It is 1 of the most difficult things I have ever experienced in my life(I'm 39). It requires ALL OF YOU & just when you think you done enough - it requires more.
All told, IF THE PERSON DOESN'T WANT TO CHANGE, IF THE PERSON DOESN'T WANT TO FEEL BETTER - IF THE PERSON DOESN'T WANT TO PUT FORTH THE EFFORT RECOVERY FR ANXIETY DISORDER DICTATES - there is absolutely nothing you can do. He/she is not gonna do it b/4 he/she is ready & there is nothing we can do about it.
LENORE
My son will not start the program
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Guest
I agree with Lenore. You can't make a person do what they don't want to do. They have to help themselves.
My daughter has serious mental health issues, but will not put effort into anything. She says she will, but then backs off. She will even lie and say she tried tapes, medication, books, etc. Later on she admits she didn't. She buys the prescriptions ordered for her, and then doesn't take them, or takes them incorrectly. She is almost 40 and she still doesn't realize people have to help themselves!
It is like an alcoholic. They won't stop drinking until they "want" to. Until there is a reason they want to stop. No one can make another person DO anything.....
My daughter has serious mental health issues, but will not put effort into anything. She says she will, but then backs off. She will even lie and say she tried tapes, medication, books, etc. Later on she admits she didn't. She buys the prescriptions ordered for her, and then doesn't take them, or takes them incorrectly. She is almost 40 and she still doesn't realize people have to help themselves!
It is like an alcoholic. They won't stop drinking until they "want" to. Until there is a reason they want to stop. No one can make another person DO anything.....
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Guest
Thank you so very much, each one of you who has responded to my situation. I certainly appreciate each one of you!
Mshell and Alexis: I have made the decision and commitment to go through the program myself. I told my son I thought I could benefit from it and ask if he would bring the cd's back to me, and he did. I struggle with depression mostly, especially since I lost both my mother and father within the last 8 months. I started the first session this week and already feel better. I have realized recently a lot about myself and how I have passed some of this on to my son, so I am dealing with the guilt of that. But the past is the past, and I cannot change it. I can only better myself and make the future better and not make the same mistakes. I need mostly to learn how to let go of my control issues, and, like a few of you said, he will change when he is ready and there is absolutely nothing I can do to about that (no matter how hard I try!!!).
He new I started the program, and I said nothing about it to him. As they say, "curiousity got the cat", because he actually asked me how the program was going for me today!!! And I think he was intrigued about what I had to say... so hopefully that's a start in the right direction, huh?
Anyway, again, I appreciate every one of you who took the time and effort to respond. My best wishes to all of you and your successful progress!
Mshell and Alexis: I have made the decision and commitment to go through the program myself. I told my son I thought I could benefit from it and ask if he would bring the cd's back to me, and he did. I struggle with depression mostly, especially since I lost both my mother and father within the last 8 months. I started the first session this week and already feel better. I have realized recently a lot about myself and how I have passed some of this on to my son, so I am dealing with the guilt of that. But the past is the past, and I cannot change it. I can only better myself and make the future better and not make the same mistakes. I need mostly to learn how to let go of my control issues, and, like a few of you said, he will change when he is ready and there is absolutely nothing I can do to about that (no matter how hard I try!!!).
He new I started the program, and I said nothing about it to him. As they say, "curiousity got the cat", because he actually asked me how the program was going for me today!!! And I think he was intrigued about what I had to say... so hopefully that's a start in the right direction, huh?
Anyway, again, I appreciate every one of you who took the time and effort to respond. My best wishes to all of you and your successful progress!